EP. 42: Boundaries in Relationships: Why Saying No Feels So Hard

EP. 42: Boundaries in Relationships: Why Saying No Feels So Hard

Boundaries are one of the most important and most misunderstood parts of healthy relationships. Have you ever struggled to say no, felt guilty setting limits, or found yourself feeling resentful because you keep putting everyone else first? In this episode of Life & Love by Design, I’m breaking down what boundaries really are, why so many of us struggle to create them, and how setting healthy boundaries can actually strengthen your relationships - not push people away. Boundaries are there to support your relationships, not damage them! But, like anything else, how you communicate your boundaries is just as important as the boundaries themselves. And, in my experience, setting a healthy boundary could be the best thing you ever do for your relationships. In this week’s episode, we’ll talk about the difference between a boundary and a wall, why unspoken expectations create resentment, and the steps you can take to communicate your needs with more confidence and clarity. If you’ve ever felt stuck, disconnected from yourself, or unsure how to create healthier patterns in your relationships, this conversation is for you. How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 41: Why Good People Make Bad Decisions (It's Not What You Think) with Tom Hardin (Tipper X)

How do good people end up making life-changing mistakes? Tom Hardin made a handful of bad decisions, which led to the FBI approaching him on the street. He was caught insider trading on Wall Street, and the FBI demanded that he become an informant for them and turn against his colleagues. I read his book, which is full of insightful information about relationships, his marriage, and how he built his life back up from public disgrace.  Tom Hardin, formerly known as “Tipper X,” is the author of the national bestseller Wired on Wall Street: The Rise and Fall of Tipper X. A former hedge fund analyst, Hardin became one of the FBI’s most prolific cooperating witnesses in its historic insider trading investigation, Operation Perfect Hedge. Today, he speaks globally to corporate and university audiences on ethics, decision-making, conduct risk, and the pressures that lead good people into bad decisions. In this episode of Life & Love by Design, I sit down with Tom Hardin (Tipper X) for a powerful conversation about difficult decisions, trust, loyalty, shame, forgiveness, marriage, and redemption. This isn't a conversation about Wall Street. It's about being human. We explore why good people sometimes make bad decisions, how those choices impact the people we love, and what it takes to move forward with integrity. If you've ever struggled with guilt, faced a difficult decision, experienced betrayal, or wondered whether trust can truly be rebuilt, this episode is for you. Follow Tom on: Instagram: @iamtipperx [https://www.instagram.com/iamtipperx_] LinkedIn: TipperX [https://www.linkedin.com/in/tipperx/] Buy Wired on Wall Street here: TipperX.com/book [http://tipperx.com/book]  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 40: 8 Conversations Every Couple MUST Have Before Getting Married

Getting married is a wonderful time in your life. It’s also the busiest time of your life, with maybe the highest stakes you’ll ever encounter. Because everyone hopes that they’ll only be married once, so they want everything leading up to the wedding to go smoothly.  There’s the wedding, the paperwork, the blending of the families, but what about you? Is your relationship ready for marriage? Are you guys, two people who love each other very much, prepared for the rest of your lives? In my experience, many couples are not. So let’s fix that. In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the 8 conversations every couple MUST have before getting married. Love is not enough to keep a marriage together. Most relationships don’t fall apart because of a lack of love, but because of a lack of deep understanding.  So let’s set your marriage up for success by identifying what conversations you must have with your future spouse and why.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 39: “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me”

I was shocked when I read the title of this Reddit story! My daughter brought it to my attention, and I knew I had to make a podcast episode about it. Not just because I’m a relationship coach, but because I’ve lived through this before, too.  I’ve had the “you changed” conversation before. And the more I work with couples, the more I see this conversation come up. And honestly, it’s normal! Because we are all changing all the time. So how do we work through this period of change without resenting each other?  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about the Reddit story, “He Says I Changed After Kids… I Think He Misses His ‘Barbie Doll’ Version of Me.” First of all, you can tell the author of this post is hurting. But I don’t entirely think it’s her husband's fault. Actually, I don’t think it’s anyone’s fault. Tune in to this week’s episode to hear my thoughts on this shocking Reddit story and what solutions I have for this couple during this season of change.  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website:www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]

EP. 38: Reclaim Your Power & Become the Next Level Woman

Reclaiming your power is about more than blaming others for your problems. It’s about giving yourself the life you’ve always wanted. The life you’ve put on the back burner and now have the motivation to make it happen for yourself.  So many of my clients say that they want to make a personal transformation. They want to treat themselves better, they want to deepen their relationships, and they want to be more fulfilled. Which is why they joined the Next Level Program.  In this week’s episode, we’re talking about how to reclaim your power and become the Next Level woman. The life you want is within your reach! You just need the guidance and structure to make it happen. In the Next Level Woman program, I’ll guide you through the 5 Pillars I use to set my clients up for success.  Tune in to hear more about how to reclaim your power and how we’ll use the 5 Pillars to design your most amazing life!  How to work with Odette: Book a free consultation call for the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/booking-calendar/complimentary-next-level-consult?referral=service_list_widget] Check out more information on the Next Level Woman: Life & Love by Design Experience, Odette’s six-month coaching program, here! [https://www.odettecoronel.com/nextlevelwoman] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Life Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/lifecoaching] Book a consultation call for Odettes’s Couples Coaching Services here!  [https://www.odettecoronel.com/relationships] Sign up for a Complimentary RELATIONSHIP & LIFE ALIGNMENT AUDIT [https://www.odettecoronel.com/freesession] Buy the Re-ignite Your Spark Journal here! [https://www.amazon.com/Re-ignite-Your-Spark-Cultivating-Relationship-ebook/dp/B0DC2C5NJG/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1crid=2IF060I1HTA94&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ojVwSKTyqELcPvEIJyTp0eWRx05pry5b-wvA1mXAEHHGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.jgY4YmTQ_qXsM1P1VYk2-HZazawLD0PRAl4jaW2S--0&dib_tag=se&keywords=odette+coronel&qid=1768159910&sprefix=odette+coronel%2Caps%2C244&sr=8-1]  Follow Odette on: Instagram @‌odettecoronelcoaching [https://www.instagram.com/odettecoronelcoaching/] TikTok @‌odetterelationshipcoach    [https://www.tiktok.com/@odetterelationshipcoach] LinkedIn: Odette Coronel [https://www.linkedin.com/in/odette-coronel-5ba1981b9/] Website: www.odettecoronel.com [https://www.odettecoronel.com/] Podcast production for this episode was provided by CCST, an Afro-Latina-owned boutique podcast production and copywriting studio.  [https://www.sarahtullochwrites.com/podcast-production]