Episode 8: Lovers - HOW TO CREATE LONG LASTING LOVE

Season 2 Premiere: Project Great Sex 2025 & The Art of Intentional Eroticism

audio style="width: 480px; display: block;" controls="controls" preload="auto" src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/S2EP_1.m4a"> source src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/S2EP_1.m4a" type="audio/mp4"> p> Season 2 Premiere: Project Great Sex 2025 & The Art of Intentional Eroticism/p> /audio> p> Welcome back! Season 2 kicks off with a deep dive into erotic energy—not just as a bedroom thing, but as a life force. The better we feel about life, the better we express our eroticism, and that passion loops right back into how we experience joy. Jacqueline reflects on the holiday season and the healing, sensual peace of nature. Claude explores oysters as an aphrodisiac and a symbol of a new era in self-expression. And then—Project Great Sex 2025. We’re talking about intentionality with sex: no more autopilot. Step 1: Define it. What does great sex mean to you? Pay attention to what you like. Step 2: Communicate it. From setup to timing—lay the groundwork for the experience you actually want. Step 3: Make it happen. Don't let it slip into the background. So… how’s your Project Great Sex going? Plus an excellent listener story about the unsolicited dick pic… Let’s get into it. If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline’s retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude Sex Playlists https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3jwU5fuz9eYqFR7syZLYRv?si=U5dy91XWTsCZCnZeR0KIDQ https://open.spotify.com/playlist/40uDRKHKq35NjAzQ3cjU2J?si=OuNurT5IQAS--nFAI9xxOw /p>

Episode 9: Season Finale – WHAT COMES BEFORE CONSENT

audio style="width: 480px; display: block;" controls="controls" preload="auto" src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-9.m4a"> source src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-9.m4a" type="audio/mp4"> p> Episode 9: Season Finale – WHAT COMES BEFORE CONSENT/p> /audio> p> Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! It’s our season finale, and we’re diving deep into a topic that lays the groundwork for healthier, more fulfilling relationships: what comes before consent. This week, we unpack the flaws in the traditional consent model. Does the “yes or no” approach to sex leave room for pleasure, equity, or true connection? Spoiler: it doesn’t. Instead, we explore how this binary mindset can lead to power imbalances, misunderstood boundaries, and even the illusion of consent in relationships. Whether you’re single, coupled up, or a relationship veteran, this episode has something for you. Jacqueline breaks it down, introducing the two essential steps that must come before consent: self-awareness and communication. Together, we discuss how to develop an embodied sense of self—a kind of internal GPS—that allows you to co-create deeply authentic, pleasurable experiences with your partner. Drawing on scientific research and over a decade of clinical experience, Jacqueline also reveals a surprising truth: most couples don’t even know why they’re having sex. And yes, language plays a HUGE role in libido. We guide you through the process of cultivating self-awareness, tuning into your desires, and learning to understand your partner’s needs—skills that are game-changing for relationships. In this episode’s Erotic Moments segment, Jacqueline reflects on her deep affection for Sydney, especially the joy of returning home after travels. Meanwhile, Claude opens up about their hectic lifestyle, sparking a discussion about how many of us have become desensitized to stress—and how that impacts intimacy. At its core, this episode is about learning how to share yourself in ways that feel safe, authentic, and undeniably pleasurable. Oh, and don’t miss our answers to your burning listener questions! - I don’t know how to say no to my partner, how do I stop that? Practice safe, authentic connection this holiday season—and don’t forget that our 2025 retreats make the ultimate Christmas gift (on sale Boxing Day!). Tune in, and let’s create a world where connection starts way before consent. Couple’s Bali Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/couples-tantra-retreat-bali 2nd-6the June and 1st-5th of December 2025. Bambu Indah venue for the Bali retreat https://www.bambuindah.com/ Couple’s Blue Mountains Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/couples-tantra-retreat-blue-mountains 14th-16th February, 20th-22nd June and 17th-19th October 2025. LoveLife Women’s Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-womens-retreat 14th-16th March, 15th-17th August 2025. Online Course for Men https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/mens-sexual-mastery-course Online Course for Women https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/womens-sexual-empowerment-course Online Course for Couples coming in 2025! If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline’s Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude Sex Playlists https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3jwU5fuz9eYqFR7syZLYRv?si=U5dy91XWTsCZCnZeR0KIDQ https://open.spotify.com/playlist/40uDRKHKq35NjAzQ3cjU2J?si=OuNurT5IQAS--nFAI9xxOw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1REWcOEmwiN2homQIjR4U2?si=dYCIFlwQQOm_OMSmnfVzNA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/020NX9cyLvnQIwWgRBNTbf?si=MWgrFYT1S2aMgqc0BLvtuw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2a9I0O9OsEGNA3NuMtYxAz?si=_RLA1tWXSPKfGYA4tXEKkw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7LHPXCZRMNtF6Ynw86aQsG?si=ldyvcGEWQEuiux96_1O7SA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3Fg231vRMvvbYzBW3h8kGs?si=KNON9K6bQmCW0KF6f9nAYA /p>

Episode 8: Lovers - HOW TO CREATE LONG LASTING LOVE

audio style="width: 480px; display: block;" controls="controls" preload="auto" src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-8.m4a"> source src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-8.m4a" type="audio/mp4"> p> Episode 8: Lovers - HOW TO CREATE LONG LASTING LOVE/p> /audio> p>Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! This week, we’re addressing an essential topic: how to see your partner as a lover, make long-term relationships last, and cultivate desire. Whether you're single, newly coupled, or have been together for years, this episode is for you. Drawing on her 10,000+ hours of therapy experience, Jacqueline discusses common issues couples face and stresses the importance of cultivating desire and growing together. Through client case studies, she illustrates how couples can grow apart if they aren’t conscious of the brain’s tendency to become accustomed to—or complacent with—the people around them. The hosts explore the necessity of attention and intention, developing self-awareness and awareness of each other, and creating time and space to fill your days with intentional moments that enhance love and connection, whatever that looks like for you. In our *Erotic Moments* segment, Jacqueline shares a profound energetic experience from her Bali Couples retreat, while Claude recounts an unexpected moment of connection with strangers while traveling with their partner. This episode focuses on cultivating long-lasting love and provides listeners with practical tools to explore their truths. Plus, we’re answering your burning questions: With the non-linear approach, how do you know when to stop? My husband has a hairy back and I’ve asked him to wax it, but he says I should love him as he is. Please help. I know we need sex therapy, but my partner thinks we should be able to fix it ourselves. How can I convince him? Tune in and let’s get loved up! P.S. All 2025 retreats would make a fantastic Christmas present! Couple’s Bali Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/couples-tantra-retreat-bali 2nd-6the June and 1st-5th of December 2025. Bambu Indah Resort in Bali https://www.bambuindah.com/ Couple’s Blue Mountains Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/couples-tantra-retreat-blue-mountains 14th-16th February, 20th-22nd June and 17th-19th October 2025. LoveLife Women’s Retreat https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-womens-retreat 14th-16th March, 15th-17th August 2025. Online Course for Men https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/mens-sexual-mastery-course Online Course for Women https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/womens-sexual-empowerment-course Online Course for Couples coming in 2025! If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline's Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline's retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Searls. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude Sex Playlists https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3jwU5fuz9eYqFR7syZLYRv?si=U5dy91XWTsCZCnZeR0KIDQ https://open.spotify.com/playlist/40uDRKHKq35NjAzQ3cjU2J?si=OuNurT5IQAS--nFAI9xxOw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1REWcOEmwiN2homQIjR4U2?si=dYCIFlwQQOm_OMSmnfVzNA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/020NX9cyLvnQIwWgRBNTbf?si=MWgrFYT1S2aMgqc0BLvtuw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2a9I0O9OsEGNA3NuMtYxAz?si=_RLA1tWXSPKfGYA4tXEKkw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7LHPXCZRMNtF6Ynw86aQsG?si=ldyvcGEWQEuiux96_1O7SA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3Fg231vRMvvbYzBW3h8kGs?si=KNON9K6bQmCW0KF6f9nAYA /p>

Episode 7: Your relationship is like a tripod - HOW TO BUILD A STRONG, LASTING CONNECTION

audio style="width: 480px; display: block;" controls="controls" preload="auto" src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-7.m4a"> source src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-7.m4a" type="audio/mp4"> p> Episode 7: Your relationship is like a tripod - HOW TO BUILD A STRONG, LASTING CONNECTION/p> /audio> p>Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! This week, we’re shifting gears from the sexual to the relational. Whether you’re in a relationship, looking for one, or simply curious about the secrets to deep, lasting connections, this episode is your guide. Jacqueline introduces a simple yet powerful metaphor: your relationship is like a tripod, and all three legs need to be strong and balanced. The legs? Logistics, friendship, and lovers. We break down each one—how they function, why they matter, and what happens when one is wobbly. We also dive into the fascinating science of love, exploring how our hearts emit the strongest electromagnetic fields of any organ and how this energy fuels connection. Jacqueline shares how subtle shifts in our interactions can magnify love, turning it into a potent life force that strengthens every aspect of your relationship. In this week’s Erotic Moments segment: - Jacqueline reflects on a tarot reading that pushed her to break through societal taboos and embrace her role as a sexual role model. She recounts a transformative, full-body orgasmic experience that lasted minutes. - Claude shares a tender moment of connection with their dog, leading Jacqueline to illuminate how intimacy and love aren’t confined to romantic relationships—they’re present in every interaction, if we’re open to them. Plus, we’re answering your burning questions: - What’s an example of non-linear lovemaking? - Should I masturbate if I’m having regular sex? - Is spanking inherently demeaning? This episode is packed with insights and tools to help you cultivate a relationship that’s not just strong but overflowing with love and intimacy. Tune in and learn how to love—deeper, better, and with more intention. Madame Zezuba https://www.youtube.com/@MadameZezuba-u3d Online Course for Men! Use code POD at checkout for your discount! https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/mens-sexual-mastery-course If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline's Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline's retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude Sex Playlists https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3jwU5fuz9eYqFR7syZLYRv?si=U5dy91XWTsCZCnZeR0KIDQ https://open.spotify.com/playlist/40uDRKHKq35NjAzQ3cjU2J?si=OuNurT5IQAS--nFAI9xxOw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1REWcOEmwiN2homQIjR4U2?si=dYCIFlwQQOm_OMSmnfVzNA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/020NX9cyLvnQIwWgRBNTbf?si=MWgrFYT1S2aMgqc0BLvtuw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2a9I0O9OsEGNA3NuMtYxAz?si=_RLA1tWXSPKfGYA4tXEKkw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7LHPXCZRMNtF6Ynw86aQsG?si=ldyvcGEWQEuiux96_1O7SA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3Fg231vRMvvbYzBW3h8kGs?si=KNON9K6bQmCW0KF6f9nAYA /p>

Episode 6: The Truth - MALE BODIES

audio style="width: 480px; display: block;" controls="controls" preload="auto" src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-6.m4a"> source src="https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/podcasts/episode-6.m4a" type="audio/mp4"> p> Episode 6: The Truth - MALE BODIES/p> /audio> p>Welcome back to My Mum's a Sex Therapist! This week, we're diving headfirst into a topic often left unspoken: male bodies. Whether you've got one, love one, or are just curious about WTF is going on down there, this episode is for you. Drawing on her 10,000+ hours of therapy experience, Jacqueline unpacks the truth about men—beyond the stereotypes. Far from being sex-crazed maniacs, men are often less sexual than women and just as emotionally complex. We explore the crushing societal and relational pressures placed on men, the historical timeline of male liberation versus female, and why this generation holds the keys to unraveling centuries of repression. We're tackling everything from the limits of male self-expression to the unspoken burdens men carry—and yes, we're going there on penis myths, "the small men's revenge," and why size really doesn't matter when it comes to intimacy. In our Erotic Moments segment, Jacqueline shares an unforgettable "Spanky Wanky" moment from her latest online course shoot, as well as a deeply impactful personal experience. Meanwhile, Claude opens up about the complexities of non-monogamy, shedding light on how jealousy can be a tool for growth and connection when handled with care. This episode is all about breaking free from shame, busting myths, and giving men (and everyone who loves them) the tools to explore their truth. Plus, we're answering your burning questions: What do men actually find attractive? How can you navigate premature or delayed ejaculation? And don't miss the exclusive pod discount on our new men's course—it's your chance to level up your love life, no matter what's in your pants. Tune in and let's get real about the truth behind male bodies! Online Course for Men! Use POD at checkout for your discount! https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/mens-sexual-mastery-course If you want more of Jacqueline and Claude, head over to their instagram page @mymumsasextherapist, @nottclaude and @Jacqueline.hellyer. Jacqueline's Website https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/ Jacqueline's retreats https://www.jacquelinehellyer.com/lovelife-retreats Our intro and outro music was created By Paul Sears. You can find more of him at https://thesoftlights.com/ This podcast was edited, produced and co-hosted by Claude. You can find them on instagram @nottclaude Sex Playlists https://open.spotify.com/playlist/6Ut6qypd1J5FH3D8lRcugW?si=hn-eHrRQSnyOp_uGj2yw3w https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3jwU5fuz9eYqFR7syZLYRv?si=U5dy91XWTsCZCnZeR0KIDQ https://open.spotify.com/playlist/40uDRKHKq35NjAzQ3cjU2J?si=OuNurT5IQAS--nFAI9xxOw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1REWcOEmwiN2homQIjR4U2?si=dYCIFlwQQOm_OMSmnfVzNA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/020NX9cyLvnQIwWgRBNTbf?si=MWgrFYT1S2aMgqc0BLvtuw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2a9I0O9OsEGNA3NuMtYxAz?si=_RLA1tWXSPKfGYA4tXEKkw https://open.spotify.com/playlist/7LHPXCZRMNtF6Ynw86aQsG?si=ldyvcGEWQEuiux96_1O7SA https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3Fg231vRMvvbYzBW3h8kGs?si=KNON9K6bQmCW0KF6f9nAYA /p>