What If You're Not Lost At All | Ep. 20

What If You're Not Lost At All | Ep. 20

Alexandria comes back to the mic for Season 3 with something she hasn't fully said yet: the last year was hard, and she's still in the very messy middle of it: You can be hurting and still not be lost. That’s the line we keep coming back to as I tell the truth about a year that did not go to plan: leaving ministry and watching friendships go silent, losing my job, applying and hearing nothing back, getting rejected from schools after putting in the work, then landing in a role I didn’t expect again, a stay-at-home mom of four boys, staring at the sink and wondering what comes next.  What changed wasn’t a sudden “happy ending”. It was one question that stopped the spiral: what if I’m not lost at all? From there, we talk about reframing, not as denial, but as a grounded mental health practice. I share how shame and self-blame creep in when you treat a brutal job market, competitive admissions, or other people’s choices as a verdict on your worth, and how naming the grief of lost community helps you stop carrying what was never yours.  We also get practical with a framework I love: investigating and interrogating your emotions. Think of it as emotional inspection and deeper questioning. The spider analogy makes it simple: the fear is real, but the interpretation may be wrong. When you balance emotion with reason, emotions become data, not a sentence you hand to yourself.  If you’re in a life transition, the renovation metaphor will land: a gutted house looks like failure without context, but mid-demo is often where the real work begins. Subscribe to Renovating the Soul, share this with someone in the messy middle, and leave a review with the question you’re choosing to ask yourself next. Important Note! Instead of the Roots episode, this episode below is actually the next best resource to check out! ⬇️⬇️ For more on emotions and how to understand what they're actually telling you, check out Broken Souls, Broken Bodies: When Emotional Pain Becomes Physical | Ep. 13 [https://www.renovatingthesoul.com/2524110/episodes/17590826-broken-souls-broken-bodies-when-emotional-pain-becomes-physical-ep-13] Text Me and Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/support] Subscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time. 📢 Join the Conversation: Find me on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod], and TikTok [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod]—@renovatingthesoulpod—and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📩 Get in Touch: Have a thought, question, or story you'd like to share? Email me at hello@renovatingthesoul.com — I'd love to hear from you.  ✍️ Leave a Review: If this show means something to you, leaving a review goes a long way in helping others find it. It takes two minutes and makes a real difference. 🌐 More Resources: For more episodes and ways to connect, visit renovatingthesoul.com [https://www.renovatingthesoul.com/].

I Got Laid Off—And It Changed Everything | Ep. 19

The ground can feel solid—until it isn’t. When mass layoffs hit the federal government, I lost the job I’d poured nearly five years into, right after earning my warrant and hitting a career stride that finally felt like mine. What followed wasn’t just a scramble for the next paycheck; it was a full-body pause to ask what kind of life I actually wanted to build. I walk through the shock, the one-week ultimatum, the grief over benefits and community, and the subtle ways “security” can keep you from the work your soul keeps whispering about. I share why I didn’t jump into another role, how endless scrolling on LinkedIn clarified what I wouldn’t do again, and the decision to chase a path I’ve wanted since I was young: returning to school. That choice meant facing a dreaded standardized test, buying the prep course, and admitting I couldn’t do it all at once. So I let the podcast breathe—not because it stopped mattering, but because foundations come first. We talk about capacity, identity, and the discipline of choosing one lever that makes everything else easier later. Along the way, you’ll hear about the human side of public service, the truth about change inside big systems, and the quiet power of a back catalog still serving new listeners. Most of all, this is a story about turning endings into beginnings—about gratitude arriving after anger, about discomfort becoming a daily practice, and about letting my kids see me start again with purpose. If you’ve ever been laid off, felt stuck at a “safe” job, or wondered how to navigate a major pivot with family, faith, and focus intact, you’ll find tools and encouragement here. Press play, then tell me: if security wasn’t the goal, what would you build next? Subscribe, share this with someone in a pivot, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway—we read every one. Text Me and Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/support] Subscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time. 📢 Join the Conversation: Find me on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod], and TikTok [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod]—@renovatingthesoulpod—and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📩 Get in Touch: Have a thought, question, or story you'd like to share? Email me at hello@renovatingthesoul.com — I'd love to hear from you.  ✍️ Leave a Review: If this show means something to you, leaving a review goes a long way in helping others find it. It takes two minutes and makes a real difference. 🌐 More Resources: For more episodes and ways to connect, visit renovatingthesoul.com [https://www.renovatingthesoul.com/].

We’re Losing Ourselves for Likes: The Slow Death of Authenticity | Ep. 18

Have you ever refreshed your social media feed obsessively after posting something meaningful—as if your soul was waiting for permission to believe in itself? You’re not alone. This deeply personal exploration pulls back the curtain on how we’re slowly losing ourselves in the pursuit of visibility, engagement, and validation. What began as simple research into why we crave viral moments turned into something far more vulnerable. Social media hasn’t just changed how we communicate—it’s fundamentally altered how we value ourselves. We’ve created a world where performance masquerades as purpose, where metrics define our worth, and where we’re constantly asking: “Am I showing up as myself—or the version I think people want to see?” This isn’t just about being online too much.  It’s about the quiet collapse of the soul—when visibility replaces validation, when presence is traded for performance, and when real connection is sacrificed for reach. In this episode, we unpack: * Why visibility became our proof of worth * The difference between being seen and being known * The trap of engagement metrics and algorithm-driven identity * The loneliness of being “connected” but never truly held * What it takes to reclaim your real voice, values, and presence Because being visible doesn’t equal being valuable. And going viral doesn’t mean you’ve been seen. This episode is not content strategy—it’s a rescue mission for the soul. So put down your phone. Look your people in the eye. Say “I love you” with presence instead of emoji hearts. Ask “how’s your soul?” instead of “did you see my post?” Your authenticity is still in there. And it’s worth more than all the likes in the world. Text Me and Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/support] Subscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time. 📢 Join the Conversation: Find me on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod], and TikTok [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod]—@renovatingthesoulpod—and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📩 Get in Touch: Have a thought, question, or story you'd like to share? Email me at hello@renovatingthesoul.com — I'd love to hear from you.  ✍️ Leave a Review: If this show means something to you, leaving a review goes a long way in helping others find it. It takes two minutes and makes a real difference. 🌐 More Resources: For more episodes and ways to connect, visit renovatingthesoul.com [https://www.renovatingthesoul.com/].

Closure is a Lie: You Don't Need It To Heal | Ep. 17

For a long time, I thought I needed closure to move on. I thought I needed that one final conversation, the apology, the explanation, the moment that would tie it all together and make it make sense. But what I’ve learned is that closure doesn’t always come. And even when it does… it doesn’t always heal. In this episode, I’m sharing the hard truths about closure—the ways we chase it, the reasons we cling to it, and the power we give away while waiting for it. Whether it’s a relationship, a friendship, or something you’ve been holding onto for years, I want to help you see that healing is still possible… even without a final word. We’ll talk about: * Why closure is more about us than the other person * The difference between closure and clarity * And why your healing doesn’t have to wait for someone else’s words and/or actions If you’ve ever felt stuck in the in-between—hoping for something that may never come—this episode is for you. What if you’re not stuck because of what they didn’t say…but because you haven’t stopped hoping they will? Text Me and Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/support] Subscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time. 📢 Join the Conversation: Find me on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod], and TikTok [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod]—@renovatingthesoulpod—and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📩 Get in Touch: Have a thought, question, or story you'd like to share? Email me at hello@renovatingthesoul.com — I'd love to hear from you.  ✍️ Leave a Review: If this show means something to you, leaving a review goes a long way in helping others find it. It takes two minutes and makes a real difference. 🌐 More Resources: For more episodes and ways to connect, visit renovatingthesoul.com [https://www.renovatingthesoul.com/].

The Friendship Episode You Didn't Know You Needed | Ep. 16

We all want real, deep, meaningful friendships—but do we actually know what that looks like? Friendship isn’t just about funny memes, shared interests, or convenient connections—it’s about loyalty, depth, and showing up when it matters. So why do so many of us struggle to find real, lasting friendships? In this episode, we’re challenging everything you thought you knew about friendship, including: * Why modern culture has redefined friendship—and not for the better. * The hard truth about why making friends as an adult feels impossible. * What history, philosophy, and psychology reveal about deep, meaningful connection. * The difference between true friendships and surface-level bonds—and why both matter. * How to stop settling for transactional relationships and build friendships that actually last. If you’ve ever wondered why friendship feels so complicated, or why you keep outgrowing people, this episode is for you.  It’s time to rethink, redefine, and rebuild the friendships you truly deserve. Listen now and learn what it really means to be—and have—a true friend. References:  * Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy - Entry on Friendship [https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/friendship/] * "How To Be a Friend" [https://press.princeton.edu/books/hardcover/9780691177199/how-to-be-a-friend?srsltid=AfmBOooTFwZ_z0XN_aihDJQ5joXagsLZIfNgGdZvofznGGrq6m-cUocz] by Marcus Tullius Cicero Text Me and Share Your Thoughts [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/fan_mail/new] Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2524110/support] Subscribe and let’s continue the work of Renovating the Soul, one tough conversation at a time. 📢 Join the Conversation: Find me on Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], Facebook [https://www.facebook.com/renovatingthesoulpod/], YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod], and TikTok [https://www.youtube.com/@RenovatingtheSoulPod]—@renovatingthesoulpod—and drop your thoughts under the episode post. Let's unpack this together. 📩 Get in Touch: Have a thought, question, or story you'd like to share? Email me at hello@renovatingthesoul.com — I'd love to hear from you.  ✍️ Leave a Review: If this show means something to you, leaving a review goes a long way in helping others find it. It takes two minutes and makes a real difference. 🌐 More Resources: For more episodes and ways to connect, visit renovatingthesoul.com [https://www.renovatingthesoul.com/].