Who Are You After Change? with Kelly Cervantes | In Confidence

Who Are You After Change? with Kelly Cervantes | In Confidence

What if grief and joy could exist at the same time? What if rebuilding your life wasn’t about “moving on,” but about making meaning out of what happened?   Kelly Cervantes, author of The Luckiest and Normal Broken, joins us for a deeply human conversation about loss, identity, and resilience. In this episode of In Confidence, Kelly and Lisa unpack how to live with grief without letting it define you, how to release outdated goals, and how to rebuild a life that reflects who you are now.   What you’ll learn in this episode: * What to say when someone is grieving, and why saying their name matters more than you think * How to let go of old identities and goals without shame * Why growth often requires redefining success instead of chasing permanence * This week’s micro-moment, Rewire a Fail: how to review setbacks with compassion and turn them into learning Whether you’re grieving, changing direction, or quietly wondering who you are becoming, remember that change is not a failure. It’s part of how we grow.   Get your copy of The Luckiest [https://www.kellycervantes.com/theluckiest]   00:00 Intro 00:51 Meet Kelly Cervantes 06:32 What to Say to Someone Grieving  11:09 The Luckiest 25:00 Your Dreams and Goals Can Change 29:00 Joy and Grief 36:00 Micro-Moment #10: Rewire a Fail 39:02 Outro 40:40 Disclaimer    Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:      Visit Our Website [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]      Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback [https://www.amazon.com/Gravitas-Strengths-That-Redefine-Confidence/dp/1401978851/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=]      Follow Gravitas on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/gravitasnewyork/?igsh=MTNsbmpyejNrYW5nbg%3D%3D]      Follow Lisa on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalsun/?igsh=amp2MzF1aXRxaGxs]      Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-sun-793777/]      Follow Gravitas on TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Follow Gravitas on Substack [https://substack.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]

Micro-Moment #10: Rewire a Fail | In Confidence

Welcome to Season 3, the Last Quarter Challenge. Think of it as a training plan for your confidence with weekly micro-moments that ladder up so you enter 2026 stronger than ever.   Our final micro-moment is Rewire a Fail. Setbacks are inevitable. What determines your confidence is not whether you fail, but how your brain processes the failure afterward. When something does not go as planned, your mind can default to shame and rumination. Rewiring a fail means separating who you are from what happened and turning disappointment into learning and forward motion.   Try it today. Rewind the moment without judgment. Name what happened using only the facts, identify what you learned, and notice the strengths that showed up along the way. This simple reframe quiets fear, restores perspective, and helps you recover faster.   00:00 Intro 00:27 Micro-Moment #10: Rewire a Fail 01:53 The Science of Rewiring a Fail 07:38 How to Practice This Challenge 10:39 Why It's Helpful 11:41 Outro 12:52 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:      Visit Our Website [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]      Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback [https://www.amazon.com/Gravitas-Strengths-That-Redefine-Confidence/dp/1401978851/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=]      Follow Gravitas on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/gravitasnewyork/?igsh=MTNsbmpyejNrYW5nbg%3D%3D]      Follow Lisa on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalsun/?igsh=amp2MzF1aXRxaGxs]      Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-sun-793777/]      Follow Gravitas on TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Follow Gravitas on Substack [https://substack.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]

This Is Why Winning Never Feels Like Enough with Ruchika T. Malhotra | In Confidence

What if success wasn’t a scorecard, but a sense of connection? What if the most powerful thing you could do this week was to stop treating life like a zero-sum game?   Ruchika T. Malhotra, author of Uncompete and Inclusion on Purpose, joins us for a conversation about redefining success, rejecting scarcity thinking, and building a life rooted in community.   In this episode of In Confidence, Ruchika and Lisa unpack how to reject competition and the five principles of Uncompete that make confidence feel steadier and more sustainable.   What you'll learn in this episode: * Why “success” keeps moving, and how to define it in a way that actually feels like you * The five principles of Uncompete and how to apply them to your life * This week’s micro-moment, Worst Case, Best Case, Most Likely: a simple tool to stop catastrophizing and choose your own metrics If you’re tired of measuring, comparing, and chasing someone else’s definition of winning, this is your permission slip to choose a different path.   Get Your Copy of ⁠Uncompete⁠ [https://www.ruchika.co/uncompete-book]    00:00 Intro 01:36 Meet Ruchika T. Malhotra 10:12 Uncompete and Rejecting Competition 18:30 The 5 Principles of Uncompete 37:12 Micro-Moment #9 Worst, Best, Most Likely 41:51 Give Someone Else Their Flowers Today 44:41 Outro 46:20 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:      Visit Our Website [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]      Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback [https://www.amazon.com/Gravitas-Strengths-That-Redefine-Confidence/dp/1401978851/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=]      Follow Gravitas on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/gravitasnewyork/?igsh=MTNsbmpyejNrYW5nbg%3D%3D]      Follow Lisa on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalsun/?igsh=amp2MzF1aXRxaGxs]      Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-sun-793777/]      Follow Gravitas on TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Follow Gravitas on Substack [https://substack.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]

Micro-Moment #9 Worst, Best, Most Likely | In Confidence

Welcome to Season 3, the Last Quarter Challenge. Think of it as a training plan for your confidence with weekly micro-moments that ladder up so you enter 2026 stronger than ever.   This week's micro-moment is Worst, Best, Most Likely. When we face uncertainty, our brains tend to jump straight to the worst case and treat it as fact. This practice helps you widen the lens. By naming the worst case, imagining the best case, and grounding yourself in the most likely outcome, you interrupt fear, regain perspective, and create more choices. Perspective itself becomes a confidence practice.   Try it today. Think about one situation that feels uncertain. Write down the worst case, the best case, and the most likely outcome. Notice how your body settles and your thinking becomes clearer when fear is no longer running the show and you're back in control.   00:00 Intro 00:30 Micro-Moment #9: Worst, Best, Most Likely 02:57 The Science of Worst, Best, Most Likely 09:37 Saying It Out Loud or Writing It Down 11:38 How to Practice This Challenge 15:11 Outro  15:37 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:      Visit Our Website [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]      Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback [https://www.amazon.com/Gravitas-Strengths-That-Redefine-Confidence/dp/1401978851/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=]      Follow Gravitas on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/gravitasnewyork/?igsh=MTNsbmpyejNrYW5nbg%3D%3D]      Follow Lisa on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalsun/?igsh=amp2MzF1aXRxaGxs]      Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-sun-793777/]      Follow Gravitas on TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Follow Gravitas on Substack [https://substack.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]

Plan Your Life Like a CEO | In Confidence

Every January starts the same way. Big goals. High hopes. And a familiar sense of pressure. But not this January.   In this solo episode of In Confidence, Lisa Sun shares a practical planning strategy designed to help you step out of resolution pressure and into clarity. Drawing on 11 years advising Fortune 500 CEOs and more than a decade building Gravitas through growth, setbacks, and reinvention, she adapts how companies plan their one year and three to five year strategies and applies it to your life.   You will learn how to: * Identify what is worth building on and what needs to change before you set new goals * Stress test your 2026 plans against your time, energy, and real constraints, so they work in practice, not just on paper * Eliminate goals that cancel each other out and prioritize the ones that compound * Decide what deserves your attention this year and what can wait, without constant overwhelm * Create a plan you can adapt over time instead of abandoning at the first setback This episode includes a downloadable workbook so you can plan alongside the conversation and create a strategy that feels realistic, focused, and sustainable. If you are ready to stop repeating the same January cycle and start building real momentum, it is time to plan your life like a CEO.   Download our PDF at GravitasNewYork.com   00:00 Intro 02:44 Step 1 - Your Personal Diagnostic 13:38 Step 2 - Brainstorm Your Goals 21:15 Step 3 - Sort Your Goals 25:25 Step 4 - Backward Plan 29:01 Step 5 - Calendar It Out 36:11 Outro 37:10 Disclaimer   Connect With Us So You Never Miss a Moment of Inspiration:      Visit Our Website [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]      Get Our Best-Selling Book in Paperback [https://www.amazon.com/Gravitas-Strengths-That-Redefine-Confidence/dp/1401978851/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=]      Follow Gravitas on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/gravitasnewyork/?igsh=MTNsbmpyejNrYW5nbg%3D%3D]      Follow Lisa on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/lisalsun/?igsh=amp2MzF1aXRxaGxs]      Connect with Lisa on LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/lisa-sun-793777/]      Follow Gravitas on TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Follow Gravitas on Substack [https://substack.com/@gravitasnewyork]    Suggestions or Questions? Email Us. [http://gravitasnewyork.com/]