EP42 Stop Negotiating With Your Mind | Scott Lackey

EP42 Stop Negotiating With Your Mind | Scott Lackey

What if the biggest obstacle in your life isn’t the voice in your head… but the fact that you’re negotiating with it? In this episode of Mind Triumph, Aleks sits down with author, Army combat veteran, Ironman triathlete, inventor, and speaker Scott Lackey for a powerful conversation about the inner voice, discipline, fear, surrender, and what it truly takes to create lasting change. Scott shares the lessons that transformed his own life—from combat to endurance racing to writing his book Wake Up to Die Again. Together, they explore why the Talker feeds on fear, why it often disguises itself as comfort or even praise, and how learning to stop negotiating with your mind can change everything. In this episode: • Why the Talker feeds on fear and doubt • The surprising way your mind keeps you stuck • Why you should stop negotiating with the voice in your head • How broken promises to yourself shape your life • The power of surrender and letting go • Why growth comes through subtraction, not addition • Practical ways to build discipline and inner peace About Scott Lackey Scott Lackey is an Army combat veteran, Ironman triathlete, inventor, author, and speaker. His work centers around personal growth, resilience, and what he calls the Principle of Exchange—the idea that meaningful transformation comes from letting go of who we’ve become in order to become who we’re meant to be. His book, Wake Up to Die Again: Breaking Who You Became So You Can Be Who You’re Meant to Be, explores these ideas through powerful personal stories and practical lessons. 🌐 Website: https://scottlackey.com 📚 Published Work: https://scottlackey.com/published-work/ 📸 Instagram: @thescottlackey ⸻ 🌿 Support Mind Triumph These conversations are made possible through the support of our community. If you’d like to help us continue creating them, join us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/MindTriumph ⸻ 🌿 Follow Mind Triumph: • Instagram: ⁠@mindtriumph⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mindtriumph/] • YouTube: ⁠Mind Triumph on YouTube⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/c/AleksUShow] • TikTok: ⁠@mindtriumph_official [https://www.tiktok.com/@mindtriumph_official] • Spotify: Mind Triumph on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/0upY7YOFwTVRpoUNgriZlF]  Less Talker. Better Life.

#41 How to Stop Making Yourself Miserable | Dr. Randy Paterson

Why do we make ourselves miserable without even realizing it? In this episode of Mind Triumph, I sit down with psychologist, author, and CBT expert Dr. Randy Paterson to explore the hidden mental habits that quietly fuel anxiety, self-doubt, stress, and unhappiness. Drawing from over 40 years of clinical experience, Randy explains how our minds develop automatic patterns that often try to protect us—but can end up keeping us stuck. We discuss the inner voice I call the Talker, why we catastrophize, how anxiety tricks us into obedience, and what it really means to build a healthier relationship with our thoughts. One of the most powerful ideas in this conversation comes from Randy’s bestselling book How to Be Miserable, where he reveals the surprising ways people unknowingly create more suffering in their lives—and how to stop. In this episode: • Why your mind isn’t always telling you the truth • How anxiety grows when we obey it • The hidden danger of comparing yourself to others • Why normal human emotions are often mistaken for mental illness • How gratitude and breathing can help interrupt negative patterns • The difference between pain and suffering • Practical ways to challenge the Talker About Dr. Randy Paterson Dr. Randy Paterson is a Vancouver-based psychologist, author, speaker, and director of Changeways Clinic. He is the author of several influential books including The Assertiveness Workbook, How to Be Miserable, and How to Be Miserable in Your Twenties. For more than 30 years he has trained mental health professionals across Canada, Australia, New Zealand, and Hong Kong. 🌐 Randy’s Website: randypaterson.com 🏥 Changeways Clinic: changeways.com 📺 YouTube: @RandyPaterson ⸻ 🌿 Support Mind Triumph Mind Triumph is listener-supported. If these conversations help you better understand the Talker, mental health, and presence, you can support the mission here: ❤️ Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/MindTriumph Your support helps us continue creating free conversations that bring more awareness, healing, and presence into the world. 🌿 Follow Mind Triumph: • Instagram: ⁠@mindtriumph⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mindtriumph/] • YouTube: ⁠Mind Triumph on YouTube⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/c/AleksUShow] • TikTok: ⁠@mindtriumph_official [https://www.tiktok.com/@mindtriumph_official] • Spotify: Mind Triumph on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/0upY7YOFwTVRpoUNgriZlF]  Less Talker. More Life.

#40 You Can't Think Your Way Out of Anxiety | MJ Murray

In this episode of Mind Triumph, Aleks speaks with MJ Murray Vachon, LCSW, about anxiety, mental wellness, and one of the biggest misconceptions many people have: Thinking more is not the solution to overthinking. Drawing on over 40 years of clinical and teaching experience, MJ shares practical tools and insights that help people move beyond worry and build genuine emotional resilience. Together, they explore: • why overthinking fuels anxiety • the role of sleep in mental wellness • self-awareness as a learnable skill • practical ways to reduce stress • how the Talker feeds self-criticism • why compassion matters more than perfection A practical and deeply valuable conversation for anyone looking to better understand anxiety and create more calm in daily life. 🌿 About MJ Murray Vachon Mental wellness expert, creator of the Inner Challenge Master Class, and host of Creating Midlife Calm. 📧 mj@mjmurrayvachon.com 🎙️ Creating Midlife Calm: https://pod.fo/e/3406e7 🌿 Support Mind Triumph These conversations are made possible through the support of our community. If you'd like to help us continue creating them, join us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/MindTriumph 🌿 Follow Mind Triumph: • Instagram: ⁠@mindtriumph⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mindtriumph/] • YouTube: ⁠Mind Triumph on YouTube⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/c/AleksUShow] • TikTok: ⁠@mindtriumph_official [https://www.tiktok.com/@mindtriumph_official] • Spotify: Mind Triumph on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/0upY7YOFwTVRpoUNgriZlF]

#39 Is the Talker Shortening Your Life? | Sandy Martin

In this episode of Mind Triumph, Aleks speaks with longevity strategist and author Sandy Martin about one of the most overlooked factors in health and longevity: The voice in your head. After a mold-related brain injury forced her to rebuild her health from the ground up, Sandy discovered that lasting wellness isn’t just about adding more supplements, devices, or protocols. It’s about removing what the body is fighting first. Together, they explore: • the relationship between stress and longevity • why the Talker loves comfort and certainty • how judgment impacts health • why social media may be fueling chronic stress • the power of letting go • practical longevity habits that actually matter A fascinating conversation on biology, mindfulness, health optimization, and living well longer. ⸻ 🌿 About Sandy Martin Creator of the Biological EDGE Framework Author of Biological EDGE: A Practical Guide to Longevity Founder of the bioEDGE Longevity Summit 🌐 https://bioedgelongevity.com/ 🧬 https://bioedgedecoder.com/ 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bioedgelongevity 🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bioedgelongevity 📺 YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bioedgelongevity ⸻ 🌿 Support Mind Triumph These conversations are made possible through the support of our community. If you'd like to help us continue creating them, join us on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/cw/MindTriumph [https://www.patreon.com/cw/MindTriumph] 🌿 Follow Mind Triumph: • Instagram: ⁠@mindtriumph⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mindtriumph/] • YouTube: ⁠Mind Triumph on YouTube⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/c/AleksUShow] • TikTok: ⁠@mindtriumph_official [https://www.tiktok.com/@mindtriumph_official] • Spotify: Mind Triumph on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/0upY7YOFwTVRpoUNgriZlF]

#38 Why Your Mind Never Feels at Rest | Spencer Delisle, Art of Living

In this episode of Mind Triumph, Aleks speaks with Spencer Delisle from Art of Living Canada about the restless modern mind, the “Talker,” and how breathwork can help bring us back into presence. Spencer shares his journey from external success and inner exhaustion into a life centered around meditation, breathwork, awareness, and emotional well-being. Together, they explore: • why the mind becomes addicted to noise • why slowing down feels difficult today • how the Talker grows louder when energy is low • the role of breathwork in calming the nervous system • presence, peace, and the deeper Self beyond thought A thoughtful and inspiring conversation about mental health, modern overwhelm, and reconnecting with yourself through awareness and breath. ⸻ 🌿 About Spencer Delisle Teacher & leader with Art of Living Canada Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/spencerdelisle/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/spencer.delisle LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/spencerdelisle/ X/Twitter: https://x.com/Spencer_Delisle ⸻ 🌎 About Art of Living Global: https://www.artofliving.org/us-en Canada: https://www.artoflivingcanadacentre.org/ Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar: https://gurudev.artofliving.org/ Instagram/Facebook: @artoflivingcanada ⸻ 🌿 Additional Resources • https://tlexinstitute.com • https://www.skycampus.org • https://iahv.ca ⸻ 🌿 Follow Mind Triumph: • Instagram: ⁠@mindtriumph⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/mindtriumph/] • YouTube: ⁠Mind Triumph on YouTube⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/c/AleksUShow] • TikTok: ⁠@mindtriumph_official [https://www.tiktok.com/@mindtriumph_official] • Spotify: Mind Triumph on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/0upY7YOFwTVRpoUNgriZlF]