I'm Figuring It Out As I Go (And That's the Point)

Your Dreams Should Scare You

In this short episode, I talk about why the dreams that scare us the most are often the ones we’re meant to pursue. As I prepare for the first Niyah Network event, Creator Catalyst, I reflect on how much I’ve grown through the process of building something that once felt bigger than me. If you’ve ever felt nervous about chasing a big vision, this conversation is for you.

Why Rest Feels Wrong for Ambitious People

Most ambitious people don’t struggle with motivation. They struggle with slowing down. In this episode of I Am Not My Hair, I talk about the uncomfortable feeling many of us experience when we’re not working, building, or chasing the next goal. For years I’ve been in constant “go mode,” working toward the next milestone, the next version of myself, the next level. But recently I started asking a deeper question: Why does rest sometimes feel wrong? As I’m about to turn 23, I’ve been reflecting on how long I’ve been in this mindset of always pushing forward. And I realized something important — sometimes rushing isn’t ambition. Sometimes it’s control. In this conversation we talk about: • Why ambitious people often feel guilty when they slow down • How constant productivity can actually be a form of control • The difference between healthy ambition and anxiety disguised as work • What happens when your nervous system never leaves “go mode” • Learning to trust timing instead of forcing everything Some questions worth asking yourself: What am I afraid will happen if I slow down? Who taught me that I always have to be working? What am I running from? Maybe success isn’t about getting there faster. Maybe it’s about building a life you’re actually present enough to experience. If this resonates with you, let me know in the comments. What are you learning to slow down in?

If Your Dream Disappeared Tomorrow, Who Would You Be?

What happens when the one thing you built your entire identity around gets taken away?In this episode of I Am Not My Hair, we’re talking about what it really means to detach your self-worth from your goals. From athletes who struggle after injury, to creators who spiral when engagement drops, to my own experience losing my hair after modeling — this conversation is about identity.There’s a difference between who you ARE and what you EXPRESS yourself through.Your career is a role.Your platform is a tool.Your goals are chapters — not your name.We dive into:• Why over-identifying with success can trap you in a box• The BE → DO → HAVE mindset shift• How to detach performance from self-worth• Why grieving old versions of yourself is part of growthIf your dream disappeared tomorrow… would you still know who you are?Let me know your thoughts in the comments. Who are you beyond your title?

I'm Figuring It Out As I Go (And That's the Point)

I started a podcast without a studio. I'm recording this in my car. And honestly? That's kind of the whole point. Let's talk about chasing your goals before you feel ready — and what you actually gain when you do.

Community Is the Cheat Code for Creators | A Conversation with Kay ft. Grey

In this 20-minute conversation, Kay and I talk about the real experiences creators go through — from self-doubt to pressure to comparison — and why community makes all the difference. Building can feel isolating, but the right people around you can change everything. If you’re on your creative journey, this episode is your reminder that you don’t have to do it alone. Subscribe, leave a review, and share with a fellow creator.