Midlife Dating and Connections: Lessons Learned with Author Kerri Sackville

Midlife Dating and Connections: Lessons Learned with Author Kerri Sackville

In this episode of Kizmet, host Kiz Harvey speaks with author and columnist Kerri Sackville about life after divorce and the powerful path of self-discovery. Together, they unpack the emotional rollercoaster of ending a marriage, the realities of parenting solo, and the evolving nature of friendships post-divorce. Kerry shares her honest reflections on dating in midlife, why emotional safety is non-negotiable in relationships, and how learning to embrace aloneness became a gateway to personal growth. Whether you're navigating divorce, rediscovering yourself, or curious about midlife dating, this conversation offers real talk, hard-won wisdom, and hope for what comes next. Connect with us:  Website – kizmet.me [http://kizmet.me/] Instagram -  @Kizmet.me [https://www.instagram.com/kizmet.me/]  Tiktok - @kizmet.me [https://www.tiktok.com/@kizmet.me] Watch this episode on our YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@Kizmet.me1] Produced by - https://fromyourpocket.com.au/SESSION in PROGRESS [https://sessioninprogress.com.au/]   Connect with Kerri: https://www.kerrisackville.com.au/ [https://www.kerrisackville.com.au/]    Key Takeaways * Why it’s healthier to be alone than in the wrong relationship * How divorce can feel like a chaotic reset—and what comes after * The challenges and rewards of solo parenting * Why self-acceptance and comfort with aloneness are essential before dating again * How friendship dynamics shift after a breakup * The role of emotional safety in building new relationships * That you don’t need an excuse to say no in dating or life Chapter Breakdown: 00:00 — Navigating Post-Divorce Life 02:30 — Reflections on Marriage Breakdown 09:23 — The Role of New Partners 11:27 — Dating in Midlife: The Journey Begins 16:09 — The Importance of Being Alone 22:30 — Friendship Dynamics After Divorce 25:17 — The Value of Aloneness 30:28 — Finding Emotional Safety in Relationships See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

“He got her pregnant and didn’t tell anybody” | Confronting Infidelity after 26 years of marriage.

In this episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with Alice to explore the emotional complexities of infidelity shattering Alice’s once-thriving expat lifestyle, leading to a powerful journey of personal growth, self-discovery, and healing. Alice shares the subtle signs of betrayal, and the overwhelming emotional recovery required to rebuild after separation. This heartfelt conversation highlights the role of resilience in navigating relationships post-divorce, the loneliness often experienced in expat life, and the ongoing process of reclaiming one's identity.   Connect with us:  Website – kizmet.me [http://kizmet.me/] Instagram -  @Kizmet.me [https://www.instagram.com/kizmet.me/]  Tiktok - @kizmet.me [https://www.tiktok.com/@kizmet.me] Watch this episode on our YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@Kizmet.me1] Produced by - https://fromyourpocket.com.au/SESSION in PROGRESS [https://sessioninprogress.com.au/]   Key Takeaways: * Infidelity often reveals itself in subtle yet deeply impactful ways. * Honest confrontation is essential for addressing relationship breakdowns. * The emotional aftermath of betrayal can feel overwhelming and disorienting. * Children are highly perceptive of shifting family dynamics. * Trust is the cornerstone of any strong relationship. * Rebuilding after divorce demands deep self-reflection and growth. * Forgiveness is a key part of emotional healing. * Self-discovery is a lifelong journey, especially after significant life changes. Episode Chapters: 00:00 Navigating Life After Divorce 01:38 The Expat Experience and Its Challenges 03:06 The Unraveling of a Marriage 10:14 Confrontation and Realizations 19:06 The Aftermath of Betrayal 29:49 Finding Identity and Healing 37:12 Moving Forward and Embracing Change 40:14 Reflections on Love and Forgiveness See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

Child of Divorce | The Ripple Effects of Family Separation

In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey has a candid and thought-provoking conversation with Dan about the complexities surrounding his parents' divorce after 50 years of marriage. They delve into the often-overlooked ripple effects of such a life-changing event, particularly how it impacts families and relationships. Kiz and Dan discuss the emotional shock of witnessing a long-lasting marriage come to an end, the crucial role of empathy in understanding everyone’s perspective, and the difficulties of navigating family dynamics in the aftermath of divorce. Through personal reflections, Dan shares the challenges of supporting children and grandchildren while still trying to maintain healthy relationships as the family adjusts to the changes. Emphasising the importance of open communication, understanding, and compassion, Dan offers valuable insights into how families can weather the emotional storm of a late-in-life divorce and find ways to heal together. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of the complexities of family and the resilience needed to thrive in the face of unexpected change.   Connect with us:  Website – kizmet.me [http://kizmet.me/] Instagram -  @Kizmet.me [https://www.instagram.com/kizmet.me/]  Tiktok - @kizmet.me [https://www.tiktok.com/@kizmet.me] Watch this episode on our YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@Kizmet.me1] Listen to Dans mothers episode on Kizmet here [https://www.kizmet.me/podcast/episode/437bf524/from-heartbreak-to-happiness-a-psychologists-journey-or-ep7] Produced by - https://fromyourpocket.com.au/SESSION in PROGRESS [https://sessioninprogress.com.au/]   🔖 divorce, family dynamics, grief, empathy, relationships, post-divorce, parenting, communication, resilience, personal growth   Key Takeaways * Divorce impacts not just the couple but the entire family unit. * Children are resilient but need support and understanding during transitions. * It's important to protect children from the negative aspects of adult relationships. * Grief is a personal and unique experience that everyone processes differently. * Maintaining boundaries is essential for healthy family interactions post-divorce. * Open doors for communication help children express their feelings and concerns. * Understanding the reasons behind relationship breakdowns can foster empathy. * Personal growth often comes from navigating difficult family situations.    Chapters 00:00 Navigating Divorce and Its Ripple Effects 07:41 The Shock of Separation and Family Dynamics 19:01 Understanding Grief and Moving Forward 22:42 The Importance of Empathy and Non-Judgment 30:38 Key Takeaways for Families in Transition See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

The truth (and) lies somewhere in the middle | The daughters perspective

The Divorce Part 3: Daughter In this deeply moving episode of the Kizmet podcast, host Kiz Harvey speaks with Kartya about the emotional impact of her parents divorce on family dynamics and mental health. Kartya recounts her journey through her parents' separation, the sudden shift in family roles, and the profound emotional upheaval she faced. It highlights how communication breakdowns, secrets, and shifting responsibilities can affect children during and after a divorce. This episode offers valuable life lessons on coping strategies, emotional recovery, and the transformative power of reinvention and personal development.   Connect with us:  Website – kizmet.me [http://kizmet.me/] Instagram -  @Kizmet.me [https://www.instagram.com/kizmet.me/]  Tiktok - @kizmet.me [https://www.tiktok.com/@kizmet.me] Watch this episode on our YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@Kizmet.me1] Produced by - https://fromyourpocket.com.au/SESSION in PROGRESS [https://sessioninprogress.com.au/]   Key Takeaways: * Divorce impacts the entire family dynamic, not just the couple. * Children often experience confusion and emotional pain during separation. * Poor communication can deepen emotional wounds in divorce. * Children may unexpectedly take on caregiving roles. * Mental health struggles can complicate the divorce experience. * Keeping secrets from children fosters isolation and mistrust. * Divorce can accelerate a child's journey to independence. * Appearances of a "perfect family" can mask deeper issues. * Post-divorce relationships thrive with open, honest communication. * Personal growth often springs from emotional adversity. * The emotional impact of family turmoil is profound and lasting. * Support systems, especially strong friendships, are crucial for healing. * Mixed emotions are a normal response to major life changes. * Resilience often emerges through hardship and healing. * Therapy can be a key tool for emotional growth and recovery. * Trauma can unlock hidden strengths and confidence. * Navigating post-divorce parental relationships is complex but vital. * True personal development often requires stepping outside comfort zones. * Embracing change can lead to unexpected new beginnings and empowerment. Episode Chapters: 00:00 — The Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics 03:50 — Navigating the Shock of Separation 11:52 — The Unraveling of Family Facades 15:46 — The Role Reversal: Becoming the Caregiver 20:41 — Communication Breakdown and Emotional Fallout 21:35 — Navigating Family Turmoil 25:03 — The Journey to Independence 30:10 — Finding Resilience Through Adversity 36:10 — Mixed Emotions of New Beginnings 41:16 — Embracing Change and Growth See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.

"I'm leaving Monday" | Serena's husband Pred shares his side of their divorce

The Divorce Part 2: Husband In this episode of the Kizmet Podcast, host Kiz Harvey sits down with previous episode guest Serena’s husband Pred to explore his life during and after divorce. Together, they discuss the emotional impact of their marriage breakdown, the complexities of dating again in your 50s, and the journey of personal reinvention. Pred shares his candid experiences with navigating family dynamics, finding happiness, and ultimately remarrying. The conversation sheds light on the challenges and opportunities that come with post-divorce life and the lessons learned along the way. Stay tuned for the next episode with their daughter Kartya.   Connect with us:  Website – kizmet.me [http://kizmet.me/] Instagram -  @Kizmet.me [https://www.instagram.com/kizmet.me/]  Tiktok - @kizmet.me [https://www.tiktok.com/@kizmet.me] Watch this episode on our YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@Kizmet.me1] Produced by - https://fromyourpocket.com.au/SESSION in PROGRESS [https://sessioninprogress.com.au/]   Key Takeaways: * The emotional impact of divorce varies among family members. * Reinvention after divorce is a transformative experience. * Understanding different perspectives is crucial in processing a marriage breakdown. * Investing in relationships before children leave home strengthens family bonds. * Many couples experience a disconnect after focusing primarily on parenting. * Dating after divorce requires openness to new experiences. * Honest communication is essential in new relationships. * The pursuit of happiness post-divorce can lead to unexpected opportunities. * Navigating family dynamics after divorce presents both challenges and rewards. * Personal growth often stems from reflecting on past relationships. Memorable Sound Bites: * "I'm leaving on Monday." * "I didn't really want to mess up his HSC." * "I was literally counting the days." * "Marriage is perfunctory. We're just going through the motions." * "You can never go forward by looking in a rearview mirror." Chapters: 00:00 – Introduction to Kizmet Podcast and Guest Pred 02:55 – Reflections on Marriage Breakdown and Narratives 05:57 – Understanding the Impact of Divorce on Family Dynamics 08:53 – The Journey of Reinvention After Divorce 12:08 – Dating and Relationships Post-Divorce 15:06 – Navigating New Relationships and Family Dynamics 17:46 – Finding Happiness and Remarrying 20:56 – Lessons Learned and Moving Forward 24:01 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts Tune in to this insightful discussion on rebuilding life after divorce and embracing new beginnings. Don’t forget to subscribe to Kizmet Podcast for more relatable stories of divorce! See omnystudio.com/listener [https://omnystudio.com/listener] for privacy information.