Dealing with PE, ED, Pelvic pain (for women also)? etc etc ( yes the list goes on & on....)

Use it or lose it

He cant work for you if you don’t work for him. Just as it is in your fitness, if you stop using your muscles, they go flacid. This my loves is the same as your C🐓ck. Every time you masturbate, you are training your nervous system. Full stop. The speed you use, the grip, the fantasy running in the background, the way you rush to the finish line because you have got seven minutes before someone needs something….all of it is data your body is filing away as this is how sex works. Your nervous system does not know the difference between you and your hand and a partner you are wild about. It only knows the pattern you keep repeating. And whatever you repeat, you perform. So if you have spent years training yourself to come as fast as possible with maximum friction and zero presence….. that is the programme currently running…with or without her. The good news is that what can be trained in one direction can be trained in another. This is not about shaming masturbation and bringing in the NoFap of abstinence. It is about using your solo time the way an athlete uses training. With intention and awareness and the understanding that you are literally rehearsing. Slow it down. Learn your own edge. Practice staying present instead of checking out. Practice choosing when and not just responding to the urge. Because the man who knows his own body that well, who has actually taken the time to understand his own pleasure and his own capacity, is a man who provides a completely different experience for everyone in the room. Including himself. Get yourself into my short yet so powerful C😜ck Gym program HERE. [https://melissalouise.world/man] I got your back lovers. Always with Pleasure M 💋 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe [https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

Would you gift another lover to your wife?

Guess who is back in the house sexy people? Yes. Your (and my) favourite Australian Male Escort. In todays episode we talk about an incredible experience George had with a woman who’s husband gifted her ..his services. If you want to learn more about George and maybe even consider his services yourself feel free to parouse HERE [https://www.georgegoulburn.com/] Plot twist…as we were about to end the interview George asked me what was new in my life as far as experiences go..and ..well you will need to listen to hear what I revealed. Happy Thursday lovers.. Enjoy and In(absolute)joy M 💋 Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe [https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

He gets admired whilst she gets judged.

In this provocative conversation, I sit down with a male escort to explore the stark double standards surrounding sex work. From safety and reputation to social perception. While men in this industry can be met with curiosity or even admiration, women often navigate danger, stigma, and lasting judgement. We unpack power, privilege, and the politics of pleasure , and dive into what it really means to “hold the feminine.” Why are so many women craving to be deeply seen, prioritized, and made love to without performance or pressure? And what does it reveal about modern intimacy that some are paying to experience it? This episode challenges assumptions and invites a deeper look at gender, desire, and who gets celebrated and who gets scrutinized. Check out Georges site HERE [https://scarletblue.com.au/male-escort/george-goulburn] AND learn how to last as long as he does HERE [https://melissalouise.world/man] Melissa Louise This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe [https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

What actually is an “alpha male”?

The internet version is terribly fake. The red pill dogma that is being pushed is not actually making men stronger at all and it is definitely not making women safer. Instead of creating healthier relationships or societies, it is actually doing the complete opposite. Red pill ideology teaches emotional suppression, domination, and hierarchy taken as a given from the mens side (….??) not so much responsibility, emotional and nervous system regulation, or leadership. It frames women as adversaries, emotions as weakness, and vulnerability as something to be conquered or hidden. This worldview does not just damage intimacy, it actively makes women live in more danger and men live in deeper isolation. We can see this clearly when we look at the data. Globally and in the United States, men are overwhelmingly the ones dying by homicide. Around 75–80% of homicide victims are male. At the same time, men also make up roughly 90% of homicide perpetrators. For the part of humanity who are not supposedly “so emotional”, men are both the primary victims and the primary actors in lethal violence. (Emotions run ragged). And I do not believe this is because men are inherently violent, yet because our culture has failed men emotionally. When emotions are not allowed to be expressed, they do not disappear. They compress into so many areas of the body physically and energetically and harden. They then at some point come out sideways as rage, over the top risk-taking, numbness, and explosions. A culture that tells men their feelings are dangerous or punishable creates exactly the volatility it claims to be fearing and trying to control. Women pay the price for this too. While men are more likely to be killed overall, women are disproportionately killed by intimate partners. When men are taught that they do not need to take responsibility for their emotional world, that dominance is masculinity and emotional literacy is weakness, women are placed in unsafe relational dynamics. Red pill culture actively reinforces this risk. And addiction tells the same story. Men have significantly higher rates of substance use disorders than women. Alcohol, drugs, and compulsive behaviours become socially acceptable outlets for emotions men were never taught to feel, name, or regulate. Again, this is not a failing in our biology, this is a societal emotional neglect playing out on a massive scale. Incarceration mirrors this breakdown with over 90% of the global prison population being male. Prisons are filled with men who were never taught how to be with fear, grief, shame, or anger in healthy ways. Instead of addressing this as a collective failure of emotional education, society doubles down on punishment and control. And the red pill ideology pretends this is “natural male behaviour.” My loves,….It is not. Biologically, men and women are almost identical. Around 98–99% of our DNA is the same. We share the same emotional architecture in the brain: the same limbic systems, the same capacity for empathy, bonding, grief, and love. There is no scientific basis for the idea that men are less emotional than women. What differs is nurture. Girls are encouraged to express, seek connection, and talk about feelings. Boys are taught to suppress, endure, and dominate. By adulthood, we mistake emotional suppression for emotional absence, and then blame women for being “too emotional” while praising men for being “controlled.” This lie is destroying intimacy between us all. A man who cannot feel safely is not strong. He is volatile or shut down and will often need to turn to forms of abandonment to escape. A man who cannot take responsibility for his emotions will inevitably place them onto his partner, blaming her for being too sensitive, too needy, too much. This is how women get scapegoated for emotions men were never allowed to have. The irony is that this red pill ideology pushes an agenda for men to be “men” and get your woman WHEN we are NOT turned on by this exhausting emotional numbness at all. Women open, trust, and desire men who can lead themselves emotionally. Men who can feel without collapsing, hear emotion without attacking, and take responsibility for what moves through them are safer, more attractive, and more powerful ….not at all weaker. Real masculinity is not dominance and true strength is regulation.Real alpha energy is emotional self leadership. When we teach men to suppress who they are and what they feel, instead of integrate, society becomes more violent, more addicted and more incarcerated and resulting in women becoming less safe. If we want safer women, healthier men, and relationships rooted in trust instead of fear, we must dismantle the lie that emotions make men weak. Emotions make us human and refusing to deal with them is where the danger lies. The real definition of an alpha male comes from biology and social mammals.In healthy mammal groups (wolves, primates, elephants, humans), an alpha is not the loudest, most aggressive, or most dominant… an alpha is the one who * is calmest under stress * regulates the group’s nervous system * resolves conflict * protects the vulnerable * sets boundaries without cruelty * has emotional self-command True alpha energy is nervous system mastery baby. An insecure male tries to dominate others because he is in the belief that is what he needs to do. A real alpha does not need to and people naturally follow him/her because they are stable, grounded, and safe. This is why women are erotically drawn to men who * can feel without collapsing * can hear emotion without defending * can hold intensity without running or exploding * can take responsibility for what they feel That is alpha. This is sexy as all fuck. Not the suppression that shows up as stoicism and definitely not emotional illiteracy. Men and women are emotionally the same species. What differs is not our hearts or systems but the permission we were given to live in them. Lovers…. every single relationship needs the container to foster emotional intelligence. A place where there is no shaming or blaming. A place where the animal parts of ourselves have a safe place to be heard and soothed. A place for our ego to speak so our higher selves can do the work it came to do…. There is just no more fucking around in the school yard avoiding and hoping. We don’t have time or the energy for that in these times!!! ( jajajjaja ) I have been trained in a system that will up level your relationship and sex life incredibly where BOTH of you have the incredible space to be heard and soothed and this is what brings you two closer and having more sex. Time is not the enemy of little sex, it is all the “stuff” unsaid that sits in between you two that does. Book a discovery call here [https://cal.com/melissalouise/60min]and lets chat on how I can support you to have the sexy juicy and emotionally safe relationship you damn well deserve. Always with Pleasure M ❤️ Inside The Pleasure Studio with Melissa Louise is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe [https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]

Dealing with PE, ED, Pelvic pain (for women also)? etc etc ( yes the list goes on & on....)

Hello lovers, I am actually really excited to share with you as we bring in the new (gregorian calendar) yr my latest podcast episode I had with Jana Danielson. Not just because it is juicy, but because it is so profoundly practical and potentially life changing for both women and men. Jana Danielson is the creator of the Cooch Ball, and we sat down ( yes even on the ball ) to speak about something that is rarely spoken about honestly or intelligently, but would be best if it was at the dinner table like chit chat as it effects everyone… and that is pelvic health. Jana’s journey began with her own body. After experiencing multiple physical ailments, she committed deeply to Pilates and somatic movement. Through this practice, she did not just “strengthen” her body, she completely rewired it. Her pain reduced, her vitality returned, and her connection to her pelvic floor radically changed. What she discovered along the way was that most people are either disconnected from their pelvic floor or gripping it unconsciously. Neither leads to health and both take you down a ( not so sexy ) slippery slope of issues. This is where the Cooch Ball was born. The Cooch Ball is not about squeezing harder or doing endless Kegels. In fact, it supports the opposite of what many people have been taught. It works by:• Creating feedback and awareness in the pelvic floor• Helping the muscles relax, coordinate, and respond, rather than clench• Supporting neuromuscular re education and therfore teaching the brain and pelvis to communicate again• Restoring elasticity, tone, and responsiveness, not rigidity This distinction is very necessary, especially for men dealing with pelvic issues. How the Cooch Ball supports men For many men, pelvic floor issues show up as:• Urinary incontinence• Dribbling after urination• Erectile dysfunction• Prostate challenges• Chronic pelvic pain or tightness• Loss of sensation or control What Jana explains so clearly in this episode is that incontinence is very often linked to a pelvic floor that is too tight, not too weak. When muscles are chronically contracted, they lose their ability to respond when needed, leading to leaks, lack of control, and pain. The Cooch Ball helps men:• Learn how to release chronic tension in the pelvic floor• Rebuild functional strength through relaxation and coordination• Improve bladder control by restoring proper muscle timing• Support prostate health through improved circulation and tissue health• Reconnect sensation and awareness in the pelvis This is especially powerful for men post prostate surgery, men aging into new stages of life, or men who have been told “this is just how it is now.” How the Cooch Ball supports women For women, the benefits extend across health, pleasure, and vitality. It supports:• Recovery after birth• Healing from prolapse or pelvic instability• Reducing pain during penetration• Increasing sensation and orgasmic capacity• Releasing pelvic holding linked to trauma or stress• Supporting continence without force or strain Rather than training the pelvic floor to grip, the Cooch Ball helps women experience full spectrum pelvic intelligence. This equates to the ability to soften, respond, engage, and release (Oooooo) with choice. This episode is not about gimmicks or quick fixes. It is about re educating the pelvis, honouring the intelligence of the body, and dismantling outdated approaches that have left so many people frustrated, leaking, numb, or in pain. We speak candidly about:• Why “just do your Kegels” is often harmful• The connection between pelvic health and pleasure• How men and women can reclaim dignity, confidence, and control• Why pelvic awareness is foundational to whole-body wellbeing You will be seeing me and my ball a bit more in the future ..on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/melissa_louise_intimacy/]and here. You can also follow Jana on insta HERE [https://www.instagram.com/jana.danielson/] Want to get your own? MEN go here [https://bloombetter.life/products/themens-coochball-classic-bundle?bg_ref=ThABhhzNxh] ( you have your very own special videos ) And Women..HERE [https://bloombetter.life/pages/cooch-ball?bg_ref=ThABhhzNxh] ( yours are special also…😜 ) If you or someone you love is navigating incontinence, pelvic pain, sexual challenges, or simply wants to understand their body more deeply then I truly recommend this conversation. Always with Pleasure (& a deep respect for the pelvis)M 💋 P.S. This is one of those episodes I wish everyone learned earlier in life. Please share it on. Especially with the men who’ve been quietly struggling PPS….. to add to your bundle of health practices for your sex life..have you got yourself onto the FLOW tablets yet? This is some good ole bio hacking…..as Nitric Oxide supplements radically help our body restore healthy blood flow and circulation, meaning we can make up for lost function much faster. This is precisely why Susan Bratton ( the sex-pert to millions ) formulated her top selling product, FLOW. A food- derived supplement that gives you ( and mmeee) better blood flow. all you need to do is take two capsules before bed and sex. it is that easy lovers… and why not get your first bottle for free…..start HERE… [https://the20.store/flow-subscription-10off/?hop=unzippedtv&hopId=511471e0-385c-4433-bf2a-e7b330b60100&a_aid=68e4a6f43c486] Happy beginnings lovers.. Here is to good sexy times ahead. 💋💋 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe [https://melissalouise.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_2]