S2 E20 The Stuff Under the Stuff: When You Stop Trusting Yourself

S2 E24 THE STUFF UNDER THE STUFF The Inheritance Nobody Wanted

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2561156/fan_mail/new] What if the struggle you've spent your life battling didn't begin with you? In Part 2 of The Stuff Under the Stuff, Charlene continues her journey into the hidden beliefs that quietly shape our lives. After uncovering her own burden of trying to prove her worth, she begins to recognize something even deeper—a wound that may have been passed from generation to generation. Through personal stories, family history, faith, and reflection, Charlene explores the silent inheritance many of us carry without realizing it: the need to earn love, approval, acceptance, and value. This episode asks difficult but freeing questions: What if your parents were carrying wounds they never understood? What if being different isn't the same as being healed? What if the burdens you've inherited don't have to become the burdens you pass on? As she examines the relationship between mothers, daughters, and the generations that came before them, Charlene discovers that healing begins when we stop focusing on behavior and start understanding the wound beneath it. If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, approval-seeking, family pain, childhood wounds, or the feeling that you're carrying something you never chose, this episode will challenge and encourage you. Because sometimes the greatest freedom comes from finally seeing what you've been carrying all along. Resources Mentioned: The Cost of Her Crown https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/] The Cost of His Throne https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/] Boundaries, Not Barriers: Peace over People https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/ [https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/] Join the Stronger Together | A Me Again God Community Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180] Featured Music: Peace Be Still by Charlene Condu Available on Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, YouTube Music, and most major streaming platforms. If this episode encouraged you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need the reminder that they are not carrying life's burdens alone.

S2 E23 THE STUFF UNDER THE STUFF The Burden of Proof

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2561156/fan_mail/new] What if the thing you've spent your entire life trying to prove was never on trial? In this deeply personal episode of The Stuff Under the Stuff, Charlene begins uncovering a wound she didn't realize she was carrying. What starts as a reflection on childhood, motherhood, and identity becomes a journey into generational pain, the search for approval, and the exhausting burden of trying to prove your worth. Through the story of her mother, grandmother, and her own life, Charlene explores the hidden beliefs that shape us, the approval we spend years chasing, and the realization that many of us are still presenting evidence for a case God settled long ago. If you've ever felt unseen, misunderstood, overlooked, or like you were never quite enough, this episode is for you. Because underneath the accomplishments, the relationships, the successes, and the failures may be a deeper question: Am I enough? Join us as we begin a powerful new series exploring identity, grace, family wounds, and the freedom found when we stop trying to earn what God has already given. Scripture: Jeremiah 1:5 "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you." The courtroom may still be open in your mind. But what if heaven already settled the case? Resources Mentioned: The Cost of Her Crown https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/] The Cost of His Throne https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/] Boundaries, Not Barriers: Peace over People https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/ [https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/] Join the Stronger Together | A Me Again God Community Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180] Featured Music: Peace Be Still by Charlene Condu Available on Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, YouTube Music, and most major streaming platforms. If this episode encouraged you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need the reminder that they are not carrying life's burdens alone.

S2 E22 The Stuff Under the Stuff: Case Dismissed

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2561156/fan_mail/new] Have you ever felt like God forgave you, but you never forgave yourself? In this deeply personal episode, I share a battle I've quietly fought for years. As I prepare to marry Jason, I find myself revisiting old mistakes, old regrets, and old dreams that never came to be. I wanted the marriage my parents had. One husband. One lifetime. One love story. Instead, I find myself preparing for marriage number three and wrestling with the question: How can I have a voice when I've failed so many times? The truth is, I know where I went wrong. I ignored God's warnings. I made decisions based on what I wanted instead of what God was showing me. But somewhere along the way, owning my mistakes turned into carrying them. Confession became condemnation. Repentance became punishment. In this episode, we'll talk about the courtroom many of us carry in our minds—the place where old failures are retried, old regrets are replayed, and old wounds are presented as evidence against us. We'll explore the difference between conviction and condemnation, why comparison keeps us stuck, and what it means to finally accept the grace God freely offers. If you've ever found yourself trapped between regret for the past and gratitude for God's redemption, this episode is for you. Maybe the case isn't still open. Maybe Heaven dismissed it a long time ago. Maybe it's time we did too. Resources Mentioned: The Cost of Her Crown https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/] The Cost of His Throne https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/] Boundaries, Not Barriers: Peace over People https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/ [https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/] Join the Stronger Together | A Me Again God Community Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180] Featured Music: Peace Be Still by Charlene Condu Available on Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, YouTube Music, and most major streaming platforms. If this episode encouraged you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need the reminder that they are not carrying life's burdens alone.

S2 E21 The Stuff Under The Stuff: Trusting Yourself Again

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2561156/fan_mail/new] The Stuff Under the Stuff: Gaslighting (Part II) – We Said No, He Said Yes Last week, I shared the story of gaslighting, betrayal, and the painful discovery that the marriage I thought I had was built on a perception instead of reality. This week, we pick up where that story left off. Sitting in a U-Haul with a broken heart, a hearing disability that terrified me, and no idea what came next, I found myself leaning on God in a way I never had before. What I thought was the end of my story turned out to be the beginning of God's restoration. In this deeply personal episode, I share how God rebuilt my trust, taught me the difference between hearing His voice and following my own desires, and brought an unexpected person back into my life. Jason and I both swore we would never get married again, but God had other plans. We'll talk about healing after deception, learning to trust again, asking the hard questions, waiting on God's answers, and discovering that redemption is often found on the other side of our greatest disappointments. If you've ever wondered whether God can restore what was broken, redeem lost years, or write a better chapter than the one you imagined, this episode is for you. Sometimes the stuff under the stuff isn't the pain itself. It's the healing God is trying to bring through it. We said no. He said yes. Resources Mentioned: The Cost of Her Crown https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/] The Cost of His Throne https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/] Boundaries, Not Barriers: Peace over People https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/ [https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/] Join the Stronger Together | A Me Again God Community Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180] Featured Music: Peace Be Still by Charlene Condu Available on Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, YouTube Music, and most major streaming platforms. If this episode encouraged you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need the reminder that they are not carrying life's burdens alone.

S2 E20 The Stuff Under the Stuff: When You Stop Trusting Yourself

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2561156/fan_mail/new] As I prepare to get married in just a few weeks, I've found myself looking back at a chapter of my life that changed everything. In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of how I learned what gaslighting really is—and the shocking moment I realized I had been living it for years. What began as innocent jokes and confusing conversations slowly became something much darker. I found myself questioning my memory, doubting my judgment, and wondering if something was wrong with me. Then one Google search changed everything. We'll talk about what gaslighting is, how it works, why it is so damaging, and how the enemy uses confusion to separate us from truth. I'll share my own story of deception, the painful discovery that followed, and the biblical connection between gaslighting and the very first deception in the Garden of Eden. If you've ever questioned your reality, ignored red flags, doubted yourself, or wondered how you ended up in a situation you never saw coming, this episode is for you. The stuff under the stuff isn't always what happened to us. Sometimes it's what happened inside us because of it. Resources Mentioned: The Cost of Her Crown https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-Her-Crown-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662965702/] The Cost of His Throne https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/ [https://www.amazon.com/Cost-His-Throne-Abandoned-Family/dp/1662971117/] Boundaries, Not Barriers: Peace over People https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/ [https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Not-Barriers-Peace-People/dp/B0GTMZS157/] Join the Stronger Together | A Me Again God Community Facebook Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180 [https://www.facebook.com/groups/1620954880030180] Featured Music: Peace Be Still by Charlene Condu Available on Spotify, Apple Music, Amazon Music, YouTube Music, and most major streaming platforms. If this episode encouraged you, please consider following the podcast, leaving a review, and sharing it with someone who may need the reminder that they are not carrying life's burdens alone.