Survival Mode and Relationships

The Impossible Questions

Sometimes there is an answer to impossible questions.

Survival Mode and Relationships

In this episode of "Life and the Living of It" I talk about survivor mode.  Before “survivor mode” became part of our vernacular, it was a term animal behaviorists used to describe when animals were forced, by starvation or risk of death, into more risky behaviors.  Sometimes this works.  They survive.  The problem is, is that when it works the same animal is more likely to repeat these behaviors in the next time of extremes.  We do the same thing.   We feel forced into risky behaviors in the name of avoiding risk.  Out of fear we choose the more dangerous behaviors that, while they have a short-term survival value, have little value in living life.  Though when we get into survival mode, it negatively affects what to us is a  survival trait, the ability to enter relationships with others. .

Transformations: A Starfish Story

Transformations happen; sometimes small and sometimes off the scale.  In this episode  of "Life and the Living of It" I tell the story of the moment of transformation of a fellow camp counselor; a starfish devotion; and the repercussions it had.

Identity: Who we are and How we show up in the world

In this episode, I talk about identity and how we form our sense of ourselves through others and within.

Narcissism

In this episode of "Life and the Living of It" I talk about narcissism and narcissistic personality disorder and the differences between the two.  I also get into some signs you may be in a narcissistic relationship and when you may need to leave.