Election 2024 Aftercare: processing and planning how we care for ourselves and each other with the election results - Ep. 9

Watching Queer Ultimatum S2: A Deep Dive & Aftercare

What was it like to watch the Ultimatum: Queer Love, Season 2 in a time of resistance to escalating wintery raids and kidnappings in Los Angeles and across Turtle Island, in times of escalating g-cide in Gaza, Congo, Sudan, bombings in Iran, and threats to queer and trans people on Turtle Island and across the globe? What does after-care look like as we process how the show impacted us? What was the arch of feelings/noticings as we moved through the episodes? How did racial dynamics, and particularly anti-Blackness and colonial expectations of coming out impact the relationships, especially given the cast was largely white or light-skinned POC? Did watching provide the fun connection to community we were hoping for? What would it look like to divest our attention from big media and invest it in small, independent media? In this episode, Carolyn Collado (they/them) and Laila Makled (they/he), discuss the significance of the Queer Ultimatum: Season Two as one of the most high-profile queer reality TV shows, and recap of some of the moments that stuck out most to them (until they got tired and had to stop, lol.). This is a long episode, so please take breaks, or enjoy over several days on your walks, drives or when you’re doing tasks!  This episode was produced and edited by Carolyn Collado  Support Carolyn’s work: Purchase the ⁠Recovering Under Racial Capitalism Journal ebook⁠   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbkUzdUZsaXdBQnNGVzhLVXFjaHJkaGVpRWtrZ3xBQ3Jtc0tsRFh1T2hfbGpjR2d0czg5NS1sTDhqTVg1cWJmNnZ1M29HV1dWNUVhRmFVSE50MlNsamNwbGdpTTAzckxtbHFjMF93Z1Y2VTJodUtoWHhPME83NGlhY2FfUzd5eVUwUFQzcGxDS200d3daSFdwak1Wbw&q=https%3A%2F%2Fsnpfd.co%2FbG04UGu3&v=WevUlMGEOJA]https://snpfd.co/bG04UGu3 [https://snpfd.co/bG04UGu3] Subscribe to our ⁠Patreon⁠ $3 from everyone viewing would help make this work sustainable! ⁠⁠⁠ / recoveryfortherevolution⁠⁠⁠  [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqa1dGNGJhZVhvMlVMTjRZNnZhMS1OYzhjdGprUXxBQ3Jtc0ttLVIwZkdaU0ZwSDhXR2FsLUZXbmlwVzFOYnF4VFpkbEw4c3pwcjZkUldSLWY5WWh6QksyNldTTHhyMTdoQ0VQTGJTWW5wM294WkVBbjFuWm5tYzVzWU1oQnQtd3VUNjZjMy1ERFpIQldHcHZPMUpZRQ&q=http%3A%2F%2Fpatreon.com%2Frecoveryfortherevolution%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0%E2%81%A0&v=WevUlMGEOJA]Support the Shaheen family https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbEpWZTRvWHlfRnU0REVjMmwzZXphZWVDZVczUXxBQ3Jtc0tuNHJra2w0bndQNkljZFlHaFYwdkxRcXR6RWswRE1UZGJ5STN0UmtSVXV0YVVpQXE2VkJQZVVVclZCeF9CUDFzTGhCVDRxdXFyc09HSnBfa1R2VWs4TFpUUGc2THd6OFNfTnlyX1RXY0JackFfMHNQQQ&q=https%3A%2F%2Fchuffed.org%2Fproject%2Fhodafund&v=WevUlMGEOJAhttps://chuffed.org/project/hodafund [https://chuffed.org/project/hodafund] Book a ⁠1:1 Decolonizing Recovery Coaching Session with Me⁠   [https://www.youtube.com/redirect?event=video_description&redir_token=QUFFLUhqbXF6NTY4b1BJS2dOYnBUdVJUYXdIVW5USXdjQXxBQ3Jtc0tsRkNjZlpUQm1lZEVtamhTaGtGUzktS3FFVnNYQ1I4RzU3THl3SEJnMHNoYzBIX1dhYldZU2lCb1lZWnA3NWwzNVAyVFRPTlJ2dU8wdjBydFpmb0ZzTENUOUFpZlRiQ3BtU1NyN1dEeFRrdF9vbVdTNA&q=https%3A%2F%2Fsnpfd.co%2F5NheDQ5Y&v=WevUlMGEOJA]https://snpfd.co/5NheDQ5Y [https://snpfd.co/5NheDQ5Y] Follow Laila, sign up for their newsletter, and check out more of their work at outtherecommunication.net or @out_there_communication on Instagram. Beginners guide to event accessibility outtherecommunication.net/blog/eventaccessibility [https://outtherecommunication.net/blog/eventaccessibility]If you feel called to “tip” or support Laila’s work financially: -sign up for their patreon www.patreon.com/lailamakled [http://www.patreon.com/lailamakled] -Venmo: @LailaRhoda -Cashapp: $LailaRhoda -Paypal: lailamakled@gmail.com [lailamakled@gmail.com] Resources: Interrupting intimate partner violence: https://www.antipoliceterrorproject.org/interrupting-ipv [https://www.antipoliceterrorproject.org/interrupting-ipv] Alternatives to calling the police: https://dontcallthepolice.com/ [https://dontcallthepolice.com/] Mental health crisis lines that don’t call the police: https://www.inclusivetherapists.com/crisis [https://www.inclusivetherapists.com/crisis] Shout outs to folks we mentioned in the episode: Alex de Las Mareas: www.instagram.com/pleasurebrujita/ [https://www.instagram.com/pleasurebrujita/] Ericka Hart, M.Ed: www.instagram.com/ihartericka/ [https://www.instagram.com/ihartericka/]

Can We Enjoy The Queer Ultimatum Season 2 While Our Communities Are Under Constant Threat? - Ep. 12

What does it mean to watch the Queer Ultimatum Season 2 on Netflix in a time of resistance to escalating wintery raids and kidnappings in Los Angeles and across Turtle Island, in times of escalating g-cide in Gaza, Congo, Sudan, and threats of war with Iran? Does TV keep us from being in movement, or can it provide harm reduction in times of resistance and escalation of harms from systems of oppression? What does it mean to watch reality TV when our analysis and critique relates to real-life people, especially in queer and trans community where everyone is one-to-two degrees of separation? Do we even want to see a queer show about ultimatums and marriage? What does it mean to watch this product of Hollywood and America’s soft power and pink washing globally, while also being given crumbs and being desperate for queer and trans media? In this episode, Carolyn Collado (they/them) and Laila Makled (they/he) provide an introduction to the Queer Ultimatum Season 2, taking a look at the trailer and Autostraddle’s description of the cast and consider the role and function of reality tv, especially queer reality tv in America, on a global scale, and as we fight for liberation. Chapters 00:00 - Why are we talking about this show now? 10:31 - media and its role in imperialism and globalization 12:08 globalization of queer media and the queer ultimatum 15:26 - the desperation for queer and trans media 19:05 - considerations of the impact on real people of social media reality tv discourse 25:24: queer ultimatum season 2 trailer reaction and initial impressionsLaila is a care-worker, people gather-er, resource creator, and communication nerd. Follow Laila, sign up for their newsletter, and check out more of their work at outtherecommunication.net [https://outtherecommunication.net/] or @out_there_communication [https://www.instagram.com/out_there_communication/] on Instagram. Event planning workbook: https://outtherecommunication.net/blog/eventplanningworkbook [https://outtherecommunication.net/blog/eventplanningworkbook] If you feel called to “tip” or support Laila’s work financially: -sign up for their patreon www.patreon.com/lailamakled -Venmo: @LailaRhoda -Cashapp: $LailaRhoda -Paypal: lailamakled@gmail.com Purchase the ⁠Recovering Under Racial Capitalism Journal ebook⁠ https://snpfd.co/bG04UGu3 [https://snpfd.co/bG04UGu3] Subscribe to our ⁠Patreon⁠ $3 from everyone viewing would help make this work sustainable!⁠⁠⁠http://patreon.com/recoveryfortherevolution⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠http://patreon.com/recoveryfortherevolution⁠⁠⁠] Support the Shaheen familyhttps://chuffed.org/project/hodafund [https://chuffed.org/project/hodafund] Book a ⁠1:1 Decolonizing Recovery Coaching Session with Me⁠ https://snpfd.co/5NheDQ5Y [https://snpfd.co/5NheDQ5Y]

How to Focus on What You Can Control to Fight for Freedom (Without Burning Out) - Ep. 11

So many of us are feeling hopeless and scared as so much upheaval and threat has escalated in the United States empire and all over the world. So many of us are feeling like we might want to drink or use or feeling like we might not be able to exist in response to the escalating threat and chaos of these times. This episode is all about helping us get clear about what we can control, and what is outside of our control so we can tap into our strength and hope now and long-term in these times of collapse. In this episode, Carolyn Collado (they/them) dives into the heart of sustainable activism: learning how to focus on what you can control while releasing what you can’t and trusting in the collective. What if the key to navigating and combating our hopelessness in the fight for freedom lies in clarity, mindfulness, boundaries, gentleness, and self-compassion? Check out this video as we'll explore practical strategies to combat hopelessness, avoid burnout, and channel your energy into meaningful action in the fight for our freedom.We’ll also talk about staying grounded in the chaos of these times, applying mindfulness, harm reduction and revolutionary recovery principles to our activism, and creating spaces of care and resource for ourselves and our communities. This episode delves into the role of mindfulness in helping us stay present, focused, and intentional in our work for collective liberation. Additionally, we discuss recovery as a revolutionary act, exploring how healing ourselves is intertwined with healing our communities and combating the systems that have had us, our ancestors, and our planet struggling for centuries. Whether you’re new to the movement or long time in the fight for our freedom this episode will help you reclaim your power and stay rooted in the struggle for collective liberation.✨ Key Topics Covered: How to identify what’s within your control (and what’s not) Practical tools to avoid activist burnout The role of mindfulness, self-care, and harm reduction in sustaining long-term change Recovery from struggles with substance use, boundary setting, people pleasing, and perfectionism as a revolutionary practice How to stay hopeful and grounded in the face of systemic challenges Stories of resilience and actionable steps for collective freedom💬 Join the conversation: What’s one thing you’re learning to let go of in your fight for freedom? Share your thoughts in the comments below!🌟 Love this episode? Support the podcast!For behind-the-scenes access, exclusive un censo red content, and more, join our Patreon community at https://www.patreon.com/recoveryfortherevolution. Your support helps us continue creating resources to help us recover, decondition from systems of oppression and move in revolution and collective liberationI'm aiming to reach a goal of $6,795/month to launch a monthly live Q&A space hours space where we can dive deeper into questions and discussions about how we practice recovery in a revolutionary way and navigate these times of upheaval and collapse and find community and connection to help us be in these times. After Patreon fees and taxes, this would ensure I can get my needs met so I can consistently and long-term make this much-needed work and keep resources like my podcast and other videos and writings free for those who cannot afford to support my work monetarily. Your support makes this possible!🔔 Don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell icon to stay updated on our latest episodes about deconditioning, decolonizing, and collective liberation through recovery as a resistance practice.0:00 - Intro03:13 - content warning for Alcoholics Anonymous discussion05:02 - Alcoholics Anonymous and the limited interpretation of the serenity prayer05:58 - control over ourselves12:58 - mindfulness and harm reduction 36:55- taking actions within our control 48:05 - combating hopelessness 49:52 - what is beyond our control

Resisting Plague: Combatting Covid through Harm Reduction and Recovery Practices - Ep. 10

Resisting covid resists colonial, capitalist violence. Resisting covid honors the trans and queer, Black, Indigenous, and people of color, disabled, immunocompromised, drug using, s3x worker, HIV+ ancestors who did everything so we can live. According to the World Health Organization, 7 million people have died from covid since the start of the pandemic, and nearly 780 million covid cases have been reported across the globe since the start of the pandemic. With so many covid cases, hundreds of millions of us have been put at risk of developing long covid, which can lead to brain damage, increased risk of heart attacks, including among young people, and increased risk of becoming immunocompromised.  In this episode, host Carolyn Collado (they/them) outlines how the government and collective pressure to bypass covid has played out. They offer space for us to process and grieve what this pandemic has cost us, and offer harm reduction and recovery practices around people pleasing, perfectionism, and boundary setting to help us resist this mass disabling, mass unaliving event. Carolyn highlights the lineages of Indigenous genocide from plague, and the lineages of harm reduction stemming from the HIV/AIDS epidemic of the 80s and 90s to call us to resist this plague in honor of our ancestors. 00:00 - Intro 02:17 - government gaslighting around covid’s impact  16:26 - grieving what we’ve lost with the covid19 pandemic  18:12 - why should we care about covid in 2025 and beyond 22:45 - taking covid precautions to honor our ancestors and resist systemic oppression 29:24 - grieving what we’ve lost to covid 34:17 - how to use harm reduction to navigate life in pandemic times  56:00 - recovery principles to help resist covid 01:14:00 - covid precautions as ancestral veneration 01:33:23 - how do we resist covid systemically  Subscribe to our ⁠Patreon⁠ $3 from everyone viewing would help make this work sustainable! ⁠⁠⁠http://patreon.com/recoveryfortherevolution⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠http://patreon.com/recoveryfortherevolution⁠⁠⁠] Purchase the ⁠Recovering Under Racial Capitalism Journal ebook⁠  ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://recovery-for-the-revolution.ck.page/products/recovering-under-racial-capi⁠⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠https://recovery-for-the-revolution.ck.page/products/recovering-under-racial-capi⁠⁠⁠] Support the Shaheen family in 🍉 https://chuffed.org/project/hodafund [https://chuffed.org/project/hodafund] Book a ⁠1:1 Decolonizing Recovery Coaching Session with Me⁠  ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/recoveryfortherevolution/decolonizing-recovery-coaching⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/recoveryfortherevolution/decolonizing-recovery-coaching⁠⁠⁠] Sign up for the Unsettling Recovery waitlist ⁠⁠ https://forms.gle/wNVG1KJu4PdZw4zU7 [⁠⁠ https://forms.gle/wNVG1KJu4PdZw4zU7]

Election 2024 Aftercare: processing and planning how we care for ourselves and each other with the election results - Ep. 9

Election Day and the aftermath has been rough. In this episode, Host Carolyn Collado (they/them), and guest, Laila Makled (they/he) overview some of the themes, conflict, and connections that arose in the aftermath of the 2024 Election in the US imperial core. They reflect on their own grief and processing since Election Day, share strategies for building systems of care and community, and contemplate the question of who to organize with. They discuss fears and realities of living through another four years of a Donald Trump presidency, and trends around gender, race, class and education as it relates to where people are voting. They also touch on the complexities around how grief showed itself across the political ideology, class, racial, and gender spectrum. Along those lines, they note the facts of just how many voting-age people didn’t vote at all, and how this may be a signal for just how many people are out there desiring something different. They close with the importance of building shared language around who we are as a movement, and how story telling, mutual aid, harm reduction, resistance, and gathering can be pillars of hope as we move forward. Event planning workbook: https://outtherecommunication.net/blog/eventplanningworkbook [https://outtherecommunication.net/blog/eventplanningworkbook]Alternatives to calling the police in the “United States” and “Canada”: https://dontcallthepolice.com/ [https://dontcallthepolice.com/]Mental health crisis resources that don’t call the police: https://www.inclusivetherapists.com/contact#crisis [https://www.inclusivetherapists.com/contact#crisis]Laila offers workshops, coaching, and consulting on care, communication and conflict for communities and organizations. Follow Laila, sign up for their newsletter, and check out more of their work at outtherecommunication.net [outtherecommunication.net ]or @out_there_communication on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/out_there_communication?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==] https://www.instagram.com/out_there_communication?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==Purchase the ⁠Recovering Under Racial Capitalism Journal ebook⁠  ⁠⁠⁠https://recovery-for-the-revolution.ck.page/products/recovering-under-racial-capi⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠https://recovery-for-the-revolution.ck.page/products/recovering-under-racial-capi]Subscribe to our ⁠Patreon⁠ $3 from everyone viewing would help make this work sustainable! ⁠⁠⁠http://patreon.com/recoveryfortherevolution⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠http://patreon.com/recoveryfortherevolution⁠⁠⁠]Support the Shaheen family https://chuffed.org/project/hodafund [https://chuffed.org/project/hodafund]Book a ⁠1:1 Decolonizing Recovery Coaching Session with Me⁠  ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/recoveryfortherevolution/decolonizing-recovery-coaching⁠⁠⁠ [⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/recoveryfortherevolution/decolonizing-recovery-coaching⁠⁠⁠]Sign up for the Unsettling Recovery waitlist ⁠⁠ https://forms.gle/wNVG1KJu4PdZw4zU7 [ https://forms.gle/wNVG1KJu4PdZw4zU7]