Where is God in Unthinkable Loss? With Pastor Gregg Matte

How a Homeschooling Mom of 10 Finds Joy in the Chaos: Abby Halberstadt on Motherhood and Faith

Abby Halberstadt shares how she became a homeschooling mom of 10, how she battles postpartum rage and anxiety with Scripture-centered tools like her “gentleness challenge,” and how she builds a joyful, Christ-focused family (and ministry) without losing herself in the process.   Key takeaways ◦         Abby grew up in a small family yet embraced a big-family mindset modeled by parents who trusted God with fertility, including walking through multiple miscarriages. ◦         Abby has experienced postpartum anxiety, rage, and depression in varying degrees and describes how hormones can distort reality and reactions to normal family stress. ◦         After an over-the-top reaction to her kids, Abby’s husband gently confronted her, prompting her to create a 30-day “gentleness challenge” focused on Scripture, repentance, and speaking less when angry. ◦         Thousands of women joined; Abby says the challenge transformed not just her tone but how she perceivedher children’s behavior. ◦         Her approach to emotional regulation is rooted in specific passages like Ephesians 4 and in practical steps like speaking fewer words when tempted to lecture. ◦         The system works through a mix of life-schooling, older kids who help, a supportive husband, and her mother’s ongoing “legacy” help several days a week.

Parenting in the Digital Age - Strategies to Protect and Empower Your Teen with Kirsten Cobabe

Kirsten Cobabe continues her conversation with Rania Mankarious by tackling the digital challenges today’s teens face. This episode looks at the pitfalls and realities of social media, gaming, and online relationships, as well as gender-specific risks, shifting family dynamics, and the complexity of digital consent. Kirsten provides guidance for helping kids develop healthy relationships both with themselves and with the digital world, all while families maintain open communication and core values. Rania welcomes Kirsten back to the podcast for this important discussion on staying influential in children’s lives amid technology and online pressures. Learn more about Kirsten here [https://www.kirstencobabe.com/], and follow her on Instagram here [https://www.instagram.com/kirstencobabe/].   Key Takeaways   Social media and digital access are inescapable and impact boys and girls differently, shaping self-worth and social skills in profound ways. Girls may seek validation, while boys are easily exposed to explicit content. Parental denial is not a solution—healthy tech habits begin with honest, ongoing conversations. No tool or parental control can fully shield children from risky online situations. The most important safeguard is having a relationship where kids feel safe discussing the hardest topics and knowing that home is a source of unconditional love. Gaming and virtual worlds aren’t just time-wasters; for some kids, they represent real sources of value, community, and challenge. When the appeal of the digital world outweighs real life, it’s a sign that real-world bonds and experiences need strengthening—not just more restrictions. Addiction to technology or gaming should be met with compassion and understanding of family dynamics, not shame. Parents need to recognize patterns, admit past missteps, and collaborate on resets, focusing on growth instead of blame. Building resilient kids in a changing world requires families to keep adjusting together. It’s about building a home culture that values communication, self-reflection, and joy, with parents willing to be honest learners right alongside their teens.

How to Build Trust and Connection with Defiant Teen With Kirsten Cobabe

Former therapist and renowned "Teen Whisperer" Kirsten Cobabe joins Rania Mankarious for a candid discussion about the true heart of the parent-teen relationship. Drawing from over 20 years working with children and families, Kirsten unpacks why understanding your own "inner teen" is essential for authentic connection, how to respond to defiance as an invitation, and the importance of modeling healthy relationship boundaries. This conversation blends personal stories with practical strategies for evolving your family dynamic, meeting your teen where they are, and moving past generational patterns. Learn more about Kirsten here [https://www.kirstencobabe.com/], and follow her on Instagram here [https://www.instagram.com/kirstencobabe/]. Key Takeaways 1. Recognizing and working through your own unresolved experiences from adolescence is fundamental for authentic, effective parenting. When parents ignore their "inner teen," unresolved issues can get passed to children, making it harder to respond with empathy and insight. 2. Teen behaviors, especially challenging ones, should be reframed as invitations to connect and get curious. Instead of moving immediately to discipline, using these moments to reflect on why they trigger you can open doors to more meaningful relationships. 3. Authoritative parenting, which balances love with consistent boundaries, is proven to foster healthier dynamics than authoritarian or permissive models. Kids thrive when parents are warm, engaged, and clear about expectations. 4. Modeling healthy relationships teaches teens what to expect and aspire to in their own lives. Every interaction, no matter how small, builds trust or erodes it over time. 5. It’s never too late to rebuild connection or repair mistakes, even after something has gone wrong. Successful parenting is about iteration, repair, and growth, not perfection.

Teen Parenting in a Digital World With Pastor Gregg Matte

In this second conversation, Pastor Gregg Matte shifts from grief to the everyday challenge of parenting the “now generation” in a noisy, digital world. As a pastor, husband, and dad of two, he talks with Rania about the one currency parents are constantly losing without noticing: time with their kids. From shared dinners and “high/low” check-ins to making your home the place teens want to be, Pastor Gregg shares practical rhythms that build connection and influence. He unpacks why parents should aim for the heart rather than just behavior, how to think about screens and social media across different ages, and why discernment matters more than a perfect rulebook. The two also discuss parenting defiant kids, letting natural consequences teach hard lessons, and how to keep your marriage and family identity strong through it all. With stories about shared Spotify accounts, Friday family fun nights, and “Team Matte,” this episode gives parents a hopeful, realistic vision for leading their kids with both grace and truth. Key takeaways •          Time is a parent’s most important asset; simple practices like no‑phone dinners and “high/low” questions can dramatically deepen connection. •          Over-focusing on behavior can cost you your child’s heart; aim for the heart and the behavior will follow. •          Tech and content decisions work best when tailored to a child’s age, stage, and track record, and when trust widens as kids demonstrate responsibility. •          Defiant seasons require clear boundaries agreed on in advance and the willingness to let natural consequences do some of the teaching. •          Families that prioritize shared fun, a clear “team” identity, and open conversation give kids a better story than what the world is offering.

Where is God in Unthinkable Loss? With Pastor Gregg Matte

Pastor Gregg Matte of Houston’s First joins Rania for a conversation about grief, tragedy, and the hardest questions parents ask when the unthinkable happens. Drawing from Scripture, recent funerals he has preached, and the heartbreak of events like the Hill Country flooding and Heaven’s 27, Pastor Gregg explores where God is in disaster, whether God “allows” or “orchestrates” suffering, and why the Bible shows us Jesus himself weeping at a graveside. He explains the difference between asking “why” and asking “what next,” and how Job’s story shows that deep grief and deep faith are not opposites but can exist together. Parents will hear practical, pastoral guidance for walking through loss, helping children process tragedy, and learning to “grieve toward God” instead of away from Him. Pastor Gregg also shares how God can redeem even misery into ministry and why some answers will remain in the category of “the secret things” that belong to the Lord. Key takeaways •           Deep grief and deep faith can coexist; Scripture shows that lament, questions, and worship can all live in the same heart. •           The shift from “why did this happen” to “what next, Lord” is often the turning point in moving through grief instead of getting stuck in it. •           Job’s story and Jesus weeping at Lazarus’s tomb reveal that God is not distant from suffering but present, compassionate, and grieved by the brokenness of this world. •           Parents can model “grieving toward God” by staying in prayer, community, and Scripture, even when there are no satisfying answers. •           God may use unimaginable loss to grow empathy, ministry, and eternal perspective, even while the pain and questions remain very real.