INNERCALLING with Dr. Victoria
In this episode, I grill my colleague, clinical child psychologist Dr. David Wen, on some of the hardest questions I've received from parents of kids and teens with ADHD over the years, including consequences, rewards, privileges, and what the heck to do when your child simply won't listen and doesn't care. *** Dr. David Wen is a licensed clinical psychologist at Hope+Wellness who specializes in working with children, parents, and fathers. He brings clinical expertise and lived experience to his work, supporting dads and parents in showing up in ways that feel meaningful, even in the face of real-world parenting challenges. His approach is grounded in evidence-based therapy and delivered with a style that is warm, direct, and attuned to both parents and children. Learn more: https://www.hope-wellness.com/david-wen-psyd TIMESTAMPS 00:00:30 Intro – meet Dr. David Wen 00:01:00 Inner calling – why work with kids 00:02:00 Undiagnosed ADHD until grad school 00:03:00 The biting story – learning social norms 00:05:00 ADHD challenges – energy & overload 00:08:00 ADHD & self-esteem – "I'm the problem" 00:10:00 Teaching social norms – repetition & rewards 00:12:00 Credit card analogy – making consequences tangible 00:13:00 What if kids don't care about consequences? 00:14:00 Rewards that work – privileges & money 00:16:00 Not earning = learning – reframing consequences 00:35:00 Child enjoys defying you – regulate yourself first 00:37:00 Breaking the conflict pattern – the angry shadow trick 00:39:00 Anxious parents & over-control 00:41:00 Electronics & teens – teaching healthy use 00:43:00 Parenting has no manual – why parents struggle 00:44:00 1-2-3 Magic – best book for parents 00:46:00 Warnings & privilege removal for teens 00:47:00 Teen won't do homework – defiance or something deeper? 00:50:00 ADHD brain sees the gray areas 00:52:00 Get to know your kid – observe & ask 00:54:00 Bond over their interests – why kids listen 00:55:00 Serial killer map – how David's ADHD brain works 00:56:00 Two different brains – parent vs. child 00:57:00 Three S's – Safety, Structure, Support 00:59:00 Amplify the three S's for ADHD kids 01:01:00 #1 tip for ADHD parents – consistency 01:03:00 Be open to medication 01:04:00 Parental intuition – innate or learned? 01:05:00 Natural bond with your baby – myth or real? 01:07:00 Can all parents learn to parent well? 01:09:00 Values-based parenting 01:10:00 Define your values – parenting north star 01:11:00 Outro PODCAST LINKS Website: www.innercalling.org Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/innercalling/id1809177408 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4K2khwqNKgs90Hs8vrQenZ?si=ad3d2dbeceab49c4 Podcast Playlist: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL_zIrjdevY1Q91PX5woaNtjTDvell1ZJ8 CONTACT DR. VICTORIA HERE Dr. Victoria Ranade: www.victoriaranade.com IG: https://www.instagram.com/drvictoriaranade Hope+Wellness: https://www.hope-wellness.com * * * * WHAT IS INNERCALLING? INNERCALLING is a podcast dedicated to the belief that there is a light inside you of profound power, beauty, and wisdom that no darkness can ever overcome. It's a space where mental health meets spirituality, where explore timeless questions about existence, and what it deeply means to be human in this technological age. Inspired by the field of clinical psychology, which values what happens simply when two people sit together and talk about life and all its beauty and complications, conversations are organic and spontaneous, like jazz. WHO IS DR. VICTORIA? Hi there, I'm Dr. Victoria Ranade. I'm a board certified licensed clinical psychologist, writer, and podcaster deeply passionate about mental health, spirituality, existential psychology, and questions related to how to hold onto our humanity in the face of AI and technology.✌🏼💛 I LOVE HEARING FROM YOU. SEND ME ANY MAIL OR QUESTIONS HERE: drvictoria@innercalling.org #mentalhealth #drvictoriaranade #innercallingpodcast #drdavidwen Disclaimer: https://innercalling.org/disclaimer ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.
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