Ep 19: But, Yall Don't Understand

Ep 19: But, Yall Don't Understand

We challenge the reflex to say “you don’t understand” when what we really want is relief from responsibility. We break down how ownership, going first, and small intentional choices can shift the tone of a marriage even in stressful seasons.  • why “you don’t understand” often protects an excuse  • what it means to go first without keeping score  • when a relationship needs more than effort and may require professional counseling  • how missed signals and hidden struggles create emotional distance  • separating real-life pressures from avoiding responsibility  • practical date night ideas that don’t require money or perfection  • swapping “you don’t understand” with “it’s not important enough to me” as an honesty test  • how love languages and emotional connection affect intimacy  • the emotional-physical “loop” that keeps couples stuck  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about. And don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.

Ep 18: When A Season Becomes A Lifestyle

Temporary sacrifice can be part of a healthy marriage. Permanent distance can sneak in so quietly that you don’t notice it until you feel like strangers living under the same roof. We’re Aaron and Kim Degler, and we’re talking about marriage seasons: the times when work ramps up, kids need everything, someone gets hurt, or life just demands more than usual. We share our own story of long hours building a business, the chaos of raising four kids, and how easy it is to tell yourself “this is just what we have to do” even after the hardest part is over. That’s where resentment grows: one spouse adapts by carrying the load, the other gets comfortable in the pattern, and the season becomes a lifestyle. We also get practical about what helps. We dig into self-awareness, teamwork, and calm communication that happens before things blow up. We talk about setting expectations going into a busy stretch, checking in during it, and making a real plan for what life should look like after it ends. And yes, we say it clearly: counseling isn’t a sign you failed, it can be a tool to strengthen an already good marriage. Our hot take says it straight: “Just because life asks for temporary sacrifice doesn’t mean marriage should accept permanent distance.” If you’re feeling stretched thin or stuck in a pattern you didn’t choose, hit play, then share this with your spouse and talk about what season you’re in. Subscribe, share, and leave a review so we can reach more couples.

Ep 17: Stop Waiting For Big Moments And Start Building Them

We stop chasing the next big moment and talk about how the strongest marriages are built in small, ordinary days. A story about John Wooden’s love letters challenges us to say what matters now and create everyday connection on purpose.  • John Wooden’s monthly love letters and the regret of unsaid words  • why we wait for vacations and events to feel “alive”  • reframing post-trip sadness with daily intention and gratitude  • making chores, errands, and kid schedules feel like together time  • small romantic gestures that cost nothing but attention  • using handwritten notes and tiny surprises to help your spouse feel seen  • choosing genuine effort without keeping score so marriage can grow  If this episode helps you, please share it with someone you care about.

Ep 16: Wait are We Normal or Abnormal?

We share a small convenience store moment that turns into a big lesson about emotional safety and why we don’t need to copy anyone else’s relationship rules. We land on a simple hot take: the healthiest marriage habits are the ones that work for the two of you, even if they look weird to everyone else. • choosing a meeting spot in public to feel safe and stay connected  • noticing how quickly comparison can make us question our marriage  • redefining “normal” as what supports both partners  • examples of couple routines that vary widely and still work  • turning curiosity into growth instead of judgment  • using a “normal or abnormal” game to learn about other couples  • why we go to appointments together and how it reduces stress  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.

Ep 15: Speaking Life Into Each Other

We challenge ourselves with one question: if someone heard the way we talk at home, what would they believe about our marriage. We share how our words shifted over 22 years from survival and sharp tones to intentional encouragement that builds a fuller life together.  • the difference between public politeness and private tone at home  • what “speaking life” means in real marriage communication  • why praise is about calling out potential, not controlling change  • how self-awareness and personal growth make healthier conflict possible  • daily encouragement habits like texts, prayer, and sharing resources  • being careful with how we speak about our spouse to others  • the identity effect of repeated words, both negative and positive  If this episode helped you, please share it with someone you care about. And don't forget to subscribe and leave a review. It really helps us reach more couples.