Postpartum Anxiety: The 3 Cycles Running the Show

Postpartum Anxiety: The 3 Cycles Running the Show

Your baby is finally asleep. So why are you standing over the crib for the fifth time in a minute, checking that they're still breathing? If new parenthood cranked your anxiety to a setting you don't recognize, this one's for you. Dr. Becky sits down with psychologist Dr. Nicole Pensak, author of the book Rattled [https://www.drnicoleamoyalpensak.com/book-rattled-nicole-pensak], and grabs a whiteboard to map the anxiety that quietly runs the show in early parenthood: the middle-of-the-night checking, the "if I feel it, it must be true" spiral, and the slow drift of avoiding more and more until your world gets small. Together they draw three cycles (reassurance, emotional reasoning, and avoidance) and, more useful still, the one small move that breaks each one. You'll walk away knowing which loop is yours, and something you can actually try today. One heads up: this episode has a whiteboard, and that's kind of the whole point. Watch it on YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL5PQdZxg7tKs8MwcmVMgGjGZy0uiD9V36] to see the cycles drawn out. That's where it all clicks. In this episode: postpartum anxiety, intrusive thoughts, the checking cycle, emotional reasoning, avoidance, and why anxiety after a baby is more common (and more survivable) than anyone tells you. Dr. Becky wrote up the explanation to each of these cycles on the Good Inside blog [https://www.goodinside.com/blog/the-3-anxiety-cycles/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260709_Pensakblog].  * Looking for more support navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a new baby? Good Inside Baby [https://www.goodinside.com/lp/baby/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260709_Pensak] gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming in early parenthood. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: * Ergobaby [https://ergobaby.com/en-us]: Use the code DRBECKY20 for 20% off for support at every stage * LMNT [https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_medium=sponsor&utm_source=goodinside&utm_campaign=agwp&utm_content=&utm_term=&rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+Dr.+Becky%27s+COMMUNITY]: Get a free gift with your purchase at drinkLMNT.com/goodinside [http://drinklmnt.com/goodinside] * Little Spoon [https://littlespoon.com/rattled]: Get 50% off your first order at littlespoon.com/rattled [https://littlespoon.com/rattled] with code RATTLED * Frida [https://frida.com/]: Shop Frida’s bath time collection at Amazon, Target, and Walmart today Learn more about Good Inside [https://www.goodinside.com/]. Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/]. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

5 Numbers Every New Parent Needs to Hear

What if someone handed you a map before you started down the hardest road of your life? That's what Dr. Becky does in this solo episode — breaking down five data points every new parent needs to know. Not to scare you. To prepare you. Because the thing that spirals most new parents isn't the difficulty itself. It's being completely blindsided by things that are entirely predictable. The five numbers:  66% of births don't go according to plan. 8 to 12 feedings in 24 hours.  2 hours for a cluster feed.  1 in 5 mothers experience postpartum depression or anxiety.  Zero — the number of guaranteed postpartum home visits in the United States (and yes, we're the only wealthy country where that's true). If you're pregnant, newly postpartum, or supporting someone who is — this episode will change how you talk to yourself when it gets hard. * Looking for more support navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a new baby? Good Inside Baby [https://www.goodinside.com/lp/baby/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260701_5data] gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming in early parenthood. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: * Oso & Me: [https://www.osoandme.com/] Use the code OSOGOOD15 for 15% off clothes newborn through age ten * Coterie [https://www.coterie.com/]: Get 20% off with the code GOODINSIDEBABY20 * Little Spoon [https://www.littlespoon.com/?coupon=RATTLED&utm_medium=podcast&utm_source=RattledByGoodInside&utm_campaign=2026]: Get 50% off your first order at littlespoon.com/rattled [https://www.littlespoon.com/?coupon=RATTLED&utm_medium=podcast&utm_source=RattledByGoodInside&utm_campaign=2026] with code RATTLED * Frida [https://frida.com/]: Shop Frida’s bath time collection at Amazon, Target, and Walmart today Learn more about Good Inside [https://www.goodinside.com/]. Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/]. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

Postpartum OCD, Intrusive Thoughts: What’s Happening to Me?

Sabrina Rudin [https://www.sabrinarudin.com/] grew up expecting motherhood to come naturally to her. She was raised holistically, she ate well, she meditated, she had manifested the pregnancy. She had the nursery. She was ready. She left the hospital and felt nothing like she expected. In this episode, Sabrina shares the story of her postpartum OCD — the intrusive thoughts that flooded in, the terror of thinking something was fundamentally broken in her, and the moment she told her husband she thought she'd "become a murderer." His response changed everything. Dr. Becky and Sabrina move through the full arc: the version of herself she expected to be, the night things fell apart, eight months of therapy, and the realization that landed years later — that a thought is a thought, and she gets to choose which ones she believes. If you've ever had a thought that scared you after your baby arrived, this one's for you. Read Dr. Becky’s blog post [https://www.goodinside.com/blog/postpartum-intrusive-thoughts/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260625_Rudin] about postpartum intrusive thoughts. And if you’re looking for additional support, take a look at The Motherhood Center’s list of resources [https://themotherhoodcenter.com/resources/]. If you are in crisis, dial 988. * Looking for more support navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a new baby? Good Inside Baby [https://www.goodinside.com/lp/baby/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260625_Rudin] gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming in early parenthood. Thank you Airbnb [https://click.pscrb.fm/2f] for making this episode possible! Host your home or book your next stay on Airbnb [https://click.pscrb.fm/2f]. Learn more about Good Inside [https://www.goodinside.com/]. Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/]. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

When the Baby Arrives and Dad Falls Apart

When Kevin Maguire became a dad for the second time, he experienced something few new fathers are screened for or even warned about: paternal postpartum depression. His son wouldn't stop crying, and Kevin couldn't make it stop. He took the dog out, sat on a bench, and started bawling himself — because he didn't understand what he was experiencing. Kevin is the author of The New Fatherhood [https://www.thenewfatherhood.org/], a Substack he started after his own experience with PPD, as well as a book [https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/kevin-maguire/the-new-fatherhood/9781538773062/?lens=balance] by the same name. He and Becky talk about why new fathers are largely unscreened for postpartum depression, what the symptoms actually look like in men, and what Kevin built after being completely broken open by fatherhood. If you're a new dad, a dad-to-be, or you love one — this episode is worth sending to someone. Dr. Becky & Kevin get into: * why becoming a parent can feel like a demotion, and why that framing is more useful than it sounds; * the video game that gave Kevin something his baby couldn't: a sense of control; * what it means to sit in the mess when you've spent your whole life fixing things; * the line Kevin keeps coming back to: "If you don't deal with your demons, your demons will raise your kids." Kevin has a free, anonymous online PPD screening [https://checkup.thenewfatherhood.org/] tool designed with UK psychologists. He also funds direct access to therapy for dads through his newsletter. Read the list Dr. Becky put together of things that the non-birth parent can do [https://www.goodinside.com/blog/what-dads-can-do-after-birth/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260618_Maguire] when the baby arrives.  * Looking for more support navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a new baby? Good Inside Baby [https://www.goodinside.com/lp/baby/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_06182026_Maguire] gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming in early parenthood. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: * Bobbie [https://hibobbie.com/]: Learn more about Bobbie’s organic formula and support for every feeding journey at hibobbie.com [https://hibobbie.com/] * Airbnb [https://click.pscrb.fm/2f]: Host your home or book your next stay on Airbnb * Coterie [https://www.coterie.com/]: Get 20% off with the code GOODINSIDEBABY20 Learn more about Good Inside [https://www.goodinside.com/]. Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/]. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.

IVF, Miscarriage, then Barack Obama

Hannah Bronfman thought getting pregnant would be easy. She'd spent a decade in wellness, she was healthy, she was young. Then came two and a half years of trying, a miscarriage, failed cycles, and eventually IVF. Ten days after finally giving birth to their son Preston — in the middle of a pandemic — she virtually interviewed Barack Obama. She was wearing an adult diaper. Hannah and her husband Brendan Fallis join Dr. Becky to talk about the parts of new parenthood that don't make the highlights reel: what fertility struggles actually feel like from the inside, the maternal health fears that don't go away even when you have the best care, and the specific kind of panic that hits the moment you leave the hospital with a baby and realize no one is coming with you. They also talk about a parenting philosophy they both arrived at early: their kids were going to live their life, not the other way around. Why that's not selfish. And why it might be one of the best things you can do for a child. Looking for more support navigating pregnancy, postpartum, and life with a new baby? Good Inside Baby [https://www.goodinside.com/lp/baby/?utm_source=podcast_baby&utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=traffic_evergreen_podcast&utm_content=shownotes_20260611_bronfman] gives you practical tools, scripts, and expert guidance for the moments that can feel most overwhelming in early parenthood. Thank you to our partners for making this episode possible: * Pipette [https://www.pipettebaby.com/]: Get 15% off Pipette’s line of SPF products with the code GOODINSIDESPF at pipettebaby.com [https://www.pipettebaby.com/] * LMNT [https://partners.drinklmnt.com/free-gift-with-purchase?utm_medium=sponsor&utm_source=goodinside&utm_campaign=agwp&utm_content=&utm_term=&rfsn_cn=EXCLUSIVE+GIFT+FOR+Dr.+Becky%27s+COMMUNITY]: Get a free 8-count sample pack with your purchase at drinkLMNT.com/goodinside [https://drinklmnt.com/GOODINSIDE] * Airbnb [https://click.pscrb.fm/2f]: Host your home or book your next stay on Airbnb Learn more about Good Inside [https://www.goodinside.com/]. Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/]. Hosted by Simplecast, an AdsWizz company. See pcm.adswizz.com [https://pcm.adswizz.com] for information about our collection and use of personal data for advertising.