Why Marriage Used to Terrify Me

Why Hollywood Treats Aging Women Like Horror Stories

Hello, Matriarchs! In this episode, I’m diving into the horror of aging as a woman in Hollywood and the cultural fear that surrounds it. Using films like Sunset Boulevard and The Substance as a lens, I explore why aging men in film are often granted complexity and continued desirability, while aging women are pushed toward invisibility and ridicule.

The Consent Illusion: What Kink Gets Right About Power and Communication

Why do men rape women? It’s a question people have been asking for years and one that still doesn’t have an easy answer. In this episode, I’m digging into how we actually learn to recognize consent and how often that understanding is shaped by implication instead of clear communication. I start with a recent CNN article that exposed an online network of men sharing and encouraging content about drugging and assaulting their partners while they’re unconscious, and use it as a jumping-off point to look at how these ideas are circulating in plain sight. From there, I break down what the data really says about sexual assault, and why simply knowing what consent is doesn’t always mean people respect it. Later, I’m joined by Hailey Piper, author of A Game in Yellow, to talk about kink, communication, and what those dynamics can teach us about consent and intimacy.

Tudor History Meets Feminist Horror

In this episode I’m joined by author Rebecca Lehmann to discuss her new novel The Beheading Game, a chilling reimagining of Anne Boleyn’s story, where she rises from the dead after her execution to seek revenge on her husband, Henry VIII. We dive into the real history of Anne, the brutal realities women faced in the Tudor era, and how their stories have been distorted or sensationalized over time.

Why Marriage Used to Terrify Me

For a long time, marriage felt like something to fear rather than to desire. And historically, that fear wasn’t unfounded. In the 19th century, marriage often meant losing your independence, your identity, and your ability to leave. In this episode, I unpack the history behind marriage in the Victorian era, coverture laws, and how it shaped the way I approached dating in my twenties. I also share how meeting my fiancé challenged everything I thought I knew about relationships and how I learned that love, when it’s built right, doesn’t confine you.

The Horror Beneath Love Story

Before you press play, this episode does contain discussions on sexual assault. I examine a chilling trope that runs through horror and real life alike: when a woman’s love is weaponized. From Rosemary’s Baby to The Stepford Wives to Midsommar, I explore how devotion, trust, and emotional labor are twisted into tools of control. Then, I bring it all into the real world with Ryan Murphy’s Love Story, where the quiet erosion of identity reveals a horror that feels all too familiar.