S02: E14 | YES: Agreeing with God About Who You Are

S02: E15 | CHOICE: From Knowing to Choosing – The Courage to Decide

What does it look like to move from knowing to deciding — with clarity, courage, and conviction?   In this episode of Love & Light Leadership with Dr. Phenessa, we explore choice as a spiritual discipline, a leadership responsibility, and one of the most undervalued skills a leader carries. Drawing from Deuteronomy 30:19–20, Romans 12:1–2 (Mirror Bible), Jesus' model of deliberate leadership, and research on values-based decision-making under pressure, this episode challenges you to move from circling to choosing.   You'll hear:  * Why choice is where values become visible, not just stated * How Deuteronomy 30:19–20 reveals the love behind God's invitation to choose * What Romans 12:1–2 says about inside-out transformation through faithful choosing * What research on stress and decision-making reveals about leading under pressure * Five practical choices Jesus made as a leader and what they teach us * Three discernment practices to strengthen values-based choosing this week If you have been circling a decision you already know — this episode is your invitation to stop circling and start choosing.   Take what you need. Choose life. Move forward faithfully.   Part of: 100-day Take What You Need: Grace & Grit to Be journey   📚 Accessible Resources   Scripture Tools (Free) Bible Gateway. (n.d.). Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com Bible Hub. (n.d.). Bible Hub. https://www.biblehub.com Blue Letter Bible. (n.d.). Blue Letter Bible. https://www.blueletterbible.org Du Toit, F. (2012). The Mirror Bible: Romans 12:1–2. Mirrorword Publishing. https://www.mirrorword.net [https://www.mirrorword.net]     Episode References Berkeley Executive Education. (2026, January 21). Ethical leadership in times of crisis. University of California, Berkeley. https://executive.berkeley.edu/thought-leadership/blog/ethical-leadership-times-crisis [https://executive.berkeley.edu/thought-leadership/blog/ethical-leadership-times-crisis] Odgers Berndtson. (2024, June 20). Values-based leadership: Shifting company values to modern labour expectations. https://www.odgers.com/en-us/insights/values-based-leadership-shifting-company-values-to-modern-labour-expectations [https://www.odgers.com/en-us/insights/values-based-leadership-shifting-company-values-to-modern-labour-expectations] Penn State University. (2026, June 17). Q&A: Do high-pressure environments encourage moral disengagement? https://www.psu.edu/news/education/story/qa-do-high-pressure-environments-encourage-moral-disengagement [https://www.psu.edu/news/education/story/qa-do-high-pressure-environments-encourage-moral-disengagement] Regent University. (2025, March 10). Reexamining servant leadership in the Gospel of Mark. https://www.regent.edu/journal/inner-resources-for-leaders/servant-leadership-in-the-gospel-of-mark/ [https://www.regent.edu/journal/inner-resources-for-leaders/servant-leadership-in-the-gospel-of-mark/] Logos. (2025, June 5). Servant-leadership: How Jesus redefines greatness. https://www.logos.com/grow/servant-leadership-of-jesus/ [https://www.logos.com/grow/servant-leadership-of-jesus/] Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

S02: E14 | YES: Agreeing with God About Who You Are

What does it look like to say yes with clarity, alignment, and holy confidence? In this episode of the Love & Light Leadership Podcast with Dr. Phenessa, we explore the power of yes as a spiritual response, a leadership practice, and an act of agreement. Drawing from Scripture, leadership insight, and personal reflection, this episode helps you release borrowed identity, honor what is true, and step into a more aligned way of living and leading. You’ll hear: * Why yes is more than agreement — it is alignment * How God’s voice becomes a mirror for identity * Why intrinsic motivation makes your yes more sustainable * What role ambiguity reveals about confusion in leadership * Practical ways to strengthen your yes this week If you’ve been overcommitting, second-guessing yourself, or waiting for permission to be who God already says you are, this episode is for you. Take what you need. Say the yes. Agree with God. Part of: 100-day Take What You Need: Grace & Grit to Be journey. 📚 Accessible Resources Scripture Tools (Free) Bible Gateway. (n.d.). Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com Bible Hub. (n.d.). Bible Hub. https://www.biblehub.com Blue Letter Bible. (n.d.). Blue Letter Bible. https://www.blueletterbible.org Episode References Abdelmoteleb, S. A. A. (2023). Role ambiguity and role conflict effects on employees’ emotional exhaustion: The mediating role of job stress. Cogent Business & Management, 10(1). https://doi.org/10.1080/23311975.2024.2326237 Bridges, W. (2004). Transitions: Making sense of life’s changes (2nd ed.). Da Capo Press. Cloud, H., & Townsend, J. (1992). Boundaries: When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life. Zondervan. Deci, E. L., Olafsen, A. H., & Ryan, R. M. (2017). Self-determination theory in work organizations: The state of a science. Annual Review of Organizational Psychology and Organizational Behavior, 4, 19–43. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-orgpsych-032516-113108 Frazier, M. L., Fainshmidt, S., Klinger, R. L., Pezeshkan, A., & Vracheva, V. (2017). Psychological safety: A meta-analytic review and extension. Personnel Psychology, 70(1), 113–165. https://doi.org/10.1111/peps.12183 Morrison, E. W. (2023). Employee voice and silence: Taking stock a decade later. Annual Review of Organizational Psychology and Organizational Behavior, 10, 79–107. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-orgpsych-120920-054654 Porath, C., Spreitzer, G., Gibson, C., & Garnett, F. G. (2012). Thriving at work: Toward its measurement, construct validation, and theoretical refinement. Journal of Organizational Behavior, 33(2), 250–275. https://doi.org/10.1002/job.756 Ryan, R. M., & Deci, E. L. (2020). Intrinsic and extrinsic motivation from a self-determination theory perspective: Definitions, theory, practices, and future directions. Contemporary Educational Psychology, 61, 101860. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.cedpsych.2020.101860 Spreitzer, G., Sutcliffe, K., Dutton, J., Sonenshein, S., & Grant, A. M. (2005). A socially embedded model of thriving at work. Organization Science, 16(5), 537–549. https://doi.org/10.1287/orsc.1050.0153 Tubre, T. C., & Collins, J. M. (2000). Jackson and Schuler (1985) revisited: A meta-analysis of the relationships between role ambiguity, role conflict, and job performance. Journal of Management, 26(1), 155–169. https://doi.org/10.1177/014920630002600104. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

S02: E13 | NO: Living Like Jesus in the Power of No

What does it look like to say no with clarity, compassion, and Christlike integrity? In this episode of Love & Light Leadership with Dr. Phenessa, we explore the power of no as a spiritual discipline, a leadership skill, and an act of alignment. Drawing from Scripture, leadership insight, and real-life reflection, this episode helps you release guilt, protect your calling, and honor the yeses that truly matter. You’ll hear: * Why saying no can be an expression of obedience * How Jesus modeled boundaries without apology * Why your no protects your peace, purpose, and capacity * Practical scripts for saying no with grace and clarity * A grounding reminder that not every good thing is your assignment If you’ve been overextending, people-pleasing, or struggling to protect your energy, this episode is for you. Take what you need. Say the no. Live like Jesus in the power of it. Scripture References (New International Version) Matthew 5:37 (NIV) Luke 4:42–43 (NIV) 2 Corinthians 1:17 (NIV) Titus 2:12 (NIV) Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV) Episode References American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Boundary. In APA dictionary of psychology. https://dictionary.apa.org/boundary [https://dictionary.apa.org/boundary] Cloud, H., & Townsend, J. (1992). Boundaries: When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life. Zondervan. Cloud, H. (2013). Boundaries for leaders: Results, relationships, and being ridiculously in charge. HarperBusiness. Collins, J. (2001). Good to great: Why some companies make the leap... and others don't. HarperBusiness. Newman, S. (2005). The book of no: 365 ways to say it and mean it—and stop people-pleasing forever. McGraw-Hill. Free Tools to Go Deeper * Bible Gateway — scripture lookup and reading: https://www.biblegateway.com. [https://www.biblegateway.com/] * Bible Hub — scripture tools and commentaries: https://www.biblehub.com. [https://www.biblehub.com/] * Blue Letter Bible — study tools and interlinear resources: https://www.blueletterbible.org. [https://www.blueletterbible.org/] * Self-compassion exercises — https://self-compassion.org. [https://self-compassion.org/] * Leadership capacity audit — available through the Center for Creative Leadership [https://www.ccl.org/webinars/building-leadership-capacity/] and similar leadership development resources. * Boundary-setting worksheet — search for printable workbook-style boundary tools through trusted mental health or coaching resources. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

S02: E12 | BOUNDARIES: Releasing Who You Were to Protect Who You’re Becoming

What if the hardest boundary to set is not with another person, but with the version of yourself you used to be? In Episode 12 of the Take What You Need journey, Dr. Phenessa explores boundaries as psychological, spiritual, and leadership stewardship. Drawing from the APA definition of boundary, Proverbs 4:23 in The Passion Translation, Galatians 6:2–5, Luke 5:15–16, and research on identity transition and grief, this episode offers a grounded and compassionate framework for honoring every version of yourself while protecting the life you are now being called to live. You’ll discover: * Why boundaries are not walls, but sacred thresholds. * How Jesus modeled rest, withdrawal, and sustainable leadership. * Why grief is part of growing out of an old identity. * How to set boundaries with your former self without shame. * One practical boundary practice to honor this season of becoming. This episode includes original poetic reflection, breathwork, a vulnerable grace-and-grit story, a leadership lens on transition, and a prayer for sustainable becoming. Perfect for Christian leaders in transition, caregivers, executives, nonprofit leaders, and anyone learning that different does not mean diminished. Listen when you need: * Permission to change. * Tools to grieve old capacity. * Language for boundaries that feel sacred, not selfish. * A reminder that change is not failure…it is faithfulness. Part of: 100-day Take What You Need: Grace & Grit to Be journey. 📚 Accessible Resources Scripture Tools (Free) Bible Gateway. (n.d.). Bible Gateway. https://www.biblegateway.com Bible Hub. (n.d.). Bible Hub. https://www.biblehub.com Blue Letter Bible. (n.d.). Blue Letter Bible. https://www.blueletterbible.org Episode References American Psychological Association. (n.d.). Boundary. In APA dictionary of psychology. https://dictionary.apa.org/boundary Bridges, W. (2004). Transitions: Making sense of life’s changes (2nd ed.). Da Capo Press. Cloud, H., & Townsend, J. (1992). Boundaries: When to say yes, how to say no to take control of your life. Zondervan. Hemphill, P. (2024). What it takes to heal: How transforming ourselves can change the world. Penguin Press. Ibarra, H. (2003). Working identity: Unconventional strategies for reinventing your career. Harvard Business Review Press. Mellody, P., Miller, A. W., & Miller, J. K. (2003). Facing codependence: What it is, where it comes from, how it sabotages our lives. HarperOne. O’Connor, M.-F. (2022). The grieving brain: The surprising science of how we learn from love and loss. HarperOne. Free Tools to Go Deeper 🔹 Self-Compassion exercises — self-compassion.org (free) 🔹 Identity Transition Reflection Journal — adapt from Working Identity prompts 🔹 Leadership Capacity Audit — ccl.org (free) 🔹 Boundary-Setting Worksheet — ask your librarian for workbook-style resources Academic articles are often available through your public library via JSTOR, EBSCOhost, or PsycINFO — ask your librarian. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].

S02: E11 | VOICE: Breaking the Culture of Silence

Are you leading—or are you performing silence while your most important contributions go unspoken? In Week 11 of the Take What You Need journey, Dr. Phenessa opens Arc 2: Reclamation with the word that anchors everything this arc will recover: Voice. Because you cannot reclaim what you’ve never learned to use. Drawing from Proverbs 31:8–9 in The Voice, Psalm 22:24 in The Passion Translation, biblical examples of Deborah and Moses, Amy Edmondson’s research on psychological safety, and organizational scholarship on silence culture and advocacy leadership, this episode offers both theological grounding and organizational science on why your voice is not a luxury—it’s a leadership responsibility. You’ll discover: •✨ Why voice is the first thing leaders sacrifice and the last thing they reclaim •🧠 How organizational silence costs teams their best thinking—and costs leaders their health •📊 The research connecting psychological safety to innovation, retention, and trust •💪 Four practical strategies for recovering your voice in professional environments •🎯 Three concrete steps to break the culture of silence this week •🕊️ Permission to say the thing you’ve been editing out of every meeting, every email, every conversation This episode includes original poetic reflection, extended breathwork (4-4-6 pattern), a Grace + Grit moment on the cost of staying quiet, research-based practices for leaders navigating hierarchical silence, and an invitation into the fullness of Arc 2: Reclamation—because the work of taking back what’s yours begins with your voice. Perfect for: Library leaders, educators, nonprofit directors, ministry leaders, executive coaches, organizational developers, women in leadership, mission-driven professionals, anyone who speaks up for others but not themselves, leaders who feel unheard or unseen, anyone who has edited themselves so many times they’ve forgotten what they really think, and anyone sitting on ideas, concerns, or convictions that deserve a room. Listen when you need: Permission to say it out loud | Tools to navigate the internal block before the external one | Courage to speak before you feel ready | A reminder that silence is never neutral | Evidence that your voice is already formed—it’s just waiting for you to stop suppressing it | A framework for advocacy that begins internally before it moves organizationally | The first step into your season of reclamation. This episode is an invitation to every leader who has swallowed the sentence that needed to be said. 📚 Accessible Resources Scripture Tools (Free) Bible Gateway. (n.d.). Free Bible reading and study tools. https://www.biblegateway.com/ [https://www.biblegateway.com/] Bible Hub. (n.d.). Interlinear and lexicon tools. https://biblehub.com/ [https://biblehub.com/] Blue Letter Bible. (n.d.). Lexicon and word study resources. https://www.blueletterbible.org/ [https://www.blueletterbible.org/]   Episode References Lorde, A. (1984). Sister outsider: Essays and speeches. Crossing Press. (Available at most public libraries)  Edmondson, A. C. (2018). The fearless organization. Wiley. (TED Talk available free at ted.com)  Morrison & Milliken (2000). Organizational silence. Academy of Management Review. (Ask your library for free database access)  Schön, D. A. (1983). The reflective practitioner. Basic Books. (Widely available) Free Tools to Go Deeper 🔹 VIA Character Strengths Survey — viacharacter.org [https://www.viacharacter.org/] (free) 🔹 Brené Brown's Living Into Our Values worksheet — brenebrown.com [https://brenebrown.com/resources/living-into-our-values/] (free) 🔹 Psychological Safety Self-Assessment — ccl.org [https://www.ccl.org/leadership-solutions/leadership-topics/psychological-safety-training/] (free) Academic articles available through your public library via JSTOR, EBSCOhost, or PsycINFO — Ask-A-Librarian [https://askalibrarian.org/]. Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support [https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/love-light-leadership-podcast--6730707/support?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss].