How to Make (and Keep) Real Friends as an Adult

How to Make (and Keep) Real Friends as an Adult

This week on In Alignment, Annie and Marissa go solo for an honest conversation about female friendship: why it’s one of the most nurturing forces in our lives, how to find and keep great friends, and when it’s time to walk away from the ones that aren’t serving you. They open up about the qualities that define their closest friendships: authenticity, grace, active listening, and the gift of friends who genuinely celebrate your wins without a hint of competition. Annie shares how she learned to give grace after a younger life shaped by betrayal and a fear of abandonment that made her quick to cut people off, while Marissa explains how dropping her perfectionism and showing up as her full self transformed her relationships. The conversation gets tactical, too. They cover how to actually make friends as an adult, why your friends’ friends are the best vehicle for expanding your circle, and the underrated power of being a connector who merges friend groups instead of siloing them. They also tackle the harder stuff: how to tell the difference between a friend who’s genuinely wrong for you and feelings that are really your own work to do, and why “just because someone hurt your feelings doesn’t mean they did something wrong.” Finally, they get real about not losing yourself, or your friendships, inside a romantic relationship, and why, as Marissa’s grandmother’s independent-living community makes vividly clear, the female friendships you nurture now may be the relationships that carry you through the rest of your life. Get full access to Shift Into Alignment at shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe [https://shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Everything You Need to Know About Your Health in Your 30s — with Amber Berger, Founder of The Well Drop

Amber Berger is a wellness entrepreneur and founder of The Well Drop. At 11 years old she was diagnosed with juvenile rheumatoid arthritis. By her sophomore year of high school she had Crohn’s disease and surgery. The conventional protocol was steroids for life. She said no — and healed herself, putting her autoimmune disease into remission. In this episode Annie and Marissa sit down with Amber to talk about what it actually looks like to heal from the root when the medical system has run out of answers. Amber shares how a trip to a macrobiotic institute in the Berkshires — blind, desperate, and open — healed her Crohn’s disease and set her on a path she has never looked back from. Nearly 30 years later, she is still in remission. But this conversation goes far beyond Amber’s story. It’s a practical, specific, no-nonsense guide to taking agency over your health — especially as a woman in your 30s and 40s navigating perimenopause, hormonal shifts, PCOS, blood sugar dysregulation, weight resistance, and a medical system that still treats women as an afterthought. What you’ll hear in this episode: How Amber healed Crohn’s disease without steroids through macrobiotics, food as medicine, and Eastern healing modalities — and what her doctor said when she told him. Why your 30s are the most important decade to set your health baseline — and the exact labs and markers Amber recommends every woman should know. The truth about perimenopause that nobody tells you until you’re already in it — and why starting to prepare in your 30s changes everything. Why strength training is the single most important thing women can do for their long term health, hormones, bone density, and metabolism — and why most women are still not doing it. The glucose monitor experiment that helped a client lose 10 pounds when nothing else was moving the needle — and why Amber recommends every woman wear one for two weeks. How blood sugar dysregulation is the hidden driver behind PCOS, endometriosis, brain fog, moodiness, energy crashes, and weight resistance — and the simple food pairings and timing tweaks that change it. Why stress literally spikes your blood sugar — and what Annie found out about her own pre-diabetic numbers from a toxic job. The “garbage in, garbage out” principle applied to women’s health — and why the quality of what goes in your body every single day matters more than any supplement or protocol layered on top. What Eastern medicine gets right that conventional medicine keeps missing — and why inflammation is the thread connecting almost every chronic symptom women experience. Find Amber: Website [https://www.amberberger.me] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/astarrberger/] Get full access to Shift Into Alignment at shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe [https://shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Rock Bottom Is Where the Best Things Are Built

This week Annie and Marissa are back together for a solo episode — and it’s one of their most personal yet. They kick things off with the story of how Shift came together on New Year’s Eve, the angel numbers that have followed them since, and what it actually looks and feels like when you start trusting signs from the universe. From there the conversation goes deep. They get into what it means to come home to yourself — not as a concept but as a lived, daily practice — and share the parallel journeys they were both on this past fall that led them here. Annie opens up about leaving venture capital and going through the hardest breakup of her life at the same time. Marissa shares what it was like to be at her lowest point in college, betrayed by her closest friend, and how she slowly relearned how to trust. What comes out of both of their stories is the same truth: the return to self is not a solo journey. It happens in relationship — with friends who see you, with experiences that crack you open, with the moments you finally let yourself be fully seen and discover you are still loved. Marissa talks about what it took to stop wearing the mask. Annie talks about how the hustle itself was a form of protection — and what happened when she finally put it down. They close with the most tangible, practical section of the episode: what to actually do when you feel stuck, lost, and disconnected from yourself. Annie shares the exercise she did two days after her breakup — a list she called “healing” that guided her back home. Marissa shares how journaling became the thing that moved the fear through her body and made this podcast possible. And they leave you with one of the best lines of the episode: never trust an inside thought. Go outside first. What you’ll hear in this episode: The New Year’s Eve walk where Shift was born — and the angel numbers that haven’t stopped since. What signs from the universe actually look like and how to start noticing them. How Annie processed leaving a seven year career and her hardest breakup at the same time. Marissa’s college rockbottom, a friend breakup that hit harder than any romantic one, and how she slowly rebuilt trust. Why the hustle, the overworking, and the performing were all forms of protection — and what life feels like when you put them down. The fear of being seen — and what happened when both of them finally let themselves be. How relationships become mirrors that walk us back home to ourselves. Annie’s healing list — the exercise she created two days after her breakup that you can do today. Why journaling moves fear through the body in a way that logic alone never can. The one thing to do when a dark thought won’t leave you alone. Get full access to Shift Into Alignment at shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe [https://shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Is Wellness Making Women More Anxious?

This week on In Alignment, we’re joined by holistic nutritionist and somatic practitioner Madison Miller for a conversation that challenges so much of what women have been taught about healing. What if the symptoms you’ve been trying to fix — anxiety, gut issues, chronic inflammation, skin flare-ups, jaw tension, even exhaustion — are not random, but signals? Madison shares why so many women are stuck in cycles of over-optimizing, over-supplementing, and over-controlling their health, while missing a deeper root: chronic stress physiology, emotional suppression, and disconnection from the body. We talk about the ways “wellness culture” can sometimes become another form of dissociation, how symptoms can act as messengers rather than problems to silence, and why true healing may have less to do with adding more protocols and more to do with rebuilding self-trust. This is a conversation about moving from perfectionism to embodiment, from discipline rooted in fear to devotion rooted in self-love. We explore: * How unprocessed emotions can show up as physical symptoms * The connection between nervous system dysregulation, inflammation, gut issues and hormone symptoms * Why doing everything “right” can still leave women feeling unwell * The difference between optimization and embodiment * How perfectionism and wellness culture can fuel the very symptoms they promise to fix * Why symptoms may be sacred messengers, not betrayals * Somatics, EFT tapping and simple ways to begin reconnecting with your body * The role of community in healing and why healing was never meant to be done alone * Reframing discipline as devotion * Why simplifying, not adding more, may be one of the most healing things you can do If you’ve ever felt frustrated that you’re doing all the “right” things and still don’t feel well, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Where to find Madison? Website [https://bodylovebymadison.com/about] Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/bodylovebymadison] Get full access to Shift Into Alignment at shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe [https://shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Amanda Wahlstedt, Founder of Roots to Leaves: The Hormone Conversation Every Woman Deserves to Have

Amanda Wahlstedt is a registered dietitian, functional health practitioner, and founder of Roots to Leaves — a private practice working exclusively with women on hormonal health, fertility, and whole-body wellness. Her own experience coming off the pill after a decade and being met with no real answers is what sent her on the path to building the practice she wished had existed. In this episode, Annie and Marissa sit down with Amanda for one of the most honest, practical conversations they've had on women's hormonal health. They talk about how the birth control pill impacts your body and why you can't see the full picture until you're off it, the connection between chronic stress and reproductive hormones, and why nervous system support is so much more than a wellness trend. Amanda also shares the question she comes back to with every client — is this action coming from love or from fear — and why the energy behind a health habit matters just as much as the habit itself. They also get into endocrine disruptors, what they are, where they’re hiding in your daily life, and the three buckets to prioritize first without overhauling everything overnight. Plus a conversation on tampons, what wellness actually means to Amanda right now, and the healing ritual she swears by that has nothing to do with supplements or protocols. This conversation is not about doing more or optimizing harder. It is about finally understanding your body — and learning to work with it instead of against it. Where to Find Amanda: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/roots_to_leaves/] Substack [https://rootstoleaves.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Website [https://rootstoleaves.com] Get full access to Shift Into Alignment at shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe [https://shiftintoalignment.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]