Jefferson Fisher: Communication That Changes Us

Tim Harris: Hugging the World Back Together

What if the most powerful thing you could offer the world wasn't your résumé or achievements, but simply your presence and a hug?   Tim Harris is an entrepreneur, philanthropist, Special Olympics athlete, author of The Book of Hugs, host of the Big Heart Talks with Tim podcast, and founder of Tim's Big Heart Foundation. Raised in Albuquerque, Tim built a life around one belief: love, kindness, and connection can change everything. He ran Tim's Place: Breakfast, Lunch & Hugs, greeting every guest at the front door — all while living with Down syndrome, not in spite of who he is, but because of it.   In this conversation, Tim shares about his seven steps to anawesome life, what he told a worried father whose baby would be born with Down syndrome, and why hugs are the best medicine in the world. Miles and Tim talk about their love of country music and feature a special performance of a countryclassic. These new best friends cover it all before Tim’s 5 o’clock flight home.   In this conversation, you'll learn: * How to be the light instead of complaining about thedarkness * How to use your superpower to lift someone in their hardest moment * How to dream something and then do the work to make it real * How friendship becomes the foundation for everything worth building * How to lead with love in every room you walk into * How kindness attracts more kindness back into your life * How to grieve loss while still showing up for the world * How asking first makes connection stronger * How to recognize the gift in people that the world underestimates * How to love someone for a thousand years, starting today   Human School is powered by the work happening at Onsite, a place where people step out of their normal rhythms to do deeper healing work in community. Learn more here. [https://hubs.la/Q04hzJPk0]   Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast [https://hubs.la/Q04hzJQ70] Instagram - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04hzK4d0] Threads - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04hzK180] TikTok - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04hzKfy0]   More from Tim:Book Tim to Speak in your Community [https://timsbigheart.org/work-with-tim] Listen to Tim's Podcast [Listen to Tim's Podcast] Follow Tim on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/timsbigheart]   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 – Meet Tim Harris 00:03:02 – Country music fan since 13: Garth Brooks, Josh Turner & the deep cuts 00:05:20 – Nashville coffee taste test 00:10:39 – Tim's Big Heart Foundation 00:13:42 – "Oh, yeah": the trademark and how his dad gave him the hype 00:14:25 – Tim’s 7 steps to an awesome life 00:16:05 – Tim's Place: Breakfast, Lunch & Hugs 00:21:36 – Special Olympics USA Games Athlete: representing New Mexico 00:26:55 – The Book of Hugs: monkeys, bananas, and the world's biggest softie 00:30:21 – "Hugs are the best medicine to heal the world" 00:39:25 – Grief and the friend who gave his book away before he passed 00:43:14 – Speed dating, proposals, and dreaming about love 00:44:57 – A special performance from Tim & Miles 00:51:09 – Meeting Reba McEntire on the job 01:02:28 – World Down Syndrome Day and Tim Tebow's Night to Shine 01:13:41 – Emcee at the World Games & Hugging the Obamas 01:18:21 – "We should love each other for a thousand years" 01:19:03 - Tim makes Miles his new best friend — officially 01:21:33 - Tim McGraw reached out about "Humble and Kind" 01:23:01 - Nashville boots, cowboy hat, and a human school gift

Mary Bellofatto: What Happens When People Feel Truly Seen

Have you ever met someone who spent 50 years healing others and somehow became more human with every one of those years? What would it mean to stop hiding behind your busyness, your title, or your phone, and let someone actually see you?   Mary Bellofatto is a pioneer in mental health who has spent five decades walking the hardest terrain human experience offers — trauma, disordered eating, addiction, grief, and couples work. With deep mastery in psychodrama, she has brought healing to therapy rooms across the world. At 81, she still wakes up excited, tears up at the thought of never retiring, and gets out of Ubers last because someone needs to finish their story.   In this conversation, Mary opens up about what it means to be a catalyst without burning out, why loneliness is cured by learning to be alone, and how shame shields the grief we won't feel. She shares the moment a young man in Uganda said, "I'm just a boy," and freed himself from years of soldiers' shame. Miles and Mary go deep into disordered eating, including what she said in a bathroom that finally unlocked the real story underneath. Eighty years of hard-won wisdom, delivered with Arkansas common sense and lack of clinical jargon.   In this conversation, you'll learn: * How to Be a Catalyst Without Losing Yourself * How Loneliness Can Be Cured by Learning to Be Alone * How Shame Functions as a Shield for Unprocessed Grief * How to Widen Your Definition of Grief Beyond Loss * How the Stories We Tell Ourselves Build a Lifetime Around a Lie * How Psychodrama Unlocks What Talk Therapy Can't Reach * How to Hold Space Without Trying to Fix Anyone * How to Recognize When Busyness Is a Medicator * How Disordered Eating Is Really About Dignity * How to Live Your Legacy Right Now — Not Someday   Human School is powered by the work happening at Onsite, a place where people step out of their normal rhythms to do deeper healing work in community. Learn more at ⁠⁠experienceonsite.com⁠ [https://hubs.la/Q04gSYlk0]. Learn more about the Pastor's Living Centered Program through The Onsite Foundation at theonsitefoundation.org [https://www.theonsitefoundation.org/pastors-living-centered]. Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast [https://hubs.la/Q04gSZ6q0] Instagram - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04gSZhg0] Threads - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04gSZLS0] TikTok - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04gS_2b0]   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 - Meet Mary Bellofatto 00:04:31 - The Currency of Miracles 00:05:55 - How to Hold Space Without Fixing Anyone 00:09:37 - Wounded in Relationship, Healed in Relationship 00:09:10 - The Airport Wave That Said Everything 00:10:54 - Tears Are Actually Talking 00:12:30 - Why Strangers Always Pour Their Stories Out to Her 00:13:53 - Hugging Your Uber Drivers 00:20:04 - What We Miss When We Hide Behind Technology 00:21:52 - Grief in the Coffee Aisle 00:23:22 - What Hurry Is Really Running From 00:25:19 - Loneliness and the Courage to Be Alone 00:26:44 - Shame Is the Shield 00:29:57 - The Many Faces of Grief 00:32:11 A - Country That Stopped Grieving 00:40:18 - Does Kindness Still Work? 00:43:06 - Trauma Is… 00:44:18 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves vs What We Hear 00:48:32 - How Mary Walks into a Room Full of Strangers 00:52:11 14 - Years of Monthly Psychodrama Training 01:00:38 - The Child Soldiers of Uganda 01:03:37 - Rwanda After the Genocide 01:05:02 - The Brain When People Move Their Bodies 01:13:44 - Wisdom from 53 Years of Marriage 01:22:27 - Disordered Eating Is Not Like Any Other Addiction 01:35:58 - Mary Doubles for Miles Live, On Air 01:41:19 - Legacy is the Now 01:48:22 - Words to the World Right Now 01:54:04 - Pastor’s Living Centered Program at Onsite 01:55:08 - Five Grammy Moments from Mile’s North Star

Thomas Rhett: The Pressure to Get It "Right"

Have you ever stood in the middle of a life that looks great on paper and still felt like you were failing the people right in front of you? What if being hard on yourself isn't humility?  It's just the long way around to never believing you're enough? And what happens when the same obsessive drive that makes you world-class at your craft is the exact thing that makes it hard to just sit down and watch your kid eat cereal slowly?   Miles sits down with his longtime friend for one of the most honest and wide-open episodes yet. Thomas Rhett brings all of himself — the songwriter who goes all in on everything he loves, the dad of five learning to trade productivity for presence, and the man doing the real work to make sure who his family experiences every day is the same person the world admires from a distance. This one is full of laughter, hard-won wisdom, and the kind of honesty that only happens between two people who genuinely trust each other.   This conversation is about the guy who flips on the bedroom lights at 6:30 AM, trying to get five kids out the door, and wonders on the drive home if he loved them well at all that morning. The man who told a new friend upfront, "I'm not a good friend" — and actually believed it. The songwriter who can make strangers cry but struggles to list three ways he was showing up for his own kids. Miles and Thomas Rhett go deep into what it actually looks like to chase congruence, to be as present and real inside your home as you are when the world is watching.   Thomas Rhett shares what his first trip to Onsite taught him about letting go, how a simple question from his counselor cracked something open about the way he sees himself as a father, why he's writing his most intentional album yet, and what he hopes his kids say about him long after the number ones stop counting.   In this conversation, you'll learn: * How to Stop Measuring Your Worth by Rooms That Aren't Full * How to Ask the Question: "How Do I Know I'm a Great Father?" * How to Parent Five Kids Completely Differently Without Losing Your Mind * How to Shed Your Stage Persona the Moment You Walk Through Your Front Door * How to Redefine Success So You Can Actually Sleep at Night * How to Have the Friendship You Want Instead of the One You've Labeled Yourself With * How to Live Like You Know You're Going to Die - Ecclesiastes edition * How to Stop Fixing and Start Being Present in the Mess * How to Give Yourself the Dugout Grace Every Parent Desperately Needs * How to Use Your Obsessive Nature as a Superpower Instead of a Trap   Human School is powered by the work happening at Onsite, a place where people step out of their normal rhythms to do deeper healing work in community. Learn more: ⁠experienceonsite.com⁠ [https://hubs.la/Q04fGT2q0]. Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast [https://hubs.la/Q04fGTsb0] Instagram - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04fGTHg0] Threads - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04fGT-00] TikTok - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04fGV5X0]   Chapters: 00:00:00 – Meet Thomas Rhett Akins 00:03:18 – Trucks, Gear & Going All In 00:07:54 – Soundtrack of the Masters: A Career Highlight 00:09:29 – Golf is a Metaphor for Life 00:17:44 – Tiger Wood’s & Nick Saben’s Life Advice 00:22:01 – The 6:30 AM Spiral with Five Kids 00:24:17 – Wisdom from John Maxwell & Worst-Case Scenarios 00:28:19 – The Question That Started This Friendship 00:30:14 – What Raising Four Daughters is Teaching Him 00:35:49 – The Discipline of Being Present 00:41:23 – Work-Life Balance Is a Myth 00:42:37 – "They Just Need to See Your Eyes" 00:47:10 – What Breaks His Heart Most as a Dad 00:52:07 – "How Do You Know You're a Great Father?" 00:54:10 – The Coach’s Influence Still Impacting Him 00:55:14 – Showing Up in Friendships 00:58:01 – The Round Table & A, B & C Friendships 01:04:10 – Answering the “Great Father” Question 01:20:30 – Ecclesiastes & Living Like You're Going to Die 01:37:44 – Redefining What a “Hit” Actually Means 01:43:32 – Onsite & The Rock in the River 01:47:52 – 36-Year-Old TR Would Tell 25-Year-Old TR 01:52:49 – What He Hopes His Kids Will Remember

Jefferson Fisher: Communication That Changes Us

Stuck in the same emotional patterns? Onsite's LivingCentered Program is a five-day intensive that helps you slow down, go deeper, and do the inner work that changes things. Learn more at ⁠https://hubs.la/Q04dV_Xl0 [https://hubs.la/Q04dV_Xl0]   Have you ever taught others how to communicate, but still lost it in your own kitchen?   What if the best communicators in the world are still works in progress, and that's exactly the point?   Jefferson Fisher is a board-certified trial attorney, NY Times bestselling author of The Next Conversation, and one of themost-followed voices on communication online. Behind the millions of views is a husband, a dad, and a fifth-generation attorney from small-town Texas still figuring it out in real time. In this conversation, Miles and Jefferson get into the real stuff — a flooded house, a morning fight, imposter syndrome, and why even the best communicators still have to earn their reps every day.   Jefferson opens up about the moment being a public-facing person started changing his everyday life, why going to extremes in arguments almost never works, and the phrase his wife came up with mid-argument that changed how he sees conflict. Miles shares a raw moment from his kitchen and what happened when he finally stopped doubling down and let his wife bring the temperature down.   In this conversation, you'll learn: * How to Enter Hard Conversations with Something to Learn, Not Something to Prove * How the Ignition and Cooling Phases Work in Real Arguments * Why Affirming a Feeling First Is the Most Disarming Move You Can Make * How Vulnerability Builds More Trust Than Any Credential on the Wall * How to Stop Going to Extremes in Conflict and What to Do Instead * Why the Best at Being Human Learn It From Living, Not Studying * How to Tell the Difference Between a Reaction and a Repair * How Fame Makes the Very Things You Teach Harder to Practice * Why What's Good for the Family Is Good for the Business * How to Let Go of the Conversation You Had Scripted in Your Head Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast [https://hubs.la/Q04dW0Hq0] Instagram - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04dW0SZ0] Threads - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04dW1jw0] TikTok - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04dW1CP0]   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 - Meet Jefferson Fisher 00:03:54 - What law school doesn’t teach 00:04:42 - How a trial attorney became a communication voice 00:06:09 - Small Town Silsby, Texas 00:08:14 - 800 friends to millions of strangers 00:10:24 - Contrast is the unlock for building an audience 00:27:17 - IBC Root Beer & A Story Told Twice 00:12:33 - His Dad Raised Him with Questions, not Answers 00:19:57 - Imposter Syndrome feels different when your job istalking 00:23:42 - Does he actually use any of this at home? 00:29:18 - Miles's morning: A flooded house, a fight, and arepair 00:38:08 - Ignition and cooling phases in action 00:39:51 - The one move that stops almost any argument 00:45:08 - One Take Videos: Just being Real on Camera 00:47:45 - Have something to learn, not something to prove 00:53:33 - Surrender as a daily practice 00:57:19 - Even the experts are still chasing the tools theyteach 01:01:48 - Why therapists send clients Jefferson's book 01:06:41 - What Jefferson doesn't like about therapy 01:14:26 - ‘Either way, it's good’— the phrase that reframed conflict 01:15:39 - Embarrassment makes men double down instead of own it 01:19:38 - Jefferson’s Motto on Choosing What’s Next 01:21:05 - Projects in the works from Jefferson

Bob Goff: What It Feels Like to Be You Right Now

Stuck in the same emotional patterns? Onsite's Living Centered Program is a five-day intensive that helps you slow down, go deeper, and do the inner work that changes things. Learn more at experienceonsite.com [https://hubs.la/Q04d5d2l0]   What if the most meaningful thing you ever did wasn't whatmade you famous, but who you showed up for when nobody was watching?   What if the key to getting unstuck isn't adding more to yourlife, but having the courage to quit something on a Thursday?   Bob Goff — NYT bestselling author, founder of Love Does, andhonorary consul to Uganda — joins Miles Adcox for one of the most honest conversations in Human School history. These two have traveled conflict zones together, worked with San Quentin, and called each other in the gutted middle-of-the-night moments real friendships are made of.   Bob opens up about walking away from law, stepping back fromspeaking, and handing over the nonprofit, he literally wrote the book on. He shares the four lies he tells himself daily and why naming them changed everything. He tells the story of Kabi — a Ugandan witch doctor convicted of child sacrifice — whom Bob prosecuted, befriended on death row, and watched transform an entire prison. They go deep on finding your "eight," the epidemic of loneliness, and why so many of us are surrounded by acquaintances but starving for real friendship.   In this conversation, you'll learn: * How to Use Context to Replace Judgment Before It Costs You a Relationship * How to Know the Difference Between Self-Aware andSelf-Absorbed * How to Find Your Eight and Stop Mistaking Acquaintances for Friends * How to Quit Something Every Thursday and Why It's the Most Freeing Practice * How to Stop Freeze-Framing People in Their Worst Moment * How to Replace "How Are You" with a Question ThatOpens a Door * How to Recognize Your Tells and What They're ReallyProtecting * How to Catch Someone on the Bounce After the Crater * How to Connect Your Why Before You Make the Move * How to Show Up for the Hard-to-Love Without an Agenda   Follow Human School: YouTube - Human School Podcast [https://hubs.la/Q04d5dJf0] Instagram - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04d5dSL0] Threads - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04d5f1v0] TikTok - @humanschoolofficial [https://hubs.la/Q04d5fDQ0]   What We Discuss: 00:00:00 Meet Bob Goff 00:05:04 What San Quentin Taught Him About Context andJudgment 00:07:24 17 Counts of Armed Robbery, an Xbox, and $1,100Total Haul 00:11:44 Knowing Your Tells 00:12:11 Guide vs. Sherpa: How Onsite Does It Differently 00:13:17 Self-Aware vs. Self-Absorbed 00:15:57 Choosing to Be Misunderstood 00:22:03 A Hot Pink Castle and Grandparents Who Were NutsAbout Him 00:23:41 Stop Asking “How Are You?” 00:28:52 The Loneliness Epidemic 00:30:59 The Polaroid Problem —Hesitating to Make the Call 00:36:50 Your “Eight” Relationships 00:37:56 Four Lies Bob Tells Himself and the Audit ThatExposes Them 00:44:58 Setbacks Aren't Campsites 00:45:36 Quitting His Own Law Firm Without Explanation 00:46:10 Quit Something Every Thursday 00:58:45 12 Daily Disneyland Tickets and What They Reveal 01:05:19 If Your Brain Can See Itself, It Can Heal Itself 01:10:33 How Bob Got Six Giraffes from a President 01:19:30 Catching People on the Bounce 01:25:32 The Story of Kabi 01:35:30 The Most Surprising Thing About Great Friendship