Why You’re Emotionally Unavailable: Dating, Health & Self-Sabotage Ft. @HealthwithHunter

Should Relationships Be 50/50? Dating, Marriage, Money & Gender Roles Ft. @AnnaMorgenstern

We are finally tackling the highly debated topic of 50/50!!!! On this episode of Missjudged, Alyssa sits down with matchmaker Anna Morgenstern to debate one of the most controversial questions in modern dating and marriage: should relationships be 50/50 in all the ways? Anna is in a successful 50/50 marriage. Alyssa thinks 50/50 is basically a beautifully marketed scam against women. So naturally listen to see the common ground ending! Who won over who?! They break down: * What 50/50 in a relationship actually means * Whether couples should split bills in dating and marriage * How long a check should sit on the table before someone becomes deeply unattractive * Why “equal” is not always the same thing as fair * How babies, pregnancy, and childcare change the entire 50/50 conversation * Why emotional support, time, planning, and invisible labor have to count too * How couples should actually think about finances before moving in, getting engaged, or getting married * The difference between a true partnership and a Venmo-based situationship with vows * Whether traditional gender roles still matter in modern relationships * How to decide what is fair when income, effort, emotional labor, and life responsibilities are not equal * Because if a woman is splitting the bills but also carrying the emotional labor, managing the house, planning the life, remembering everyone’s birthdays, growing the baby, and still being expected to be fun and relaxed… is that equality, or is that just unpaid management with a ring? This episode covers 50/50 relationships, 50/50 marriage, dating and money, splitting bills, financial compatibility, gender roles, emotional labor, childcare, babies, modern relationships, and what fairness actually looks like in love. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Why You’re Emotionally Unavailable: Dating, Health & Self-Sabotage Ft. @HealthwithHunter

What is emotional unavailability, really — are they actually unavailable… or did they just not like you? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is joined by Hunter Stoler to break down emotional unavailability in dating, what it looks like in real life, and why it is not always as simple as blaming avoidant attachment or calling everyone a narcissist. We get into the real signs of an emotionally unavailable partner, how health, stress, burnout, confidence, sleep, and mental wellness can affect the way people show up in relationships, and why some people are not cold or mysterious — they are just dysregulated, exhausted, insecure, or emotionally shut down. We also talk about the harder truth no one wants to hear: sometimes they were not emotionally unavailable… they just were not that into you. This episode covers: * What emotional unavailability actually means * Signs you are dating an emotionally unavailable person * How to free yourself from the dynamic * What happens when one person in the relationship starts to glow up * How your community can affect your heath in you body and mind * The connection between confidence, health, and emotional intimacy * Self-sabotage in dating and how to stop repeating the pattern * How to leave an emotionally unavailable relationship If you’ve ever wondered why dating feels so confusing, why you keep ending up with the wrong people, or whether you are chasing chemistry that is really just anxiety, this episode is for you. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Is Your Family Ruining Your Relationship? Family Boundaries & Dating ft. @CandiceGuardino

You don't just date them—you date their entire family system. In this savage-but-true episode, Alyssa sits down with @CandiceGuardino to tackle the #1 source of relationship stress: in-laws and family boundaries. We break down the hilarious and horrifying reality of family meddling: from the people who only need parental approval, not a partner, to those who are recreating their chaotic childhood in their love life. Learn why people date what feels familiar instead of what’s healthy, why over-involved parents can delay marriage, and how to finally set boundaries without having a meltdown. If your relationship has a third person (Mom), this is your must-listen. In this episode we will talk about: * Why people often don’t date what is healthy; they date what feels familiar. * If your parents fought a lot, you’re more likely to think chaos is passion. * The number one reason couples fight is in-laws and family boundaries. * Are we just dating potential? * Some people are not dating a partner; they’re dating with their family in the group chat. * You learn more about your partner from one Thanksgiving or road trip than you do from six months of dating. * Over-involved parents can actually delay marriages because they make partners feel judged or controlled. * Sibling dynamics and relationships- should you insert yourself? * Nothing tests a relationship quite like traveling together, IKEA, weddings, or Christmas with their family. Have you ever dated someone who’s family made them more appealing? Or someone who was perfect but you could NEVER spend a holiday with their family?? Ever wonder what do healthy boundaries with partners and family look like? Then this episode is for you! Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2435954/support] Like what you hear? Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and tell a friend to help spread the word! The more, the merrier, right? Listen/ Watch to MissJudged Podcast: * Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/missjudged-podcast/id1788580570] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/11LhnAgPSvQomavkWiCP8F?si=6bfe1c5d66264d7a] |YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQfZ4JbXSw5MGhCkEQ06bvw] Stay in the loop and follow us on  Instagram: @missjudgedpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/missjudgedpodcast/]  TikTok: @missjudgedpodcast Hit play and join the conversation— can't wait to have you along for the ride! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Why You’re Not Getting a Second Date -Brutal Truths (Alyssa Solo)

Ever leave a first date thinking “that went amazing”… and then get hit with silence, a slow fade, or the classic “you’re great but…”? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa Pettinato in her solo era answers the age-old question: why didn’t it progress to a second date? And yes—she’s brutally honest about it (with sisterly, comedic energy so it doesn’t feel like a personal attack). We get into the patterns you might be repeating that quietly sabotage your dating life, the communication steps people forget after a first date that actually build momentum, and the conversational faux pas that can give someone the ick even when you didn’t mean to. Alyssa breaks down the difference between chemistry vs. comfort vs. attraction, why “good conversation” isn’t the same as romantic interest, and how to tighten up your approach so you stop getting stuck at date #1. Also the mindset to be in if it is not a match. If you’ve been asking: * “Why didn’t they ask me out again?” * “Did I do something wrong?” * “Was there a red flag I missed?” * “Why does this keep happening to me?” * “Should I even care if they weren’t a fan?!”- PS…..NO! *  …this episode is your answer—with laughs, truth, and actual fixes. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2435954/support] Like what you hear? Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and tell a friend to help spread the word! The more, the merrier, right? Listen/ Watch to MissJudged Podcast: * Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/missjudged-podcast/id1788580570] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/11LhnAgPSvQomavkWiCP8F?si=6bfe1c5d66264d7a] |YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQfZ4JbXSw5MGhCkEQ06bvw] Stay in the loop and follow us on  Instagram: @missjudgedpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/missjudgedpodcast/]  TikTok: @missjudgedpodcast Hit play and join the conversation— can't wait to have you along for the ride! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].

Softboy vs F*ckboy: Mixed Signals, Situationships & Dating Your Friend’s Ex ft. @Yourpalrick

Are softboys actually worse than fuckboys? In this episode of MissJudged, Alyssa is joined by @yourpalrick (Ricky Liorti), for a brutally honest, hilarious conversation about modern dating, situationships, red flags, rebounds, and the men who disguise chaos as emotional depth. From the rise of the softboy to why situationships can be more emotionally devastating than real relationships, this episode gets into all the messy gray areas people are actually dealing with right now. Alyssa and Ricky break down the difference between a fuckboy, softboy, and full menace, play the lonely, bored, or full menace game, and debate whether men and women can ever really just be friends. They also get into dating your friend’s ex, giving someone best-friend benefits without commitment, rebound behavior, exclusivity, Instagram DMs vs texting, meeting the family, Summer House drama with Kyle and Amanda, Dave Portnoy being for the girls, long-term friendships as a dating green flag, and why so many people are dating potential instead of reality. This episode is funny, unfiltered, and painfully real if you’ve ever been stuck in a situationship, ignored a red flag, confused chemistry with compatibility, or wondered why modern dating feels so weird. In this episode: * Softboy vs fuckboy: what’s the actual difference? * Why situationships can hurt more than real relationships * Can men and women really be just friends? * Would you date your friend’s ex? * Why clear communication matters in dating * How men know when they want to be exclusive * Why dating “potential” keeps people stuck * Instagram DMs, texting, and the cemetery of story replies * Rebounds, red flags, and modern dating delusion Check it out and like, subscribe, and tell your friends- TELL YOUR ENEMIES! Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2435954/support] Like what you hear? Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and tell a friend to help spread the word! The more, the merrier, right? Listen/ Watch to MissJudged Podcast: * Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/missjudged-podcast/id1788580570] | Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/show/11LhnAgPSvQomavkWiCP8F?si=6bfe1c5d66264d7a] |YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCQfZ4JbXSw5MGhCkEQ06bvw] Stay in the loop and follow us on  Instagram: @missjudgedpodcast [https://www.instagram.com/missjudgedpodcast/]  TikTok: @missjudgedpodcast Hit play and join the conversation— can't wait to have you along for the ride! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy [https://art19.com/privacy] and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info [https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info].