Who Were You Before You Started Performing

Grief Can Sit With Us

Grief is not always loud. Sometimes it looks like scrolling your phone while trying not to cry. Sometimes it looks like laughing with friends and then breaking down in the car afterward. And sometimes it looks like grieving people who are still alive, the family you thought you’d have, or the version of yourself you thought you’d be by now. In this episode of Mirror Mirror on the Mic, Malissa and Inez talk about the complicated reality of grief, estrangement, divorce, identity loss, motherhood, and the strange ways humor and heartbreak can coexist. They explore statistics around family estrangement, the emotional impact of losing connection with loved ones, and why grief is not something we “get over,” but something we learn to carry differently. This conversation is vulnerable, funny, honest, and deeply human. From chaotic stories about kids and painters to deeper reflections on loss, shame, healing, and rebuilding, this episode is a reminder that sadness does not cancel out joy and that healing is rarely linear. If you’ve ever felt alone in your grief, stuck in survival mode, or like life turned out differently than you imagined, this episode is for you. And if you’re ready to reconnect with yourself in small, realistic ways, our 21-Day Reset is open now. The link is https://stan.store/MalissaConnorsCoaching/p/21-day-hot-girl-reset [https://stan.store/MalissaConnorsCoaching/p/21-day-hot-girl-reset] and don't forget to follow us @mirrormirroronthemic on Instagram!   and ps. The viral post is now at 1.1M 😊

How Toxic Relationships Rewire Your Reality

How do the beliefs we formed about ourselves years ago quietly shape the relationships we choose, the pain we tolerate, and the stories we continue to repeat? In this episode, I sit down with clinical psychologist and Awareness Integration Theory founder Dr. Foojan Zeine for a deep conversation about toxic relationship dynamics, emotional conditioning, trauma bonds, narcissistic tendencies, identity loss, and what it actually takes to heal. We talk about how people unconsciously search for evidence to confirm painful beliefs they formed early in life, why toxic relationships can feel familiar or addictive, how gaslighting and emotional manipulation impact the nervous system, and why awareness is the first step toward real transformation. This conversation is compassionate, insightful, and honestly one that I think will resonate with so many people who have ever questioned themselves inside a relationship. If you’ve ever wondered: • Why do I keep ending up in the same patterns? • Why is it so hard to leave emotionally unhealthy dynamics? • Why do I keep abandoning myself to be chosen? • How do I finally break free and heal? …this episode is for you. Because healing doesn’t start with perfection. It starts with awareness. You can find Dr. Zeine at https://foojanzeine.com/ [https://foojanzeine.com/] and her app https://foojan.com/ [https://foojan.com/] And if you are thinking you want to work with ME....here is the link to my 21 Day Reset https://stan.store/MalissaConnorsCoaching/p/21-day-hot-girl-reset [https://stan.store/MalissaConnorsCoaching/p/21-day-hot-girl-reset]

You Auditioned Your Way In: Why Perfectionism Isn’t Success

Somewhere along the way, being chosen became the goal. The invite. The approval. The seat at the table. And you got really, really good at it. Reading the room. Saying the right thing. Being who they needed you to be so you could stay. From the outside, it looked like high achievement. But inside? It felt like pressure. Like performing. Like slowly drifting further away from yourself. Because here’s the truth no one teaches: There is a difference between high achievement and perfectionism. One expands you. The other edits you. One builds a life that feels aligned. The other builds a life that looks impressive… but costs you your voice, your values, and your peace. In this episode, we’re unpacking: * The subtle ways self-abandonment gets rewarded * How perfectionism disguises itself as success * Why “fitting in” might actually be your biggest red flag * And how to tell if you’ve earned your seat… or auditioned for it If you’ve ever felt like you had to become someone else to be accepted—this one is going to hit. And more importantly… it might set you free. If you are ready to Reset with me, here is the link to join https://stan.store/MalissaConnorsCoaching/p/21-day-hot-girl-reset [https://stan.store/MalissaConnorsCoaching/p/21-day-hot-girl-reset]

The $3 Million Carpenter vs. The Broke Athlete Problem

What if everything you’ve been taught about money is… incomplete? In this episode, I sit down with David Nassief to unpack one of the most surprising wealth contrasts you’ll ever hear: why a professional athlete earning millions can end up broke within a few years… while a blue-collar worker quietly builds lasting wealth. This isn’t about income. It’s about behavior. We dive into: * Why high earners still struggle financially * The habits that quietly build (or destroy) wealth over time * The difference between looking rich and actually being wealthy * How everyday decisions compound into long-term financial freedom * The mindset shift that changes everything If you’ve ever thought, “I just need to make more money,” this episode might completely flip that belief on its head. Because wealth isn’t built in big moments. It’s built in the small, consistent choices no one sees. 🎧 Listen in… and you might never look at money the same way again. And here is the one pager you MUST download https://onepagewealthcompass.com/ [https://onepagewealthcompass.com/]

Who Were You Before You Started Performing

Somewhere along the way, being "easy", "strong", and "low maintenance" became your personality. But it didn't start that way. In this episode of Mirror Mirror on the Mic, we're pulling back the curtain on the version of you that learned how to perform in order to be loved, chosen, and safe...and asking the real question: Who were you before all of that? We talk about: * The subtle ways the "soft life" can turn into self-abandonment * Attachment theory and how it impacts our relationships to others and ourselves * Why avoiding conflict isn't the same as protecting your peace  This isn't about becoming someone new. it's about remembering the person who existed before she learned how to shape-shift to survive. If this episode hit something in you..if you're starting to realize how much of your life has been built around performing instead of actually feeling like yourself... I want you to come a little closer. I'm launching my Hot Girl 21 Day Reset and this is for the woman who is tired of living on autopilot, tired of choosing quick fixes, tired of calling it "fine" when its actually just familiar. We are focusing on: * Calming your nervous system * Getting honest about what you actually want * And helping you feel like yourself again...in your real, everyday life Here is what you do... Go to our instagram: @mirrormirroronthemic and I'm sharing all the details there, and that's where you'll be able to get in first when it opens.