Ep15 How Shame Led to Same-Sex Attraction—and How He Found Freedom | Garry Ingraham

Emotional dependency

Episode 16 of Mental Health Matters for ChristiansWhy can't I let go of this person?If you've ever felt like your happiness depends on one relationship, struggled to move on after a breakup, or felt consumed by a friendship, dating relationship, or even a marriage, this episode is for you.In this honest conversation, Christine Sneeringer and therapist Tim Long explore the difference between healthy emotional attachment and unhealthy emotional dependency. They discuss why some relationships become all-consuming, how attachment wounds from childhood can shape our adult relationships, and why putting all our emotional needs into one person often leads to anxiety, jealousy, possessiveness, and heartbreak.Christine shares her own journey of overcoming emotional dependency and explains how healing unhealthy attachment transformed her relationships. Tim brings psychological insight into attachment, secure bonding, and why God designed us for healthy interdependence—not emotional isolation or unhealthy obsession.TOPICS DISCUSSED• The warning signs of emotional dependency• Why "I can't live without this person" isn't love• The difference between healthy attachment and unhealthy dependence• How childhood attachment wounds can shape adult relationships• Why emotional dependency can affect friendships, dating relationships, and marriages• Practical steps toward healthier, God-centered relationshipsResources Mentioned• Emotional Dependency by Lori Rentzel (InterVarsity Press)CHAPTER TIMESTAMPS00:00 — Why can't we let go of certain people?01:27 — What is emotional dependency?02:45 — 12 warning signs you're emotionally dependent05:35 — Healthy attachment vs unhealthy attachment08:08 — Tim shares his own experience11:05 — Emotional dependency isn't just a same-sex issue13:15 — The real antidote to emotional dependency17:08 — Are we supposed to depend on other people?18:30 — Putting God first in our relationships21:05 — Christine's journey out of emotional dependency24:55 — Why God didn't answer her prayer the way she expected29:15 — Healing attachment wounds32:05 — Childhood relationships shape adult relationships35:40 — Can emotional dependency lead to sexual struggles?39:10 — The role of shame and insecurity45:00 — Healthy interdependence: what it actually looks like48:15 — Practical steps toward emotional freedom53:30 — Final encouragement🔹 Connect with Tim• Website: https://www.kainoschristiantherapy.com/🔹 Connect with Christine• Website: https://www.worthycreations.org/#MentalHealth #ChristianMentalHealth #EmotionalDependency #Attachment #Codependency #Relationships #TraumaHealing #AttachmentStyles #Healing #ChristianCounseling #MentalHealthMatters #FaithAndMentalHealth #EmotionalHealing #HealthyRelationships

Ep15 How Shame Led to Same-Sex Attraction—and How He Found Freedom | Garry Ingraham

Episode 15 of Mental Health Matters for ChristiansCan shame shape the course of a person's life?For Garry Ingraham, it did. Long before he struggled with same-sex attraction, Garry carried a crushing sense of shame—from rejection, bullying, father wounds, and early exposure to pornography. Those experiences shaped how he saw himself, how he viewed God, and the choices he made for years.Convinced that God didn't care about him, Garry surrendered to his same-sex attractions and embraced the gay lifestyle, believing it was where he finally belonged. But God wasn't finished with his story.In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Garry shares how Jesus met him in the middle of his brokenness, exposed the lies shame had taught him, and began a lifelong journey of healing, freedom, and restoration.Whether you've struggled with shame, rejection, unwanted sexual attractions, addiction, or simply wondered if God has given up on you, this conversation offers hope that your past does not have to define your future.Topics discussed:• How childhood shame shaped Garry's identity • The impact of rejection and father wounds • How early exposure to pornography affected his life • Why he believed God didn't care about him • His journey through same-sex attraction and the gay lifestyle • The unexpected moment he surrendered his life to Christ • What true healing and freedom looked like over the years🔹 Connect with Garryhttps://loveandtruthnetwork.com/🔹 Connect with Christinehttps://www.worthycreations.org/Chapter Timestamps0:00 Introduction3:45 Growing up in a legalistic Christian home8:40 Feeling different from other boys12:00 Early exposure to pornography16:00 "God Doesn't Care About Me"18:45 Entering the gay lifestyle24:45 The emptiness of life apart from God31:40 The drive home that changed everything34:45 Surrendering his life to Jesus36:30 What healing actually looked like40:30 Marriage, divorce, and learning to trust God again48:30 Father wounds, identity, and restoration56:30 How Christians can respond with both truth and grace1:04:00 Final encouragement and hope

Ep 14 From Poverty and 8th Grade Dropout to Princeton Professor | Carol Swain

In this powerful conversation, Dr. Carol Swain shares her remarkable journey from growing up in extreme poverty, dropping out of school after the eighth grade, and battling depression and suicidal thoughts, to becoming a tenuredprofessor at Princeton and Vanderbilt University. But despite achieving everything she had dreamed of, she discovered that academic success couldn't heal the emptiness inside. Carol opens up about her dramatic encounter with Jesus, how God delivered her from depression and fear, and why losing the career she fought so hard to build turned out to be one of the greatest blessings of her life. If you've struggled with depression, disappointment, or wondering whether God can redeem your story, this episode will encourage you to trust Him with every chapter. Topics discussed: * From poverty and 8th-grade education to Princeton * Her battle with depression and suicide gestures * Why success didn't satisfy her deepest needs * Her supernatural encounter with Jesus * How faith transformed her identity and removed lifelong fear * Why leaving academia became one of God's greatest gifts * What she tells people who struggle with depression today 🔹 Connect with Carol https://carolmswain.com/ [https://carolmswain.com/]  Chapter Timestamps 0:00 Introduction: Meet Dr. Carol Swain 2:12 Growing up in poverty and battling depression 4:00 Dropping out after eighth grade and becoming a young mother 5:44 Her years as a Jehovah's Witness and believing the world would end 9:03 Knowing she was made for something more 9:50 From GED to five college degrees 12:58 Discovering her intellectual gifts 16:12 Filing to be placed in foster care 17:49 Community college and finding her path 20:00 Becoming a professor at Princeton and Vanderbilt 20:57 How faith delivered her from lifelong fear and shyness 22:05 Success, awards, and the emptiness that followed 23:47 How her Christian faith affected her academic career 24:53 Her dramatic encounter with Jesus 30:13 Baptism, miracles, and discovering what it means to follow Christ 33:10 How God delivered her from depression 36:01 Advice for those struggling with depression 37:31 Leaving Vanderbilt and trusting God's timing 39:44 Breaking stereotypes and embracing God's purpose 40:54 Rapid-fire questions

Ep 13 The Identity Shift That Changed Everything | Fielding Cage

Episode 13 of Mental Health Matters for ChristiansIn this episode, Christine welcomes missionary and evangelist Fielding Cage to discuss the transformative power of discovering our identity in Christ.Fielding shares his story of growing up in a home marked by rejection and brokenness, believing he was unwanted and had nothing valuable to offer. Through a life-changing encounter with Jesus, miraculous healing, and years of studying God's Word, he learned to replace those lies with God's truth.Together, they discuss healing, evangelism, confidence, spiritual authority, the power of God's Word, and why understanding who you are in Christ can transform every area of life.TOPICS DISCUSSED• Growing up feeling unwanted and rejected• How childhood beliefs shape identity• The importance of knowing God's Word• Discovering identity in Christ• Overcoming insecurity and low self-worth• Why confidence comes from God's Word, not personality• Replacing lies with God's truth• Living as a beloved son or daughter of God🔹 Connect with Fielding and Go Harvestinghttps://www.goharvesting.comYouTube: @GoHarvestingCHAPTER TIMESTAMPS01:38 Meet Fielding Cage04:05 Growing Up Unwanted05:56 Leaving Church at Sixteen06:56 The Business Meeting That Changed His Life08:30 Playing Church Without Knowing God10:28 Quitting Engineering to Study the Bible11:31 The Childhood Lies That Shaped His Identity14:12 From Pastor to Missionary15:03 His Son's Near-Fatal Horse Accident17:35 Why God's Word Became Everything18:23 The Scripture That Changed His Life21:12 Why Healing Comes Before Evangelism24:15 Training Ordinary Christians to Heal the Sick27:02 Confidence Comes from Identity, Not Personality31:53 Teaching Children to Pray for Healing33:52 Tumors, Cancer, and Unexpected Healings38:21 The Lie That Keeps Christians Stuck43:00 The Disciples Were More Broken Than You Think46:00 How to Stop Believing Lies About Yourself49:00 What It Means to Be a Son or Daughter of God52:00 Practical Steps to Renew Your Mind55:00 Fielding's Advice for Christians Struggling with Identity1:01:00 Closing Thoughts🔹 Connect with Christine• Website: https://www.worthycreations.org/#MentalHealthMatters #IdentityInChrist #FaithAndMentalHealth#overcomingrejection

Ep 12 She Stayed Silent About Sexual Abuse for 20 Years | Debra Marsalisi

Many survivors spend years minimizing their pain, believing what happened to them “wasn't that bad.” Debra Marsalisi knows that journey firsthand. She shares her story of childhoodsexual abuse, teen pregnancy, date rape, years of silence, and the emotional wounds that shaped her life. She explains how trauma affected her relationships, identity, and understanding of herself—and how Jesus met her in the middle of that pain and began a process of healing. Together, Christine and Debra discuss trauma responses like freezing and dissociation, why many survivors struggle with anger and shame, the importance of grieving losses, and common misconceptions Christians have about forgiveness.Debra also shares how God used counseling, discipleship, and the Trees of Hope ministry to bring freedom and restoration.