Attraction VS. Control

Are You Losing Yourself In Relationships?

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450745/fan_mail/new] Is it possible to love someone deeply without completely losing yourself? 💔 In this episode of Notes to Young People, we dive heavy into the battle between hyper-independence and codependency in modern relationships. Our childhood friend Rebecca joins the couch to share how she navigates a 7-year age gap with her boyfriend, why she had to stay single to "figure herself out" , and the exact habits required to keep your individuality alive while sharing a life with someone else. We talk about everything from the psychology of "parallel play", the absolute necessity of financial independence for women, to calling out the subtle red flags when a partner secretly tries to control your schedule. If you've ever struggled to balance your dream self with your relationship status... or If you've ever thought  “Am I losing myself in this relationship?”... or If you've wondered “How do healthy couples balance independence and closeness?” THIS CONVERSATION IS FOR YOU! Our family debates: -how relationships can change people -maintaining your identity while in love -healthy vs unhealthy attachment -independence in long-term relationships -becoming the version of yourself someone else wants 🔔 Subscribe to Notes to Young People for unfiltered discussions of life, love, and adulting! #NotesToYoungPeople [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/notestoyoungpeople] #ModernDating [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/moderndating] #RelationshipAdvice [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationshipadvice] #Independence [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/independence] #LoveBombing [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/lovebombing] #ParallelPlay [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/parallelplay] #FinancialIndependence [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/financialindependence] #Relationships [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationships] #DatingAdvice [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/datingadvice] #Codependency [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/codependency] #HealthyRelationships [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/healthyrelationships] #RelationshipPodcast [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationshippodcast] #LoveAdvice [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/loveadvice] #YoungAdults [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/youngadults] #SelfWorth [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/selfworth] #Interdependence [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/interdependence] #IndependenceInRelationships [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/independenceinrelationships]  If our content has taught or entertained you, consider buying us a coffee. ☕️ 💕 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople] If you're interested in 1-on-1 Relationship Coaching Click below 👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989  [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989] 🎙️ Watch Notes To Young People on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW ] ♡ Follow us on Instagram  @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# [https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# ] ♡ Follow us on TikTok @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en [https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en ] ♡ Follow us on Twitter @NTYPpodcast https://x.com/NTYPpodcast [https://x.com/NTYPpodcast] ♡ BUSINESS & ENQUIRY EMAIL NotesToYoungPeoplePodcast@gmail.com ... [https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Live-Lose-Weight-Age-ebook/dp/B07NZHHQHT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3P2AC15AKG8WD&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZEBo0UFe8QIq8Si26HGaFj0OAZOXr7evYTlr23d6GPrkYNfQ_szkco28FDhn1tiDQJ6r0xI1H0tZgI3GgE0UPnM5sNLPjVqRLkc4ILajyFM.3s399S4TalBb1_0WRzowvfuI1hnaLpnNPlnJd-tqvBY&dib_tag=se&keywords=denise+byam&qid=1739067934&sprefix=denise+byam%2Caps%2C90&sr=8-1]

Can You REALLY Be Friends With Your Ex?!

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450745/fan_mail/new] Can you really be friends with your ex — or is it a relationship dealbreaker? In this episode of Notes To Young People, we have an honest, unfiltered conversation about dating someone who’s still close with their ex, whether that’s a red flag, and what healthy boundaries actually look like. We discuss: – Would we continue dating someone who’s close friends with their ex? – Are we okay with our partners being friends with their exes? – What boundaries should exist in friendships with an ex? – Are we friends with any of our exes — and why or why not? – Should you ever stay in a relationship if an ex is still in the picture? This conversation is for anyone navigating modern dating, healing after breakups, or questioning what’s normal versus what’s not acceptable in relationships. 💬 Let us know in the comments: Can YOU be friends with your ex — yes or no? 📌 Subscribe for honest conversations on love, self-worth, dating, and relationships. #FriendsWithYourEx [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/friendswithyourex] #RelationshipBoundaries [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationshipboundaries] #DatingAdvice [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/datingadvice] #ModernDating [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/moderndating] #RedFlags [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/redflags] #RelationshipTalk [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/relationshiptalk] #Exes [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/exes] #HealthyRelationships [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/healthyrelationships] #LoveAndBoundaries [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/loveandboundaries] #NotesToYoungPeople [https://www.youtube.com/hashtag/notestoyoungpeople] If our content has taught or entertained you, consider buying us a coffee. ☕️ 💕 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople] If you're interested in 1-on-1 Relationship Coaching Click below 👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989  [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989] 🎙️ Watch Notes To Young People on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW ] ♡ Follow us on Instagram  @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# [https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# ] ♡ Follow us on TikTok @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en [https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en ] ♡ Follow us on Twitter @NTYPpodcast https://x.com/NTYPpodcast [https://x.com/NTYPpodcast] ♡ BUSINESS & ENQUIRY EMAIL NotesToYoungPeoplePodcast@gmail.com ... [https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Live-Lose-Weight-Age-ebook/dp/B07NZHHQHT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3P2AC15AKG8WD&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZEBo0UFe8QIq8Si26HGaFj0OAZOXr7evYTlr23d6GPrkYNfQ_szkco28FDhn1tiDQJ6r0xI1H0tZgI3GgE0UPnM5sNLPjVqRLkc4ILajyFM.3s399S4TalBb1_0WRzowvfuI1hnaLpnNPlnJd-tqvBY&dib_tag=se&keywords=denise+byam&qid=1739067934&sprefix=denise+byam%2Caps%2C90&sr=8-1]

Attraction VS. Control

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450745/fan_mail/new] 💬 Join the conversation: Where do you draw the line between attraction and control? 👇  In this powerful Notes To Young People conversation, we unpack the difference between healthy preferences,  and controlling behavior in relationships. From gym habits, hairstyles, nails, and fashion choices to confidence, self-esteem, and identity — we discuss why self-maintenance should always be for YOU, not to transform yourself into something your partner wants. We talk openly about: 🪞 Maintaining your appearance to your own standard 🍎 When doing something your partner likes is healthy — and when it crosses a line 📈 People who choose low self-esteem individuals as partners for control ✨ Confidence, identity, and refusing to water yourself down 🔎 The pressure to “dress down” or shrink yourself in relationships 🗣️ How different personality types (introverted vs expressive) can impact communication and expectations ❤️ Loving someone without losing who you are This episode is about self-worth, boundaries, and building relationships where you’re fully accepted by both yourself and your partner— not edited. 🎙️ Notes To Young People is a multi-generational podcast hosted by a Caribbean 🇦🇬 mom from Antigua and her adult children, offering honest conversations about love, identity, confidence, and healthy relationships. 💬 Join the conversation: Where do you draw the line between attraction and control? 👇  👍 Like, comment, and subscribe for more real conversations about love and self-respect. If our content has taught or entertained you, consider buying us a coffee. ☕️ 💕 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople] If you're interested in 1-on-1 Relationship Coaching Click below 👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989  [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989] 🎙️ Watch Notes To Young People on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW ] ♡ Follow us on Instagram  @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# [https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# ] ♡ Follow us on TikTok @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en [https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en ] ♡ Follow us on Twitter @NTYPpodcast https://x.com/NTYPpodcast [https://x.com/NTYPpodcast] ♡ BUSINESS & ENQUIRY EMAIL NotesToYoungPeoplePodcast@gmail.com ... [https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Live-Lose-Weight-Age-ebook/dp/B07NZHHQHT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3P2AC15AKG8WD&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZEBo0UFe8QIq8Si26HGaFj0OAZOXr7evYTlr23d6GPrkYNfQ_szkco28FDhn1tiDQJ6r0xI1H0tZgI3GgE0UPnM5sNLPjVqRLkc4ILajyFM.3s399S4TalBb1_0WRzowvfuI1hnaLpnNPlnJd-tqvBY&dib_tag=se&keywords=denise+byam&qid=1739067934&sprefix=denise+byam%2Caps%2C90&sr=8-1]

Pregnancy, Postpartum & Parenting 📊👶🏻

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450745/fan_mail/new] In this episode of Notes To Young People, Topics include:  ✨ Parenting Styles – Single vs partnered parenting, co-parenting tips, and finding balance  🤱 Motherhood Realities – Balancing life, love, & kids  🤰 Pregnancy & Labor – Experiences, symptoms, birth stories, & recovery 🍼 Postpartum Life – Body changes, breastfeeding, & Postpartum Depression 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 Partnerships & Parenting – How shared responsibilities impact raising kids & building a strong family  💰 Financial VS. Hands-On Support – Why both money & active parenting matter 💍 Relationships – Importance of marriage, long-term commitment, & partnership dynamics 👶 Early Childhood – Raising kids, practical advice, & lessons learned 🧠 Raising Neurodivergent Children – Supporting children w/ autism, early intervention strategies, & Tylenol (acetaminophen)  RACE BASED CLINICAL TOOLS 1. Why Clinicians Are Reconsidering Race-Based Algorithms  [ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dmEW8w9ptys] 2. The Evidence on Race-Based Clinical Algorithms  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s-4ys996diI]   COLOSTRUM & ECZEMA 1. Colostrum Benefits for Skin [https://colostrum.com/blogs/blog/colostrum-benefits-for-skin-colostrum-reduces-inflammation-and-redness?srsltid=AfmBOorB5y6fX8dVz6vJVDgCbA0b-wnsxLFD3xGjXWXFP3oWorz7-8gC ] 2. New Hope for Patients with Eczema [https://www.docwirenews.com/post/new-hope-for-patients-with-eczema-study-highlights-healing-effects-of-cows-milk] 3. Anti-Inflammatory and Anti-Allergic Properties of Colostrum [https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10574092/] If our content has taught or entertained you, consider buying us a coffee. ☕️ 💕 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople] If you're interested in 1-on-1 Relationship Coaching Click below 👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989  [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989] 🎙️ Watch Notes To Young People on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW ] ♡ Follow us on Instagram  @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# [https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# ] ♡ Follow us on TikTok @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en [https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en ] ♡ Follow us on Twitter @NTYPpodcast https://x.com/NTYPpodcast [https://x.com/NTYPpodcast] ♡ BUSINESS & ENQUIRY EMAIL NotesToYoungPeoplePodcast@gmail.com ... [https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Live-Lose-Weight-Age-ebook/dp/B07NZHHQHT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3P2AC15AKG8WD&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZEBo0UFe8QIq8Si26HGaFj0OAZOXr7evYTlr23d6GPrkYNfQ_szkco28FDhn1tiDQJ6r0xI1H0tZgI3GgE0UPnM5sNLPjVqRLkc4ILajyFM.3s399S4TalBb1_0WRzowvfuI1hnaLpnNPlnJd-tqvBY&dib_tag=se&keywords=denise+byam&qid=1739067934&sprefix=denise+byam%2Caps%2C90&sr=8-1]

Having Children 🤰 🍼 (Is marriage even necessary?)

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2450745/fan_mail/new] Before you bring a child into this world… listen to this. 👶🏽💭 ✨ Are you really ready for kids? In this episode of Notes To Young People, we dive deep with REAL scenarios into one of life’s biggest decisions: when and how to start a family! This raw and unfiltered discussion covers: 💬 The realities of single parenthood vs married parenting ✅ 14 Things to Check Off Before Having Kids  💰 How to know if you’re financially, mentally, and emotionally ready 💞 17 Traits of a Great Co-Parent (and what red flags to avoid) 🍼 Pregnancy, postpartum realities, and parenting expectations 💔 Divorce, custody, and what happens when one parent checks out ❤️‍🔥 Blending families & dating people with kids — the dos and don’ts 🏠 Why you should always have your own money and backup plan This is the conversation young people NEED to hear before making one of the biggest decisions of their lives. 💡 👉🏽 Don’t forget to LIKE, SUBSCRIBE, and SHARE this podcast with someone who needs it. If our content has taught or entertained you, consider buying us a coffee. ☕️ 💕 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople] If you're interested in 1-on-1 Relationship Coaching Click below 👇 https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989  [https://buymeacoffee.com/notestoyoungpeople/e/388989] 🎙️ Watch Notes To Young People on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW  [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RKK4Tfh1Woc&list=PLVIDlNqutznlMaUo5dOFyetbmXKeZS2BW ] ♡ Follow us on Instagram  @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# [https://www.instagram.com/notestoyoungpeople/# ] ♡ Follow us on TikTok @NotesToYoungPeople https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en [https://www.tiktok.com/@notestoyoungpeople?lang=en ] ♡ Follow us on Twitter @NTYPpodcast https://x.com/NTYPpodcast [https://x.com/NTYPpodcast] ♡ BUSINESS & ENQUIRY EMAIL NotesToYoungPeoplePodcast@gmail.com ... [https://www.amazon.com/Eat-Live-Lose-Weight-Age-ebook/dp/B07NZHHQHT/ref=sr_1_1?crid=3P2AC15AKG8WD&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.ZEBo0UFe8QIq8Si26HGaFj0OAZOXr7evYTlr23d6GPrkYNfQ_szkco28FDhn1tiDQJ6r0xI1H0tZgI3GgE0UPnM5sNLPjVqRLkc4ILajyFM.3s399S4TalBb1_0WRzowvfuI1hnaLpnNPlnJd-tqvBY&dib_tag=se&keywords=denise+byam&qid=1739067934&sprefix=denise+byam%2Caps%2C90&sr=8-1]