E149: Outgrowing Friendships During Change: How to Know What's Worth Saving

E153: When People Pleasing Stops Working: Learning to Tell the Truth

People pleasing always starts with good intentions It's a strategy that helped us navigate relationships, workplaces, and expectations throughout our lives. Over time, though, what once served us can become exhausting. In this episode, we're talking about what happens when you stop arranging yourself around everyone else's needs and begin paying attention to your own. We'll explore the guilt, the pushback, the identity shifts, and ultimately the freedom that comes from becoming more fully yourself. In this episode: • Understanding the roots of people pleasing • Why guilt is a normal part of growth • How relationships shift when you change • Identity after people pleasing • Building trust in your own judgment If you've spent years making yourself easy for everyone else, I hope this episode offers a different perspective. Small, honest choices have a way of changing the direction of our lives, and every boundary you set is an opportunity to build a more authentic relationship with yourself and the people around you. If you want to go a bit deeper on this, I've attached a simple exercise for you called The YES Audit,  to help you see where people pleasing shows up for you and how to overcome it's pull. Download: 🖊️ The YES Audit HERE [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1GuZINbBBmJ3aDalR4mtnFFD5IsprG4-HoCOzlNGFwxw/edit?usp=sharing] Connect with me: 🌐 https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] 📸 Instagram: @noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] 💼 LinkedIn: Noelle Van [https://www.linkedin.com/in/noellev/] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E152: Jenny Dreizen: Trusting the Life You Didn't Plan

Sometimes the life we're holding onto is the very thing standing in the way of the life we're meant to live. This week on The Change Effect, I sit down with Jenny Dreizen to explore the unexpected beauty of new beginnings. From ending a decade-long relationship to co-founding Fresh Starts Registry and eventually finding love across the world, Jenny's story is a reminder that our biggest transitions often become our greatest opportunities for growth. Together, they discuss: • Why life rarely unfolds according to plan • Learning to let go of what no longer fits to embrace what's next • Navigating heartbreak and major life transitions • Building purpose from personal experience  • The role of serendipity in shaping our lives and how life can change in an instant  Jenny also shares the inspiration behind her upcoming book, Divorce Happens: A Compassionate Guide to Starting Fresh, and the lessons she's learned from helping others rebuild after life's unexpected turns. Whether you're facing a career pivot, the end of a relationship, or simply questioning what's next, this conversation offers hope that endings often become the beginning of something even better. To Connect with Jenny: https://freshstartsregistry.com/,  https://www.instagram.com/genevievedreizen/ https://www.instagram.com/freshstartsregistry To Stay Connected with Noelle:  https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E151: Anger as Fuel: What Your Frustration Is Telling You

What if your anger isn't a problem to solve? What if it's information? In this episode of The Change Effect, we explore one of the most misunderstood emotions women experience and why so many of us have been conditioned to suppress, soften, or explain away our anger. In this episode you'll learn: * Why anger is often a signal, not a flaw * How women are taught to disconnect from their own frustration * The difference between suppression, explosion, and healthy processing * What recurring anger may be trying to show you * How to turn frustration into clarity and action * Why anger often reveals important values and boundaries When we stop treating anger as something to avoid and start viewing it as information, it becomes easier to understand what matters, where our boundaries have been crossed, and what may need to change. This episode offers a practical way to work with anger rather than against it. Download The Anger Inventory Exercise HERE [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1S5KeW6oCMoG8pmvp31TwmMVp6w22Z4hA2J2p-uvaO38/edit?usp=sharing] Connect with Noelle: https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E150: Caru Jones: SoulFULLness and Defining Ambition on Your Own Terms [Pros Who Pivot Series]

One of the themes that comes up often on The Change Effect is the idea that success is not a fixed destination. The definition of ambition that serves us in one season of life may not fit the next, and sometimes the bravest thing we can do is give ourselves permission to redefine it. In this episode, I sit down with Caru Jones for an honest conversation about burnout, identity, intuition, and the evolving nature of ambition. Caru Jones is an executive coach, leadership expert, and founder of Soulfulness Philosophy. With more than two decades of experience across coaching, HR, leadership, and talent development, she helps accomplished women and leaders create success that feels sustainable, aligned, and deeply fulfilling. Drawing from her own journey from a successful global HR career into entrepreneurship, Caru shares the pivotal moments that led her to realize that external achievement alone wasn't enough.  In this episode, we discuss: ·      The importance of understanding our personal values and using them as a compass for both our professional and personal lives. ·      How fear and excitement can feel remarkably similar and why choosing which voice to listen to matters. ·      The concept of "Ambition Without Self-Abandonment" and what it means to pursue meaningful goals while staying connected to yourself. ·      Why success doesn't have to look the same in every season of life, and how giving ourselves permission to evolve creates space for greater fulfillment. Together, we explore what happens when high-achieving women begin asking deeper questions about fulfillment, sustainability, and what they truly want for their lives.  If you are looking for inspiration at the soul level, this is a must listen! Connect with Caru: https://www.carujones.com/ [https://www.carujones.com/] https://www.linkedin.com/in/carujones/ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/carujones/] https://www.instagram.com/carujones/ [https://www.instagram.com/carujones/] Stay Connected with Noelle: Website: www.noellevan.com [http://www.noellevan.com/] Instagram: @noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] YouTube: @noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] Linkedin noellev [https://www.linkedin.com/in/noellev/] If you enjoyed this episode of The Change Effect, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who may be navigating their own next chapter.   Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]

E149: Outgrowing Friendships During Change: How to Know What's Worth Saving

As we evolve, our relationships often evolve with us. In this episode of The Change Effect, we explore what happens when personal growth, career transitions, and major life changes begin to reshape your friendships. Why do some relationships deepen while others become strained? How do you know the difference between temporary friction and a friendship that has run its course? And how do you let go of relationships that no longer fit without creating unnecessary conflict? In this episode you'll learn: * Why change often creates tension in friendships * How your growth can unintentionally trigger others * Signs a friendship is worth investing in * Red flags that a relationship may have reached its natural conclusion * How to create distance without drama * Why loneliness during transition is often part of the process Change often asks more of us than a new plan or a different path. It asks us to examine the relationships surrounding that path as well.  If you've been feeling disconnected, questioning a friendship, or wondering whether you're simply in a season of transition, this episode offers a thoughtful framework for understanding what's changing and why. Download the Friendship Audit Exercise Here [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1d5GvCoPPH-JG6z3WHtI5CxIlnFiRCEDJn2Pv0M0sg34/edit?usp=sharing] Connect with Noelle: https://www.noellevan.com [https://www.noellevan.com/] https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv [https://www.youtube.com/@noellevanv] https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond [https://www.instagram.com/noellevanbeyond] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2097487/support]