S3 E16 - Families Coping with Mental Illness with Amanda LaPera

S3 E17 - Love Must Get Loud

Thank you to our new sponsor, Sentry PC. Learn more about their computer monitoring technology and all-in-one solution at https://sentrypc.7eer.net/mOaJM1 Thank you to our sponsor, Promeed. Shop their quality bedding at: https://promeed.sjv.io/L0Zq43 Use this link to get 10% off in our merch store: https://itmattersmerch.etsy.com?coupon=ITMATTERS10 “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway. Season 3, Episode 17, Topic: Love Must Get Loud Host Matthew David Vasko sets out to learn whether or not hate speech should be legal and ends up at an interesting conclusion: Love must get loud. Learn about that and a follow-up to his previous episode on this finale of season 3. Sources & References: LEGAL CASES: Brandenburg v. Ohio (1969) | Snyder v. Phelps (2011) | Matal v. Tam (2017) | R. v. Keegstra, Canada (1990) PHILOSOPHY: Karl Popper, The Open Society and Its Enemies (1945) | John Stuart Mill, On Liberty (1859) | Jeremy Waldron, The Harm in Hate Speech (2012) ONLINE HATE SPREAD: Mathew et al., 'Spread of Hate Speech in Online Social Media,' ACM Web Science (2019) — study of 341K users and 21M posts showing hateful content spreads farther, faster, and wider | Milli et al., 'Engagement, User Satisfaction, and the Amplification of Divisive Content on Social Media,' Cornell Tech/UC Berkeley (2023) — Twitter's algorithm selects 62% anger content vs 52% chronologically ALGORITHMS & OUTRAGE: Frances Haugen / Facebook Papers (2021) — internal Meta documents showing 'our recommendation systems grow the problem' of extremism | Amnesty International, 'Myanmar: Facebook's Systems Promoted Violence Against Rohingya' (2022) | UN Fact-Finding Mission on Myanmar (2018) COUNTERSPEECH RESEARCH: Alvarez-Benjumea & Winter, PNAS (2021) — empathy-based counterspeech reduces xenophobic hate speech; humor and warnings do not | Jahani et al., 'Celebrity messages reduce online hate and limit its spread' — 20-week RCT in Nigeria, 50%+ reduction in hate reposting MIND CHANGE RESEARCH: Broockman & Kalla, 'Durably reducing transphobia,' Science (2016) | William Miller & Stephen Rollnick, Motivational Interviewing | Anthony Magnabosco, Street Epistemology HISTORY: The King Center, thekingcenter.org — Dr. King's leadership produced more progress toward racial equality in 13 years than the previous 350 | Civil Rights Act 1964 | Voting Rights Act 1965 HATE CRIME DATA: FBI Hate Crime Statistics 2023 & 2024 | Statistics Canada 2023 | German Federal Office for the Protection of the Constitution (BfV) 2025 report KEY QUOTES: Justice Louis Brandeis, Whitney v. California (1927) | Audre Lorde — 'It is not the responsibility of the oppressed to educate the oppressor' Show links: Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ItMattersMerch Patreon: http://patreon.com/ItMattersPatrons Podcast website: https://it-matters.captivate.fm/ Host Matthew David Vasko’s website: https://matthewvasko.com/ Intro/Outro/Interstitial music by Z19: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvfnVgE2H20vJQN4Yl7gbtA “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is a production of Meta Key Productions, all rights reserved. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call 988 for the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (in the United States). The information shared on this show is meant for general educational purposes only. Please consult with a licensed professional before making any life-altering decisions. Listener/viewer assumes all responsibility for any actions taken as a result of consuming this content. Any application of suggestions made on this show is taken at the listener/viewer's sole risk.

S3 E16 - Families Coping with Mental Illness with Amanda LaPera

Thank you to our new sponsor, Promeed. Shop their quality bedding at: https://promeed.sjv.io/L0Zq43 Thank you to our sponsor, Gevi. Shop their great deals on small kitchen appliances at: https://gevi.pxf.io/5k7b2b Use this link to get 10% off in our merch store: https://itmattersmerch.etsy.com?coupon=ITMATTERS10 “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway. Season 3, Episode 16, Topic: Families Coping with Mental Illness with Amanda LaPera Amanda LaPera is a National Award-Winning Author and Teacher who served for 10 years on the Board of Directors for the National Alliance on Mental Illness, Orange County affiliate. She’s currently writing her tenth book. Her critically acclaimed debut memoir, “LOSING DAD, Paranoid Schizophrenia: A Family’s Search for Hope,” won an IBPA silver award in psychology, was a finalist for a Readers’ Favorite Award and a quarter finalist for the Publishers Weekly BookLife Prize. Her sequel, “FINDING DAD, Paranoid Schizophrenia: An End to the Search,” was selected as a finalist for the IAN Book of the Year awards. Learn more about Amanda and her books at: https://www.amandalapera.com/ Show links: Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ItMattersMerch Patreon: http://patreon.com/ItMattersPatrons Podcast website: https://it-matters.captivate.fm/ Host Matthew David Vasko’s website: https://matthewvasko.com/ Intro/Outro/Interstitial music by Z19: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvfnVgE2H20vJQN4Yl7gbtA “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is a production of Meta Key Productions, all rights reserved. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call 988 for the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (in the United States). The information shared on this show is meant for general educational purposes only. Please consult with a licensed professional before making any life-altering decisions. Listener/viewer assumes all responsibility for any actions taken as a result of consuming this content. Any application of suggestions made on this show is taken at the listener/viewer's sole risk.

S3 E15 - Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Leah Hollon

Thank you to our sponsor, Audible. Get your free month of Audible Premium Plus at https://www.audibletrial.com/VxVNWj Thank you to our new sponsor, Gevi. Shop their great deals at: https://gevi.pxf.io/5k7b2b Use this link to get 10% off in our merch store: https://itmattersmerch.etsy.com?coupon=ITMATTERS10 “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway. Season 3, Episode 15, Topic: Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Leah Hollon Dr. Leah Hollon is a naturopathic physician, educator, and expert in holistic medicine, epigenetics, and lineage healing. She is a multiple award-winning author whose work integrates science and compassion to help individuals address deep health challenges rooted in intergenerational and transgenerational trauma. Learn more about Dr. Hollon and her book "Unwinding the Imprints of Disease" at: https://drleahhollon.com/ Show links: Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ItMattersMerch Patreon: http://patreon.com/ItMattersPatrons Podcast website: https://it-matters.captivate.fm/ Host Matthew David Vasko’s website: https://matthewvasko.com/ Intro/Outro/Interstitial music by Z19: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvfnVgE2H20vJQN4Yl7gbtA “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is a production of Meta Key Productions, all rights reserved. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call 988 for the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (in the United States). The information shared on this show is meant for general educational purposes only. Please consult with a licensed professional before making any life-altering decisions. Listener/viewer assumes all responsibility for any actions taken as a result of consuming this content. Any application of suggestions made on this show is taken at the listener/viewer's sole risk.

S3 E14 - Self-Regulation with Dr. Ashley Anne

Thank you to our sponsor, Audible. Get your free month of Audible Premium Plus at https://www.audibletrial.com/VxVNWj Use this link to get 10% off in our merch store: https://itmattersmerch.etsy.com?coupon=ITMATTERS10 “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway. Season 3, Episode 14, Topic: Self-Regulation with Dr. Ashley Anne Ashley Anne, PhD. is a trauma specialist, neurocounselor, educator, TEDx speaker, and founder of the Gravity Point® Institute. Through her books and trainings, she hopes to empower folks to resolve their stress and trauma to heal themselves, so together we can heal the world. Learn more about Ashley and her work at: https://www.gravitypointinstitute.com/ Show links: Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ItMattersMerch Patreon: http://patreon.com/ItMattersPatrons Podcast website: https://it-matters.captivate.fm/ Host Matthew David Vasko’s website: https://matthewvasko.com/ Intro/Outro/Interstitial music by Z19: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvfnVgE2H20vJQN4Yl7gbtA “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is a production of Meta Key Productions, all rights reserved. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call 988 for the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (in the United States). The information shared on this show is meant for general educational purposes only. Please consult with a licensed professional before making any life-altering decisions. Listener/viewer assumes all responsibility for any actions taken as a result of consuming this content. Any application of suggestions made on this show is taken at the listener/viewer's sole risk.

S3 E13 - Tools & Techniques for Keeping Hope Alive

Thank you to our sponsor, Audible. Get your free month of Audible Premium Plus at https://www.audibletrial.com/VxVNWj Use this link to get 10% off in our merch store: https://itmattersmerch.etsy.com?coupon=ITMATTERS10 “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is the social science show - now in its third season! Here, host Matthew David Vasko discusses all the various ways that we can improve our relationships with others - partners, children, parents, extended family, friends, coworkers, and all the different types of people with whom we share our beautiful and diverse world. Features include Inspiring News and The Quote of the Week. Find our premium content on our Patreon, including The Takeaway. Season 3, Episode 13, Topic: Tools & Techniques for Keeping Hope Alive This episode is dedicated to hope, and more specifically the many things we all can do to help keep hope alive for the sake of our own wellbeing. QUICK TIPS FROM THIS EPISODE: Core Definitions • Optimism: A temperament-based expectation that things will work out; fragile under sustained adversity • Hope (Snyder): The intersection of goals, perceived pathways, and personal agency; does not require certainty • Active Hope (Joanna Macy): Hope as a practice, not a feeling — chosen and cultivated regardless of circumstance • Radical Hope (Jonathan Lear): Hope directed toward a good that cannot yet be fully imagined or articulated • The Stockdale Paradox (Jim Collins): Holding two truths simultaneously — unflinching honesty about difficulty + unshakeable conviction that you will prevail The Six Practical Tools 1. Curate your information diet — protect your hope reservoir 1. Pursue micro-wins — restore your sense of agency 2. The Stockdale Practice — hold both truths at once 3. Radical presence + the Best Possible Self exercise (Laura King) — rebuild the mental architecture of hope 4. Use the “yet” factor — refuse finality in your self-talk 5. Choose connection — hope is contagious and is rarely a solo project Listener Challenge Carry out one act of connection or bridge-building before the next episode: a real conversation, a volunteer hour, a letter, or a moment of genuine curiosity with someone whose life looks different from yours. Suggested Further Reading • Radical Hope: Ethics in the Face of Cultural Devastation — Jonathan Lear (Harvard University Press) • Active Hope: How to Face the Mess We’re In Without Going Crazy — Joanna Macy & Chris Johnstone • Hope in the Dark — Rebecca Solnit • Good to Great — Jim Collins (Stockdale Paradox chapter) • The Psychology of Hope — Charles R. Snyder Show links: Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ItMattersHowWeTreatOneAnother/ Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/shop/ItMattersMerch Patreon: http://patreon.com/ItMattersPatrons Podcast website: https://it-matters.captivate.fm/ Host Matthew David Vasko’s website: https://matthewvasko.com/ Intro/Outro/Interstitial music by Z19: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvfnVgE2H20vJQN4Yl7gbtA “It Matters How We Treat One Another” is a production of Meta Key Productions, all rights reserved. If you or someone you know is considering suicide, please call 988 for the National Suicide and Crisis Lifeline (in the United States). The information shared on this show is meant for general educational purposes only. Please consult with a licensed professional before making any life-altering decisions. Listener/viewer assumes all responsibility for any actions taken as a result of consuming this content. Any application of suggestions made on this show is taken at the listener/viewer's sole risk.