77: Healing Childhood Wounds in Dating

77: Healing Childhood Wounds in Dating

In this episode, Minaa B. explores how childhood wounds—specifically emotional neglect and abandonment—show up in your dating patterns and sabotage your relationships. She also examines the often-overlooked role of sibling dynamics in shaping these wounds, including golden child/scapegoat patterns that compound feelings of unworthiness. Minaa breaks down how these wounds manifest in dating and offers concrete healing practices. The core message: your childhood shaped you, but it doesn't have to define your adult relationships. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

76: When They Won't Change: Grieving the Relationship That Won't Heal

In this episode, Minaa B. addresses a question she hears constantly in therapy: "What else can I do to make this relationship work?" She explores the signs that you've already done enough, examines why we keep trying, and guides listeners through the painful shift from "How do I fix this?" to "Can I make peace with this relationship being what it is?" Resources Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

75: That Never Ending Feeling That You're Not Enough

In this episode, Minaa B. addresses the persistent feeling of not being enough that many people carry from childhood emotional neglect. She explores what emotional neglect teaches about worth—that love is conditional, needs are too much, and you're fundamentally lacking—and why this wound is so hard to heal. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

74: Shame Isn't a Boundary: Stop Policing Normal Human Behavior

In this episode, Minaa B. explores a pattern she's seeing: people using morally charged, shame-based language to control others' behavior instead of exercising their own agency through boundaries. She examines how terms like "invasive," "rude," and "offensive" are used to police normal communication behaviors rather than to develop assertiveness and boundaries. Minaa breaks down where your agency actually lies and offers eight strategies for exercising it rather than policing behavior. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

73: You Don't Have Imposter Syndrome, You Have a Scarcity Blueprint

In this episode, Minaa B. reframes imposter syndrome as a scarcity blueprint—a relational pattern learned in childhood, not a personal failing. She explores the roots of chronic self-doubt through the first dimension of The Siblinghood Theory: Competition and Scarcity. Minaa examines how growing up competing with siblings and peers for limited love, attention, and recognition creates a blueprint of "I'm not good enough" that follows you into adulthood. She breaks down what happens when you watch others receive what you can't access, when love feels conditional on performance, when nothing you do is ever good enough, and when wanting recognition is treated as selfish. She then offers eight strategies for revising your scarcity blueprint and internalizing your worth. Resources Work with me: Book a 1:1 therapy consultation [https://cal.com/minaa-b/15-min-therapy-consultation]. Website: minaab.com [http://www.minaab.com] Newsletter:  ⁠⁠⁠Subscribe here [https://minaab.substack.com/?utm_campaign=profile_chips] Order my book: Owning Our Struggles⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/707127/owning-our-struggles-by-minaa-b-lmsw/] Stay Connected! ⁠Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/minaa_b/] LinkedIn⁠ [https://www.linkedin.com/in/minaab/]  Facebook⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.facebook.com/minaablmsw] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]