Are You Working on a Fixer-Upper?

22 min · 4 de nov de 2025

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You can’t build a healthy relationship by trying to fix someone. In this episode, Tina Shayani breaks down why caring, capable people keep falling for “projects” — and how to finally stop confusing potential with partnership. In This Episode: * Why smart, loving people get trapped in “project relationships.” * How movies and fairy tales taught us to confuse love with saving. * The difference between inspiration and rescue. * What “dating a promise instead of a person” looks like. * Two real stories (Sarah & Eliana) and what finally helped them stop repeating the same pattern. Key Takeaways: 1. You can’t heal someone through love — they have to want to change. 2. If it’s inconsistent now, it won’t magically fix itself later. 3. You’re not in love with them — you’re in love with their potential. 4. A promise can’t love you back. 5. Real love is partnership, not a project. Chapters: 00:00 – Intro: Building Love That Lasts 00:36 – The “Fixer-Upper” Relationship Pattern 02:45 – Why We Fall for Projects 07:10 – The Danger of Falling for Potential 11:15 – Sarah’s Story: Loving from Survival, Not Wholeness 17:10 – Eliana’s Story: Chemistry vs. Anxiety 21:15 – The Wake-Up Moment: Awareness Is Power 23:40 – The Shift from Fantasy to Reality 27:00 – How to Stop Choosing Fixer-Uppers Connect with Tina: Instagram → @JourneyToLastingLove [https://instagram.com/journeytolastinglove] Facebook → TShay Coaching [https://facebook.com/tshaycoaching] DM the word CYCLE to get your free guide: Breaking the Cycle

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