Let’s Talk About the Dreaded P Word. Yep. Perimenopause.

Rage Bait: Where rage comes from and how to handle it

Over wine, two friends discuss feeling unusually ragey—possibly from perimenopause, aging, or accumulated unmet needs—and swap pet peeves like Dollar General checkout lines, commuting, loud trucks, mouth breathing, bad driving, and kids loading dishwashers wrong. They connect rage to grief, scarcity, and carrying invisible labor, and describe setting firmer boundaries with kids, exes, and others (including consequences for a lost school laptop). They share tools like therapy language, pausing conversations, and breathing to regulate the nervous system.

Aging, Confidence, and Living Alively

Tonya and Erin unpack how “anti-aging” instantly signals products, wrinkles, and procedures—especially for women—while men are praised as “distinguished.” They argue the term is an impossible, anxiety-producing goal fueled by a massive industry and decades of exclusionary beauty marketing. Instead, they reframe anti-aging as aging well: movement (even walking), sleep, hydration, body check-ins, budget-friendly habits, and flipping negative self-talk toward gratitude, strength, mobility, and mental health. They end with a prompt from Jen Hatmaker’s “Awake”: recall a time you felt beautiful that didn’t involve a mirror.

Let’s Talk About the Dreaded P Word. Yep. Perimenopause.

Perimenopause is the dreaded “P word” no one warned women 35+ about, and Tonya and Erin break down why it can feel like you’re losing your mind when it’s really your hormones shifting for 4–10 years before menopause (which is officially 12 months without a period). They share their own wake-up calls—hot flashes, night sweats, 3 a.m. wake-ups, rage, anxiety, brain fog/word loss, body changes, GI issues, joint pain and even frozen shoulder—plus how often doctors dismiss it as stress and how little training and research exists. This episode is a table-talk reality check that you’re not broken, you’re not “just dramatic,” and you don’t have to white-knuckle it: track patterns, advocate for yourself, adjust expectations, consider women’s health specialists, and start finding what actually helps.

Is This It? What the Hell is HGL?

Tonya and Erin kick off Hella Good Livin, a podcast for women 35+ who feel exhausted, emotional, a little ragey, and like they’re questioning everything, and they remind you you’re not broken, you’re probably just in the hormone-and-life-shift years. Both 52 and longtime friends since kindergarten, they share what life looks like now: divorce, dating (or trying), kids (teen boys and empty-nest daughters), aging parents, long-term relationships, work, health scares, grief, and that “what’s next?” feeling. They’re here for the messy middle, think perimenopause, boundaries, relationships, and the stuff no one warned us about, with honesty, humor, research, and real tools. No toxic positivity, no guru energy, just short, manageable episodes that feel like you’re sitting at the table with them.