When the Strategy That Saved You Stops Working

The Midlife Awakening That Changed Everything

Discover why people pleasing recovery takes decades, not months, and what actually shifts the pattern over time. Learn how a lifetime of self abandonment shapes the spiritual journey toward becoming a shamanic practitioner. In this episode, Sandy tells her personal story for the first time. Sandy shares an unflinching look at the survival patterns laid down in childhood, three marriages shaped by people pleasing, the deaths that opened a door at sixty-six, and the first Akashic Records reading that changed the direction of everything. If you have ever wondered what a real-life spiritual awakening at midlife looks like — not a tidy version, the actual road — this is that account. We follow the full arc of one woman's people pleasing recovery and spiritual journey — from the little girl who learned to disappear, through marriages built on self abandonment, into the loss that cracked the door open, and finally into the shamanic practice that turned her own healing outward into work she now holds for other women. This is for anyone in midlife who is starting to see the shape of their own road and wondering what comes next. #PeoplePleasingRecovery #MidlifeAwakening #ShamanicPractitioner #SoulRetrieval #AncestralHealing #AkashicRecords #SpiritualAwakeningMidlife #WomenOver60 #WomenOver70 #MyStory #JourneyToSelf #SandyBartlett Take the People Pleasing Persona Quiz 🔗 https://thesandybartlett.com/quiz [https://thesandybartlett.com/quiz] Journey to Self Community 🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about [https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about] Meet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing 🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz [http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com [https://sandybartlett.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

The Version of You That Wants to Skip

Your soul knows exactly who she is. She's light. She's free. She skips. She laughs. She doesn't monitor the room to see if she's being too much. But somewhere along the way, you learned that being that version of yourself wasn't safe. So you calibrated. You restrained yourself. You created a subdued version that could move through the world without being too much. And that version worked. She kept you safe. She helped you fit in. She made sure you were never labeled as the problem. But your soul never stopped wanting to skip. There's a tug of war happening inside you. Between the soul that knows who you are and the conditioning that told you it wasn't safe. And your soul is done waiting. #PeoplePleasingRecovery, #BeingTooMuch, #SoulFragmentation, #ShamanicHealing, #RestrainingYourself, #CalibratedSelf, #SoulRetrieval, #MidlifeWomen, #NervousSystemHealing, #BubblyPersonality, #CarefreeSoul, #ShamanicPractitioner, #SpiritualHealing, #ReclaimingJoy, #AuthenticSelf, #StopCaring, #JourneyToSelf, #SandyBartlett Journey to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about [https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about] Meet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz [http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz] Book your one-to-one Shamanic Sessionhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh [https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com [https://sandybartlett.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

When the Strategy That Saved You Stops Working

Your body learned to get quiet when things got tense. To shrink when you felt unwanted. To make yourself smaller so the other person wouldn't have to feel uncomfortable. It worked. For decades, it worked. It kept you safe. It kept you in relationships. It kept you from being the problem. And then one day, it stopped. Not because you decided to change. But because your soul finally said: I can't do this anymore. That moment — when the old strategy fails and you don't know what comes next — isn't a breakdown. It's a breakthrough. And if you're standing in it right now, this episode is for you. Start Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJ [https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJ] Journey to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about [https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about] Book your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzw [https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzw] Meet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz [http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz] Book your one-to-one Shamanic Sessionhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh [https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com [https://sandybartlett.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

The Rule Nobody Told You About

You've been following a rulebook your whole life. Not one anyone handed you. Not one you ever agreed to. One that was already running when you arrived.   The rules about how visible you're allowed to be. How much space you're allowed to take up. How much of you anyone is allowed to see before it becomes too much. These aren't personality traits. They're ancestral patterns — absorbed before age seven, passed down through the women in your line, wired so deep they stopped feeling like rules and started feeling like you.   This episode is about the moment you see one. Just one. Because once you do, you can't follow it the same way anymore. Start Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJ [https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJ] Journey to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about [https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about] Book your “Awaken the Shift” call https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzw [https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzw] Meet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz [http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz] Book your one-to-one Shamanic Sessionhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh [https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/rrdxhpzpcrktfpthztwrzdgpfcrvbdxh] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com [https://sandybartlett.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Who are you without the armor?

The bracing in your body — that constant readiness in your shoulders, your jaw, your chest — wasn't something you chose. It was how you learned to stay safe while managing everyone else's comfort. And then one day, that tension drops. You look in the mirror and don't recognize the woman looking back. Because without the people pleasing pattern running in the background, who even are you? This episode is about what your body does when it stops bracing for impact and why that doesn't feel like relief at first. It's about meeting the version of yourself who doesn't need the armor anymore — and why that groundlessness is actually the doorway. Start Here - Join the Journey🔗 https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJ [https://subscribepage.io/vfnwJJ] Journey to Self Community🔗 https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about [https://www.skool.com/journey-to-self-the-awakening-1973/about] Book your “Awaken the Shift” callhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzw [https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/fxkhgghnvtvwxpzpsxksndhgxbsgdpzw] Meet Northstar Noelle — your AI guide for clarity, self-trust, and direction beyond people-pleasing🔗 http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz [http://subscribepage.io/NNQKIz] Book your one-to-one Shamanic Sessionhttps://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/vvhppfbxrppbffxrvdnzgwtcnwrbgvpr [https://thesandybartlett.17hats.com/p#/scheduling/vvhppfbxrppbffxrvdnzgwtcnwrbgvpr] #PeoplePleasingRecovery #NervousSystemHealing #SoulRetrieval #ShamanicHealing #MidlifeWomen #EnergyClearing #PeoplePleaser #SecondSpring #TraumaRecovery #AncestralHealing #SelfDiscovery #ShamanicPractitioner #BodyTension #ReclaimYourIdentity #SomaticHealing This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sandybartlett.substack.com [https://sandybartlett.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]