Why judging others holds you back and what to do instead...

Why judging others holds you back and what to do instead...

We’re back — and I’m coming into this one from the middle of a very full season. I’ve just travelled home from wintering in Baja. It was an amazing trip but I’ve found it harder and harder to keep up with work and stay present while on the road. I then jumped straight into a new job. It has been good, beautiful, exciting… and also a lot. And it has been a rollercoaster for a brain that likes to point fingers and judge when it doesn’t think I’m doing what I ‘should’ be doing! So Ginny and I decided that this was the perfect topic to relaunch our podcast with since we kinda just disappeared for a month or so. We dig into judgement, especially the sneaky kind. The kind where we look at someone else making a big decision, changing direction, or doing life differently, and quietly decide what that means about them. When really, we are deflecting how we feel about our own decisions… Getting honest about these things though, well it’s hard! So this is an honest conversation about alignment, getting stuck, taking a break, and starting again. We open the door on the reality that we all face when life gets busy, your capacity changes, and you realize you just can’t do it all - at least not all at once. This is for you if you’ve been feeling scattered, stretched, or like you’re not keeping up with the version of yourself you thought you were supposed to be. It’s for you if you’re learning what you can handle one day at a time. And it’s for you if you need the reminder that sometimes doing less, softening a little, and letting life unfold is not giving up - it’s just being honest about where you are. We’re back in the weeds, talking it through as we go. Honest, a little messy, and moving forward anyway. Connect with us here on Substack, we would love to have you along for the ride. Get full access to Riding in the Weeds Podcast at ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe [https://ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Are you doing better than you think? This is how you can tell.

If you’ve been hard on yourself lately, listen to this. This episode is a chance to pause, look back at the last quarter, and notice the progress you might be missing. We talk about consistency, burnout, future vision, small wins, and how to stop focusing only on what’s not done. A good one for anyone who needs a reset and a reminder that you’re probably doing better than you think. With your hosts Natasha Lockey IG @bettygohard FB @natasha lockey [https://www.facebook.com/natasha.lockey/] & Ginny Branden @soulpetconnections IG & FB Get full access to Riding in the Weeds Podcast at ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe [https://ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

The 5 Minute Reset to Get Back on Track

This episode is for the moment when the routine stops working, the season shifts, or life throws something at you and you start wondering if you’re falling off track. We’re talking about how to keep the progress you’ve made without needing to do it perfectly, how to adapt without turning it into failure, and how to stop using other people’s lives as the measuring stick for your own. If you’ve been hard on yourself lately, if you’ve lost momentum, or if you’re trying to figure out how to keep showing up when life looks different than it did a month ago, this one will help. How to find the hosts * Natasha Lockey * Website: natashalockey.com * Instagram: @BettyGoHard * Facebook: Natasha Lockey * Riding in the Weeds on Substack Ginny Branden * Website: soulpetconnections.com * Also on Substack, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube under the same handle/name Get full access to Riding in the Weeds Podcast at ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe [https://ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Episode 135: Want Change to Stick? Do This

If you’ve been doing the work to create change in your life, but you keep hitting resistance, losing momentum, or wondering why it still feels harder than you thought it would… then you need to listen to this episode. This week on Riding in the Weeds, we’re wrapping up the Start Where You Are coaching series by talking about what happens after the first steps. This conversation is all about turning action into identity — learning how to trust yourself, work with the ups and downs, and keep moving forward even when life throws you off track. Key points we discuss: * Why change is an ongoing process, not a one-and-done fix * How we make the first step too big and run straight into resistance * Why self-trust is built by picking yourself back up, not by being perfect * Recognizing the change in you, embracing the future you that is in the process of achieving the thing * Why baby steps matter so much in the beginning * How consistency gives you the flexibility to shift things without losing momentum * Why tracking what’s working helps you know when to keep going and when to make a change Action steps moving forward: * Close the loop on the original action you started with * Revisit your future vision and the actions it will take to get there * Break the next step down into smaller micro steps * Look at where resistance is showing up and plan for it instead of being surprised by it * Ask yourself: what shifted, what worked, what didn’t work, and what comes next? * Adjust as needed, but keep moving in the direction you want to go * Let the habit get solid before you start layering on more If you’ve been trying to change your habits, your health, your routine, your business, or just the way you show up for yourself, this episode will help you take the pressure off, trust the process, and keep building from where you are. How to find the hosts * Natasha Lockey * Website: natashalockey.com * Instagram: @BettyGoHard * Facebook: Natasha Lockey * Riding in the Weeds on Substack Ginny Branden * Website: soulpetconnections.com * Also on Substack, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube under the same handle/name Get full access to Riding in the Weeds Podcast at ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe [https://ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]

Episode 134: You Don’t Have to Do the 10-Foot Drop

In this episode, we dig into resistance, comparison, and the pressure to chase goals that might not even be yours. Using Natasha’s “10-foot drop rule” from mountain biking, we talk about what happens when you stop judging yourself by someone else’s standard and start asking a better question: Do I even want that? Because sometimes the resistance isn’t laziness, lack of discipline, or proof that you’re failing. Sometimes it’s your nervous system waving a flag. Sometimes it’s a sign that the goal, the method, or the pressure you’re putting on yourself isn’t actually in alignment. We get into: * why comparison keeps you stuck * how to tell if a goal is really yours * what resistance might actually be trying to show you * why the right tool can change everything * how to stop forcing the big leap and focus on the next step that actually fits This is your reminder that you do not have to do the 10-foot drop to be doing a good job. You do not have to follow someone else’s version of success. And you do not have to keep pushing through resistance without getting curious about what’s underneath it. How to find the hosts * Natasha Lockey * Website: natashalockey.com * Instagram: @BettyGoHard * Facebook: Natasha Lockey * Riding in the Weeds on Substack Ginny Branden * Website: soulpetconnections.com * Also on Substack, Instagram, Facebook, and YouTube under the same handle/name Get full access to Riding in the Weeds Podcast at ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe [https://ridingintheweeds.substack.com/subscribe?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_4]