You're Not Self Sabotaging. This Is What's Actually Happening

Your Limiting Beliefs Need Removal, Not Reframing

Don't Reframe Your Limiting Beliefs. Remove Them. Most coaches will tell you to reframe your limiting beliefs. I won't. Because reframing is like decorating a prison cell. You might make it look nicer, but it's still a prison cell. In this episode, I'll show you why removing limiting beliefs from the root is completely different from reframing them and why it actually works. Your limiting beliefs aren't who you are. They're mud that's been layered on top of you since childhood. And when you remove them, you realise there's so much more available to you than you ever thought possible. This episode is for you if: * You're tired of reframing and want actual change * You have a limiting belief that's been holding you back for years * You've done other coaching but something still feels stuck * You're ready to understand where your beliefs actually come from * You want to remove the ceiling on what's possible for you * You're considering working with a coach and want to know my approach Connect with me:Website: https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/]LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] Ready to do deep work on removing limiting beliefs?I work with business owners, leaders, and people at inflection points who are ready to go deeper. If you want to explore whether coaching is right for you, visit my website or connect with me on LinkedIn. Interested in designing a life with intention?Subscribe to stay updated with new episodes on personal development, intentional living, and building the life you actually want.

Why You Have No Mental Clarity (And How to Get It Back In 4 Steps)

Your mind has 55 tabs open. Emails piling up, podcasts queued, notifications constantly pinging, other people's opinions everywhere. No wonder it's hard to think clearly. Most people assume the answer is to do more. But what if the answer is to remove? In this episode, I'll walk you through a simple 4-step mental detox framework to help you clear mental clutter, create more space for creative thinking, and move from living in reaction to living with intention. We'll explore why your mind feels overloaded even when you're being productive, why silence can feel so uncomfortable, and some practical ways to create the space needed for clarity, creativity, and intentional living. If you've been feeling mentally scattered, overwhelmed, or unable to focus on what really matters, this episode is for you. Connect with me: Website: https://ben-robins.com [https://ben-robins.com/] LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] If you enjoyed this episode, follow the show and share it with someone who could benefit from a little more mental space. Topics covered: mental clarity, overthinking, intentional living, focus, productivity, mindfulness, creativity, self-leadership, personal development.

Public Speaking Doesn't Have to Be Scary: These 7 Things Will Make You More Confident

When I was leading EMEA for a global consultancy, communication was the single biggest differentiator. These are the specific strategies I used to help my teams - and now my private coaching clients- step into the boardroom with confidence.Public speaking is often rated as a fear greater than death. In this video, I’m sharing the 7 strategies I used at the highest levels of corporate leadership to flip that anxiety into professional influence. Stepping into senior rooms requires more than just "tips". It requires a fundamental change in how you view your audience and your own nerves.Most people think confidence comes from eliminating nerves. But nervousness and excitement are often the same physiological response - the difference is the meaning you attach to it. Things begin to change when you stop focusing on yourself, stop seeing other people as “above” you, and begin communicating as a peer. In this video, you'll discover: * Why public speaking feels so intimidating (and what’s actually causing it) * The mindset shift that turns nerves into confidence * How focusing on the audience instantly improves communication * Why influential communicators speak peer-to-peer, not “up” to people * How to stop seeing senior leaders or important people as intimidating * The importance of preparation beyond just knowing your material * How to build genuine influence in presentations and meetings * Why your stories about yourself shape how confidently you communicate * Simple ways to engage an audience from the very beginning * The hidden psychology behind confident public speaking ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 -  Introduction 01:35 - One: The basics that instantly improve confidence 02:14 - Two: Leaning into discomfort 03:06 - Three: Focus on your audience, not yourself 03:38 - Four: Connect one-on-one with your audience 04:47 - Five: Break the frame and grab attention 05:48 - Six: Why you’re not actually scared of the room 08:08 - Seven: Own your stories 09:18 - Conclusion We’ll explore how identity shapes confidence, why people lose influence the moment they get stuck in their own head, and how changing the stories you tell yourself can completely transform the way you show up in important rooms.About Ben RobinsI help leaders and high-performers navigate the psychological hurdles of senior leadership. If you found this helpful, consider subscribing for more insights on communication, mindset, and career growth. Work with me =========================== ⁠My website⁠ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - ⁠https://ben-robins.com/⁠ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] ⁠LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] =========================== This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]

You're Not Self Sabotaging. This Is What's Actually Happening

Work with me =========================== My website [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] =========================== Most people think they struggle with self-sabotage - that invisible force that shows up right when things start going well. But what if that’s not what’s actually happening? In this video, I’ll unpack why self-sabotage isn’t really the problem - and what’s actually driving the behaviours that keep you stuck, even when you know exactly what you should be doing. From identity patterns formed long before you had a choice, to hidden benefits behind “bad” habits, this video looks at how your actions are not random, broken, or against you; but deeply logical once you understand what they’re protecting. If you’ve ever felt like you’re working against yourself, this will completely change how you see your behaviour. In this video, you’ll discover: * Why self-sabotage is often a misleading label that hides the real issue * How identity acts like an internal “autopilot” that shapes your behaviour * Why you keep repeating patterns that don’t serve you * The hidden logic behind habits that look destructive on the surface * Why every behaviour is actually solving a problem for you * How unconscious stories about yourself keep you stuck * The link between identity and the “benefits” behind your habits * How to question the story you’ve been proving without realising it * Why change becomes easier when you stop seeing yourself as the problem ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 - Introduction 01:45 - Why self-sabotage might not exist 02:26 - The two sides to being stuck 02:38 - Side one: The identity you didn’t choose 05:01 - Protecting yourself from a potential loss 05:23 - Side two: Is “bad” behaviour your solution? 07:06 - There’s a benefit to everything – even smoking! 08:03 - Identity, habits and the real connection 08:51 - The story your behaviour is protecting 09:11 - How to finally change what’s stuck This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]

How To Speak Like A Top 1% Leader

Work with me =========================== My website [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] - https://ben-robins.com/ [https://ben-robins.com/?utm_source=spotify&utm_medium=videodescription&utm_campaign=intentional-living] LinkedIn [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] - https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-robins-coaching/] =========================== Most communication advice tells you to do more. Better stories, stronger body language, more confidence. This video is about doing less. If you've ever felt like people overlook your ideas, tune out when you speak, or fail to recognise your value - the problem probably isn't what you're missing. It's what you're doing that's getting in the way. Drawing from years of working with leaders at Google, Meta and Samsung, I'll break down the five things that undermine your ability to communicate with influence and clarity - even when you're intelligent, experienced, and capable. Small changes in identity, clarity, and curiosity can completely change how people respond to you. Whether you're leading a team, navigating a difficult conversation, or trying to get traction in a meeting - this will help you become someone people genuinely listen to. In this video, you’ll discover: * Why communication problems often start with identity, not skill * How self-doubt changes the way people hear you * Why overexplaining weakens your message * The hidden reason inconsistent leaders lose trust * How to communicate clearly without saying more * Why great leaders ask better questions * The mistake most people make in difficult conversations * How to speak in a way people actually care about * Why curiosity is one of the most powerful leadership skills * The five communication habits that make people listen ⏰ Timestamps: ⏰ 00:00 - Introduction 01:03 - Why some people naturally command attention 01:27 - The five things good communicators have stopped doing 01:29 - The first thing: Why identity shapes how people hear you 03:13 - The second thing: The stories that sabotage how consistently you communicate 04:52 - The third thing: Why clear thinking matters most 06:53 - The fourth thing: How great leaders stay curious 08:15 - The fifth thing: Understand what they value 09:52 - The five changes that make people listen to you This video was produced by the team at Zapods Podcast Agency [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]: https://www.zapods.com [https://zapods.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_medium=shownotes&utm_campaign=ben-robins]