Beyond the High-Performance Mask: Breaking the Cycle of 'Human Doing' with Adeola Asabia

From Concert Halls to Altered States: Healing Generational Trauma & Sacred Intimacy with Sarah Tilley

What if the key to saving your relationship isn’t more "talking therapy," but a journey into the subconscious? In this episode, Kristina Spionjak [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-spionjak-4807bb175/] sits down with Sarah Tilley [https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarah-tilleybeautifulspace/], CEO of Beautiful Space [https://beautifulspace.org/] to explore the intersection of music, homeopathy, and psychedelic medicine. Sarah shares her remarkable journey from being an international violinist to developing a pioneering 3-month psychedelic protocol specifically designed for couples. In this episode, we dive into: * The Power of Attunement: How the focus required for an 8-hour violin practice translates into deep emotional healing. * The "Relationship Blueprint": Why we repeat the patterns of our parents and how to break the cycle of generational trauma. * Beyond Talking: Moving from the "thinking mind" to the "feeling body" to address loss of desire and relationship distress. * High-Achiever Struggles: Why successful people often use control as a safety mechanism and how to find freedom within commitment. * The Science of Connection: Sarah’s ongoing research with Imperial College London on psilocybin and relationship wellbeing. Whether you are navigating the "grenade" of new parenthood, career transitions, or simply seeking a deeper spiritual bond, this conversation offers a roadmap to sacred intimacy.

Beyond the High-Performance Mask: Breaking the Cycle of 'Human Doing' with Adeola Asabia

In this episode of Kristina&Co., Kristina Spionjak [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-spionjak-4807bb175/] sits down with Adeola Asabia [https://www.linkedin.com/in/adeola-asabia/], a psychodynamic counselor, to peel back the layers of high-functioning anxiety. Adeola discusses her journey from the high-pressure NHS system to launching a private practice designed as a sanctuary for entrepreneurs, creatives, and therapists. We dive deep into: * The "Human Doing" Trap: Why high achievers tie their worth to performance and how to reclaim the "Human Being." * The Hidden Cost of Ambition: Recognising how early childhood conditioning and attachment styles dictate our business stress and relational patterns. * Emotional Intelligence as Strategy: Why vulnerability isn't a soft skill, but a leadership superpower. * Integrated Healing: The role of faith, spirituality, and culture in the therapy room. * Anger as a Compass: How to stop suppressing "negative" emotions and start using them as a catalyst for change. Whether you're feeling "stuck" in your success or navigating a fear of abandonment in your relationships, Adeola offers a roadmap to authentic living.

The Body Keeps the Score: Why Your Back Pain is Neurological, Not Structural with Coenie De Groot

Have you spent thousands on ergonomic chairs, standing desks, and specialised mattresses, only to find your chronic back pain still lingering? According to veteran osteopath turned neuroplastic coach Coenie De Groot [https://www.neuroplastic-osteopathy.co.uk/], the problem isn’t your posture, it’s your brain. In this episode, Coenie [https://www.linkedin.com/in/coeniedegroot/] reveals how 30 years of sports science and osteopathy led him to a radical realisation: 95% of chronic pain is neuroplastic, not structural. We dive deep into why high-performing founders are prone to "unexplained" physical agony, how past traumas camouflage themselves as slipped discs, and why the "perfect chair" is often a placebo. In this episode, you’ll learn: * Why "red flags" are the only time you should actually worry about physical damage. * The "Boardroom Hijack": How a stressful meeting can trigger a physical back spasm. * Why rest is "rubbish" and why your body actually craves pressure to regenerate. * A 60-second somatic tracking exercise to stop a pain flare-up in its tracks. * How to reprogram your internal dialogue from cortisol-producing criticism to oxytocin-producing safety.

The Body’s Table: Why Your Nervous System Dictates Your Nutrition with Paola Falcoski

Ever wonder why you know exactly what to eat, but find yourself unable to do it? In this episode, Kristina [https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-spionjak-4807bb175/] sits down with Paola Falcoski [https://www.linkedin.com/in/paola-falcoski-msc-pg-dip-bsc-rd-418a8a25/], a specialist dietitian and Somatic Experiencing practitioner, to bridge the gap between mental health and the dinner plate. Paola reveals why traditional dieting fails for high-performers and neurodivergent individuals alike. We dive deep into the world of Somatic Experiencing, exploring how the "body keeps the score" of our trauma and how that manifests as disordered eating, IBS, or chronic burnout. Whether you are navigating an ADHD diagnosis, struggling with corporate stress, or simply trying to understand your body’s confusing signals, this episode provides a roadmap for returning to safety and nourishment. In this episode, we discuss: * The Somatic Shift: Moving beyond talk therapy to follow the body’s physical signals. * Neurodiversity & Nutrition: Why "intuitive eating" often fails for those with ADHD and Autism—and what to do instead. * The Interception Connection: How to retrain your brain to recognize hunger and fullness before you hit a "crash." * Practical Grounding: A 60-second technique to stop an anxiety-fueled binge or restriction cycle. * Legacy of Being Heard: Why collaboration in healthcare is the future of wellness.