#77 - Howard Minor // Identity, Upbringing, and the “Bag of Dice”

Why So Many People Are Leaving Life on the Table | John Salzwedel

Why do so many people feel unfulfilled, even when they’re doing everything they’re “supposed” to do? And what does it actually mean to live a life that feels like your own? In this conversation, Giuliano sits down with John Salzwedel, coach, speaker, and author of STOP Leaving Life on the Table, to explore why so many people feel stuck, disconnected, or like they’re simply going through the motions of life. John spent nearly three decades in the insurance industry before stepping away to pursue work that felt more aligned with who he had become. That decision serves as a launching point for a conversation about purpose, fulfillment, responsibility, and the difference between living intentionally versus living according to expectations that were handed to us by family, culture, religion, work, or society. Together, they discuss why modern life often leaves people overwhelmed by problems they have little control over, how social media and algorithms can distort our perception of reality, and why carrying the weight of the entire world may be keeping people from fully engaging with their own lives. The conversation explores the tension between caring about what’s happening around us while still taking responsibility for our own experience, relationships, priorities, and personal growth. They also dive into the idea of “leaving life on the table,” a concept inspired by the business phrase “leaving money on the table,” and examine how people often sacrifice experiences, dreams, opportunities, and fulfillment without even realizing it. Along the way, they explore work-life balance, the importance of identifying what truly matters, why many people struggle to feel aligned with their own values, and how small decisions can create major shifts over time. This is ultimately a conversation about perspective. About recognizing that life isn’t something to simply endure until the weekend arrives. It’s something to participate in. Something to experience. Something to engage with while we still have the chance. Whether you're feeling stuck, questioning your direction, struggling to find fulfillment, or simply looking for a different way to think about what it means to live a good life, this conversation offers plenty to reflect on. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://www.thecoach.vip/podcast [https://www.thecoach.vip/podcast] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠ [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠] Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/ [https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay the creator a commission.

Can Human Design Actually Help You Make More Money? | Hannah Becker

Most people build their business by following someone else's blueprint. They find a successful entrepreneur, copy the strategy, follow the steps, and hope for the same result. But what if the reason it worked for that person is because it was aligned with who they are... and not necessarily with who you are? In this episode, business strategist Hannah Becker breaks down Human Design and explains why understanding yourself may be one of the most overlooked business advantages available. Hannah combines traditional business strategy with Human Design to help entrepreneurs create businesses that feel aligned while still producing meaningful financial results. The conversation explores what Human Design actually is, why Hannah was initially skeptical of it, and how it eventually became a framework she now uses both personally and professionally. Topics include intuition versus logic, why some people thrive following proven systems while others burn out trying to force themselves into someone else's model, and whether trusting yourself can sometimes produce better results than following conventional advice. The discussion also branches into personality frameworks, spirituality, religion, manifestation, personal agency, and the role beliefs play in shaping the way reality is experienced. Hannah shares how Human Design influenced her approach to decision-making, relationships, health, business, and wealth creation, while also offering a perspective that doesn't require blind belief or spiritual certainty to find value in the framework. Specific Human Design concepts are explored throughout the conversation, including generators, manifesting generators, authority, alignment, networking, visibility, and why certain sales strategies may feel natural for one person but completely draining for another. The episode also examines the difference between forcing success and creating it through a business model that feels more natural and sustainable. Whether you're deeply interested in Human Design, completely skeptical of it, or simply curious about the connection between self-awareness and success, this conversation offers an honest exploration of identity, fulfillment, business, and what it means to trust yourself in a world full of competing advice. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://www.threads.com/@_thehannahbecker [https://www.threads.com/@_thehannahbecker] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno] Get the book: https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/ [https://www.amazon.com/How-Be-Person-Gems-Living/dp/B0H155R7JL/] Business funding: https://funding.howtobeaperson.co [https://funding.howtobeaperson.co] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay me a commission.

Internal Family Systems, Shadow Work, and Human Darkness | Tina Estrella

What happens when the parts of yourself you’re trying hardest to suppress are actually the parts running your life? In this episode, Giuliano sits down with Existential Kink coach and Internal Family Systems practitioner Tina Estrella for a conversation about shadow work, self-sabotage, nervous systems, trauma patterns, and the darker sides of human psychology that most people avoid talking about openly. The conversation explores the core ideas behind Internal Family Systems (IFS), including the concept that we’re not just one singular personality, but a collection of “parts” shaped by childhood experiences, emotional survival, fear, desire, shame, protection, and conditioning. Tina explains how many of the behaviors people consciously want to stop (procrastination, addiction, toxic relationship patterns, emotional shutdown, self-sabotage, rage, insecurity, people-pleasing, even destructive impulses) may actually be unconscious strategies designed to create safety, belonging, or control. Giuliano and Tina also get into the idea of “Existential Kink,” which suggests that some part of us may unconsciously enjoy or identify with the very patterns we say we want to escape. That leads into a much larger conversation about human darkness, repression, shadow integration, religion, social conditioning, trauma, BDSM, nervous system regulation, and why trying to become a purely “good” person may actually create more fragmentation internally instead of less. The second half of the conversation moves into topics most people are too uncomfortable to discuss publicly. They explore how shame, suppression, and disowned parts of the psyche can distort human behavior, including conversations around addiction, violence, sexual pathology, and collective outrage culture online. Rather than approaching these subjects from a simplistic “good vs bad” lens, the episode looks at the deeper psychological mechanisms underneath destructive behavior and why honest conversations around human nature matter. The episode also touches on feminism, patriarchy, social media discourse, collective nervous system dysregulation, communication breakdowns online, and the growing tendency for people to reduce nuanced conversations into black-and-white thinking. This is one of those conversations that gets philosophical, psychological, uncomfortable at times… and very human. Whether you’re already familiar with Internal Family Systems and shadow work or hearing these ideas for the first time, this episode will probably challenge the way you think about identity, healing, accountability, and the hidden parts of yourself that may be shaping your life more than you realize. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://linktr.ee/tinaestrella [https://linktr.ee/tinaestrella] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno] Life insurance: ⁠https://life.howtobeaperson.co [https://life.howtobeaperson.co] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay me a commission.

The Internet Is Rewiring Human Relationships | John Kai Wallis

Why does the internet make people feel more divided, more suspicious of each other, and more disconnected from real human connection? And what happens when online identity starts replacing real-life experience? In this conversation, Giuliano sits down with relationship mentor John Kai Wallis to unpack the hidden psychological forces shaping modern relationships, online culture, identity, trauma, and the way social media is influencing how we see each other. What starts as a conversation about a Threads comment quickly turns into a much deeper exploration of echo chambers, ideology, parenting, emotional safety, dating culture, and the human need to belong to something bigger than ourselves. John shares his perspective on “The Love Map,” the unconscious emotional blueprint that shapes who we’re attracted to, what feels familiar in relationships, and why so many people unknowingly repeat the same painful patterns over and over again. The conversation explores how childhood experiences, unresolved emotional wounds, and online reinforcement loops can distort the way people view intimacy, men, women, and even humanity itself. They also talk about the growing divide between online interactions and real-life human connection, why social media algorithms seem to reward outrage and tribalism, and how many people are building entire identities around ideological movements without realizing it. Giuliano and John discuss modern dating culture, the psychology behind internet dogpiling and blocking culture, why people become emotionally attached to certain beliefs, and what happens when disagreement starts feeling like a personal threat. The conversation eventually moves into parenting, emotional regulation, trauma, and the pressure modern parents feel to “do everything right.” Giuliano opens up about becoming a father, while John shares his thoughts on presence, repair, and why raising emotionally resilient children may have less to do with perfect techniques and more to do with authenticity, emotional honesty, and allowing kids to fully become themselves. This episode is thoughtful, philosophical, deeply human, and filled with the kind of honest conversation that feels increasingly rare online. And if you enjoy this episode, hit subscribe to drop in on more of these conversations. https://www.instagram.com/johnkaiwallis/ [https://www.instagram.com/johnkaiwallis/] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co [https://howtobeaperson.co] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠ [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno⁠] Life insurance: ⁠https://life.howtobeaperson.co [https://life.howtobeaperson.co] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay me a commission.

The Personality Framework That’s Stayed Relevant for 20 Years | Marita Littauer

Most personality tests tell you who you are. This conversation with Marita Littauer explores what to actually do with that information. Marita is the author of Wired That Way, a personality framework that has remained relevant for more than 20 years in a world where most self-help trends disappear almost overnight. In this episode, she breaks down the four core personality types, why people are naturally drawn to their opposites, and how understanding personality differences can completely change the way we approach relationships, communication, marriage, parenting, and even work. The conversation also dives into the surprising history behind the framework itself. Marita shares how her father created the original personality profile nearly 60 years ago, how her mother Florence Littauer helped popularize the concept through speaking and writing, and how growing up around that world shaped her own work as an author and speaker. She also reflects on writing 20 books, the evolution of publishing, why so many self-published books fail to find an audience, and why speaking about your ideas before writing about them may be one of the smartest things an aspiring author can do. Along the way, there’s a bigger conversation underneath all of it: the idea that many relationship problems come from expecting other people to think, feel, communicate, and respond exactly the way we do. Instead of trying to change people, Marita argues that understanding them better is often the key to stronger relationships. The episode touches on personality tests like Myers-Briggs, DISC, and the Enneagram, but also challenges one of the biggest problems with personality frameworks in general: using them as excuses instead of tools for growth. Marita explains why awareness matters, why strengths and weaknesses exist within every personality type, and why maturity is ultimately more important than personality itself. This is a conversation about self-awareness, human differences, emotional needs, communication, relationships, personal growth, and the strange reality that people can spend decades trying to change each other instead of simply learning to understand one another. https://thepersonalities.com/ [https://thepersonalities.com/] How to Be a Person: ⁠https://howtobeaperson.co/⁠ [https://howtobeaperson.co/⁠] Peaceful Profits: https://author.howtobeaperson.co/ [https://author.howtobeaperson.co/] Support the show: ⁠https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno [https://buymeacoffee.com/jewleeahno] Want to be a guest on How to Be a Person? Send Giuliano Grimaudo a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b [https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17374246500089236b5dfbb6b] Please note: Links may be affiliated and may pay me a commission.