The Urge to Fix How People See You And How To Let Go Of It

What Is Wrong With Me — The Most Painful Story You Carry

In this episode, Martina dives into one of the most painful conclusions many women quietly carry: not that something bad happened to them — but that something is fundamentally wrong with them. When we get triggered, jealous, disappointed, rejected, or insecure, many of us don’t just feel emotions — we turn them into identity.  Martina unpacks why that happens, what attachment and nervous system learning have to do with it, and how to stop abandoning yourself when difficult emotions show up. Inside this episode: • why triggers often activate old attachment wounds — not just present-day problems • how emotions like jealousy, disappointment, and insecurity become “proof” that something is wrong with you • what self-abandonment actually looks like during emotional spirals • practical tools to separate feelings from identity and stay grounded when you’re activated This is a raw, honest conversation about emotional triggers, shame spirals, nervous system responses, and learning how to stay on your own side — especially when it feels hardest. Got a thought, reaction, or moment this episode stirred up? Send me a note. I read every message — and sometimes they shape future episodes. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2387743/fan_mail/new] Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical [https://www.instagram.com/femmagical/] for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more! Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode. Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you. Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

When Their Win Feels Like Proof You’re Falling Behind

In this episode, Martina dives into the uncomfortable truth of how you hold yourself when someone else is winning, and your life feels like it’s in a void, a pause, or a season of uncertainty. This is not about “be happy for others” advice. It’s about what actually happens inside you when comparison hits your nervous system and you’re trying not to lose yourself in it. Inside the episode:  • watching others win while you feel stuck or unclear  • the emotional shock of “their yes vs your not yet”  • why void seasons make comparison louder and more intense  • how shame makes jealousy worse and more toxic  • staying kind, grounded, and in integrity while you’re triggered A raw, honest exploration of how to stay emotionally anchored when life feels unfair, uncertain, or painfully slow — without disconnecting from your own truth or turning bitter in the process. Got a thought, reaction, or moment this episode stirred up? Send me a note. I read every message — and sometimes they shape future episodes. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2387743/fan_mail/new] Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical [https://www.instagram.com/femmagical/] for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more! Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode. Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you. Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

The Urge to Fix How People See You And How To Let Go Of It

Why does it feel so uncomfortable when someone completely misunderstands you? In this episode, Martina dives into the emotional tension behind being misread, mislabeled, or emotionally reduced by other people — and why we often feel such a strong urge to correct their perception of us. After receiving a message from an old acquaintance that deeply triggered her, Martina explores the psychology of identity, emotional boundaries, social perception, and the exhausting need to explain ourselves to people who don’t truly see us. Inside this episode: *  Why being misunderstood can feel so emotionally activating  *  The psychology behind wanting to “correct” people’s perception of you  *  “Identity freezing” and why people struggle to update their view of you  *  The hidden emotional labor of overexplaining yourself  *  Why not everyone deserves emotional access to you  *  The freedom that comes when you stop trying to manage how others see you  This episode is honest, reflective, psychologically deep, and full of those “wait… that’s exactly how I feel” moments. If you’ve ever felt irritated by someone confidently getting you completely wrong — this one is for you. Got a thought, reaction, or moment this episode stirred up? Send me a note. I read every message — and sometimes they shape future episodes. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2387743/fan_mail/new] Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical [https://www.instagram.com/femmagical/] for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more! Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode. Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you. Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

Access Denied: Why I Revoked Emotional Access to Me— And You Can Too

In today’s episode, Martina shares a personal moment that turned into a powerful reflection on identity, growth, and something we don’t talk about enough: The people who keep you in your past. After receiving a message from someone who casually described her former self as “depressed and burned out,” Martina found herself unexpectedly irritated. Not because the comment was outright rude—but because of what it subtly implied. This episode dives into: *  Why it feels so uncomfortable when others narrate your past for you  *  How people freeze you in a version of yourself you’ve already outgrown  *  The psychology behind why we feel the need to correct or defend ourselves  *  And the deeper question: Who actually deserves access to your current self? Martina also walks you through three grounded ways to respond in these situations—from silence, to light boundaries, to direct communication—so you can choose what feels aligned without overexplaining or overgiving. This is a conversation about identity, emotional boundaries, and reclaiming authority over your own story. Because growth isn’t just becoming someone new—  it’s also refusing to be defined by outdated mirrors. And sometimes the most powerful response… is no response at all. Got a thought, reaction, or moment this episode stirred up? Send me a note. I read every message — and sometimes they shape future episodes. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2387743/fan_mail/new] Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical [https://www.instagram.com/femmagical/] for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more! Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode. Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you. Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.

The Version of My Mom I Always Wanted And Why It Didn’t Last

In this episode, Martina shares a deeply personal story about her mom’s visit—and the unexpected emotional aftermath that followed.  What felt like healing at first turned into a powerful realization about triggers, inner child needs, and how much our environment shapes the way we experience relationships.  This is an honest look at what it means to feel something you’ve been craving your whole life… and what happens when it’s suddenly gone. * Why feeling better doesn’t always mean it’s healed * The difference between change and no triggers * What it felt like to finally experience ease with her mom * How this unlocked a deeper inner child realization A raw, grounded reflection on what healing really is—and what it isn’t. Got a thought, reaction, or moment this episode stirred up? Send me a note. I read every message — and sometimes they shape future episodes. [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2387743/fan_mail/new] Follow Martina on Instagram @femmagical [https://www.instagram.com/femmagical/] for behind-the-scenes content, updates, and more! Subscribe to "I Do Me, Boo" on your favorite podcast platform so you never miss an episode. Love what you heard? Leave a comment or review to let Martina know what resonated with you. Also, share this episode with friends and family who need a reminder about the importance of health and boundaries. Disclaimer: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered professional advice.