Asking for Help: Why It’s Hard and How to Do It Better

5 Things You Can Do Today for Less Stress & More Joy at Work

Stress isn't the price of success—it's the thing getting in the way of it. On this episode, Amy shares five practical actions leaders, teams, and organizations can take right now to reduce workplace stress and create the conditions for greater joy, engagement, and performance. Drawing on insights from her national State of Stress and Joy at Work research study, Amy explains why overwhelmed teams struggle, how stress spreads through organizations, and what leaders can do to create healthier, more sustainable workplaces. CHAPTERS 00:00 Welcome and Why Stress Wins 00:56 Where to Start With Change 02:02 Protect Capacity Not Overload 03:38 Address Stress Together 05:33 Real Joy Over Forced Positivity 09:15 Redesign Work and Find Clarity 11:29 Five-Step Recap and Sendoff ON THIS EPISODE * Why protecting capacity is essential for performance * How stress spreads through teams and organizations * The hidden cost of forced positivity at work * What the Stockdale Paradox teaches us about leadership * Why younger workers experience higher levels of workplace stress * How to distinguish between what's urgent and what's important KEY TAKEAWAYS 1. Stop overwhelming people and start protecting capacity. 2. Stop ignoring stress and start addressing it together. 3. Stop faking positivity and start creating conditions for real joy. 4. Stop blaming generations and start redesigning work. 5. Stop confusing urgent with important and start pausing for clarity. RESOURCES MENTIONED * The State of Stress and Joy at Work Research Study * The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey * Good to Great by Jim Collins CONNECT WITH AMY Visit Amy's website [https://www.amyleneker.com/] to learn more, download the research study, and access additional resources.

The Unexpected Drivers of Stress and Joy at Work

Stress isn’t the price of success. According to Amy Leneker’s latest national research study, it may actually be the thing stealing success from us. On this episode, Amy breaks down the top drivers of workplace stress and the biggest contributors to joy at work — and why both ripple far beyond the office into our homes, relationships, and communities. Chapters 00:00 Welcome and Big Myth 00:56 Research and Ripple Effects 02:51 Why Joy Matters at Work 05:03 Top Joy Busters 08:22 Top Joy Builders and Wrap You’ll discover: * The top 5 workplace “joy busters” * The top 5 “joy builders” * Why feeling valued matters so deeply * How overwhelming workloads fuel burnout * Why purpose and progress are essential for thriving at work * The connection between joy and high performance Amy also shares a surprising story about a CEO who claimed he wasn’t “into joy” — and what the data reveals about why joy is critical for doing our best work. Get the State of Stress & Joy report here: amyleneker.com/research Connect with Amy on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/amyleneker

Just Because You Can Doesn't Mean You Should

What if one of the biggest sources of stress at work is everything you keep fixing that was never yours to carry? On this episode of Less Stress, More Joy, Amy Leneker explores Quadrant 4 of the Un-Stressing Matrix: stressors that are within your control, but not actually important for you to solve. Through a personal story about boundaries, leadership, and people-pleasing, Amy unpacks why “just because you can” doesn’t always mean you should. On this podcast for leaders navigating stress and burnout at work, Amy also shares 6 key benefits of learning to accept without fixing: * Frees up mental energy * Reduces unnecessary stress * Saves time for what matters most * Models healthy boundaries * Builds resilience to discomfort * Strengthens relationships Chapters: 00:00 Welcome to Less Stress 00:44 Unstressing Method Recap 01:52 Quadrant Four Explained 02:58 Sharpie Toddler Metaphor 04:30 Boundary Break Story 11:08 People Pleasing Caveat 14:17 Six Benefits of Letting Go 23:54 Practical Steps and Wrap Up You’ll walk away with practical ways to recognize unhealthy fixing patterns, protect your energy, and create healthier boundaries at work and in life. If this episode resonates with you, follow the show and share it with someone who needs a little less stress and a little more joy this week. Learn more: amyleneker.com #StressAtWork #Leadership #Burnout #PeoplePleasing #WorkplaceStress #AmyLeneker #LessStressMoreJoy #LeadershipDevelopment #Boundaries #MentalHealthAtWork

Asking for Help: Why It’s Hard and How to Do It Better

When was the last time you asked for help? Not offered it. Not powered through on your own. But actually paused and said, “I need support.” On this episode, Amy explores why asking for help feels so difficult—even for high-performing, self-aware leaders—and what the research says about how to do it more effectively. You’ll learn: * Why we associate asking for help with weakness or incompetence * How psychological safety and vulnerability shape our behavior * The difference between autonomous and dependent help-seeking * A simple 4-step framework (HELP) to make asking easier and more effective Amy also shares practical ways to: * Ask for help without damaging trust * Build stronger support systems at work * Create team cultures where asking for help is normalized Key Takeaways: * Asking for help is hard—and it’s also a critical leadership skill * The way you ask determines how people respond * Connection—not isolation—is the path to less stress and more joy Resources Mentioned: * Research on psychological safety (Amy Edmondson) * Work on vulnerability (Brené Brown) * Help-seeking research (London School of Economics) * Insights from Dr. Vivek Murthy on connection and community Chapters: 00:00 Welcome to Less Stress 00:41 Why Asking Feels Hard 02:25 Unstressing Matrix Basics 07:03 Stories and Research 11:06 Autonomous vs Dependent 14:56 HELP Framework Steps 25:34 Build a Help Culture 30:29 Key Takeaways and Goodbye This episode is for anyone interested in asking for help, how to ask for help, why asking for help is hard, leadership skills, workplace communication, psychological safety, vulnerability at work, stress management, burnout prevention, emotional intelligence, workplace stress, leadership development, productivity at work, teamwork and collaboration, asking for support, help seeking behavior, autonomous help seeking, dependent help seeking, build trust at work, professional growth, career development, workplace culture, manager training, team communication, overcoming fear of judgment, confidence at work, mental health at work, connection and community, reduce stress at work, less stress more joy, unstressing method, help framework, leadership coaching, personal development, or work life balance.

Managing Rejection Without Losing Momentum

Comparison doesn’t just “steal joy”—it actively increases stress and keeps you stuck. On this episode, Amy shares a personal story of rejection (including her latest pitch to Harvard Business Review) and the simple, practical method she’s using to move through comparison and rejection without spiraling. If you’ve ever felt behind, not good enough, or stuck measuring yourself against others—this episode gives you a way out. Chapters 00:00 Comparison Steals Joy 00:44 Harvard Rejection Story 03:56 Step One Self Compassion 07:23 Step Two Celebrate Others 12:53 Try It and Wrap Up What You’ll Learn * Why comparison and rejection feel so painful (and so human) * The difference between eustress (helpful) and distress (harmful) * A 2-step method to move through rejection quickly and authentically * How self-compassion changes your experience of stress * Why celebrating others only works after you support yourself first Key Takeaways * You can’t feel true joy while actively comparing yourself to others * Avoiding rejection also means avoiding opportunity * Growth lives in the uncomfortable “not knowing” space * Self-compassion isn’t soft—it’s a performance strategy * You’re not behind—you’re in the process  Links & Resources * Amy’s book: Cheers to Monday [https://www.amyleneker.com/book] * Self-compassion assessment [https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-test/] (via Kristin Neff) * Contact: amy@amyleneker.com [amy@amyleneker.com]