Overthinking Your Way Into Unnecessary Hardship

30+ Lessons from the Last Year

In this special birthday episode of Lessons Learned with Shanita Palmer, I’m sharing 30+ lessons I’ve learned over the last year—straight to the point, no deep explanations. From life and relationships to business and faith, these are the takeaways that shaped me. What to Expect: A rapid-fire list of lessons—real, raw, and unfiltered. Insights on growth, boundaries, mindset shifts, and trusting the process. A look back on what this past year has taught me as I step into a new season. Tune in, take what resonates, and let’s grow together.

Overthinking Your Way Into Unnecessary Hardship

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a cycle of overthinking, trying to figure out the “right” way to handle something, only to realize later that all you really needed to do was obey God? In this episode, we’re unpacking how relying on logic instead of obedience can lead to unnecessary struggles. I’ll share a personal story of delayed obedience, the consequences that followed, and the powerful lesson I learned about trusting God over my own understanding. If you’ve ever wrestled with obeying God because it didn’t “make sense,” this episode is for you. It’s time to stop reasoning your way out of obedience and start walking in the blessings that come with trusting Him completely.

Lesson 9: When Passion Demands a Pivot

When Passion Demands a Pivot is for the women who feel that stirring in their spirit—like something’s shifting, but they don’t know what to do with it. I’ve been there. When God puts a passion in you, it flips your whole perspective, shifts your purpose, and makes you step into battles you never thought you’d fight. Y’all, I’ve been running my law firm for years. I’ve been hopping on social media for years. But when I felt a deeper passion rising, everything changed. This podcast is about recognizing those moments when God is pushing you to pivot—and actually leaning into it. So, if you know deep down you’ve got a story to share, if you feel like you’re sitting on something bigger than you, then stick around. It’s time to stop holding back and step all the way in. 👉 Know you have a story to share? Submit your feature request below! 💡 Got a story to share? Let’s hear it! Submit your feature request → https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSe6j34BU97cZ_cgIau7JZ01dYie-ONmXzM4yXVWHe874sNrOg/viewform?usp=sharing 📲 Let’s connect! Come hang with me on Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/imshanitapalmer?igsh=aXQyY255c3V0ZHpx&utm_source=qr Subscribe to the YouTube → https://youtube.com/@lessonslearnedwsp?si=bxlFJqW86Ktl8Ffe 🎥 And y’all, we’re about to take this to the next level. YouTube is coming soon, and I want y’all there from the start! Full episodes, behind-the-scenes, all of it. Subscribe now so you don’t miss the launch!

Lesson 8: It’s Not All About You

Before you can truly lead, you have to master what you've been through. This episode explores why God doesn’t just bring you out of deep waters—He teaches you how to breathe in them. The struggles you’ve endured were never just about you; they were about equipping you to go back and help someone else. But before you can lead, you need to understand the process of transformation, endurance, and spiritual mastery. Key Takeaways: ✅ God Is With You in the Deep, Not Just on the Shore – Isaiah 43:2 (GNT): “When you pass through deep waters, I will be with you; your troubles will not overwhelm you.” The deep wasn’t meant to destroy you—it was meant to develop you. The presence of struggle doesn’t mean the absence of God; it means He is right there, sustaining you. ✅ Survival Isn’t the Goal—Mastery Is – The deep waters weren’t meant to drown you; they were meant to train you. You don’t just get out of the storm—you learn how to function in it. ✅ Love Looks Like Going Back – God doesn’t just free you for your sake. The real test of growth is your ability to return and walk alongside someone else in love. (Galatians 6:2, GNT) ✅ You Can’t Lead People Out of What You Haven’t Mastered – Leadership isn’t just about telling people what to do—it’s about having firsthand experience and wisdom to guide them. Personal Stories Shared in This Episode: 📌 Overcoming Alcohol Temptation – The struggle was intense at first, but over time, God strengthened me to the point where it no longer had power over me. 📌 From an Air Mattress to Opening My Home – Losing my job, staying with a friend, and experiencing instability prepared me to extend grace and hospitality to someone else in the same situation. 📌 Harriet Tubman in the Spirit – It’s not just about getting free; it’s about helping others walk into their freedom too. Reflection Questions: 🔹 What struggle have you been praying for God to remove, but maybe He’s trying to teach you how to breathe in it instead? 🔹 Who are you called to go back and help once you’ve made it through? 🔹 How is God using your deep waters to transform you, not just save you? To Do List: If this episode resonated with you, take some time to reflect: What is God asking you to endure so that you can come back stronger? Who needs you to make it through so that you can guide them? Share this episode with someone who needs encouragement today

Lesson 7: Toxic for Too Long-Breaking Up w/ Burnout

Ever feel like you love what you do, but you're still exhausted? You’re not alone. In this episode, I get real about burnout, why so many high achievers struggle to slow down, and how our childhood experiences with awards, praise, and overachievement may have set us up for this cycle. I used to think admitting I was tired meant I was ungrateful, but in reality, it was an invitation to find a new strategy.