Stop Living On Relationship Crumbs - Rise Up Story with Shelley J Whitehead

Stop Living On Relationship Crumbs - Rise Up Story with Shelley J Whitehead

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/fan_mail/new] A relationship ending can feel like freefall, but what if the real crisis is not losing them, it’s losing yourself? I’m joined by Shelly J. Whitehead, a relationship and couples coach and author of *Healing Your Heartbreak: 28 Days to Transformation*, to talk about the rise-up moment that changed how she loves, chooses and speaks up. We start with a story that still gives me chills, the strange way Shelly and I discovered our lives had crossed long before we officially met, and why that kind of connection can open the door to deeper truth.  Shelly shares her “ground zero” after the end of her second marriage, and how grief, betrayal and abandonment can pull old childhood wounds to the surface. We unpack the core patterns behind people-pleasing, minimising yourself and taking crumbs just to feel chosen. Then she takes us to a pivotal declaration: choosing to always ask for what she wants and needs, and learning to phrase needs in the positive so a request doesn’t land as blame. You’ll also hear a practical identity tool, the “I am” exercise, to rebuild self-worth without outsourcing it to a partner.  From there, we explore what genuine healing looks like in real relationships: boundaries, healthy anger, emotional regulation, integrity and the courage to stay present even when it’s uncomfortable. Shelly explains why not every relationship is meant to last, but every person can learn the skills of connection, presence and repair, which is exactly what great couples therapy and relationship coaching is for.  If you know someone navigating heartbreak, divorce grief or a relationship reset, share this with them, then subscribe, follow and leave a review so more people can find the show. What is one need you’re ready to ask for, clearly and without apology? To see more of Shelley's offerings follow her links: Website: https://shelleyjwhitehead.com/ Instagram|: https://www.instagram.com/shelleyjwhitehead/ Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@ShelleyJWhitehead Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/support] To join my beautiful membership community click here.  [https://vickyross.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1171591/?action=signup] To visit my website [https://www.vickyross.com/] This episode reflects my interpretation and awareness-based philosophical perspective, shaped by years of personal experience, training, reading, and research. It is not medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice and does not replace professional support. The language used is descriptive and reflective, not diagnostic. Not everyone will resonate with these ideas — and that is completely okay. You are responsible for your own interpretations, decisions, and the changes you choose to make in your life. Here is to your success Love Vicky

How Childhood Adaptations Become Adult Identity

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/fan_mail/new] What if the parts of you that feel most “like you” are actually the parts you had to become to belong? We sit with a simple, unsettling question: what happened to the child you once were, the one who arrived curious, creative, emotionally open, and not yet trained to earn love through performance. I talk through how disconnection often starts quietly as nervous system survival. When you are small, you cannot risk believing the adults around you are unsafe or unreliable, so you adapt instead. You become the achiever, the good girl or good boy, the clown, the rescuer, the one who never needs anyone, the one who stays quiet. These coping mechanisms can be deeply intelligent for the environment you grew up in, but suffering begins when the adaptation hardens into identity and you start calling it “my personality”. We also look at why change can feel so hard: the unconscious mind follows familiarity, not a moral compass. Stress can become normal. Validation can become chemically comforting. Emotional protection can become your default. That’s why you can look successful on the outside and still feel empty on the inside, and why burnout, anxiety, or overwhelm may be the body’s way of telling the truth when the false self can no longer hold. Finally, we explore doorways back to self-connection: time alone, meditation, stillness, and creativity as a return rather than an escape. Healing is not always adding more. Sometimes it is removing interference and remembering what was there before fear became an identity. If this lands, subscribe, leave a review, and share the episode with someone who needs the reminder: you were never meant to lose yourself in order to belong. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/support] To join my beautiful membership community click here.  [https://vickyross.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1171591/?action=signup] To visit my website [https://www.vickyross.com/] This episode reflects my interpretation and awareness-based philosophical perspective, shaped by years of personal experience, training, reading, and research. It is not medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice and does not replace professional support. The language used is descriptive and reflective, not diagnostic. Not everyone will resonate with these ideas — and that is completely okay. You are responsible for your own interpretations, decisions, and the changes you choose to make in your life. Here is to your success Love Vicky

What If Your Worst Moment Is Your Way Out-Rise Up story with Robert Jacques

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/fan_mail/new] One night of rage can destroy everything, but it can also expose the exact moment you stop running and start waking up. I’m joined by Robert Jacks, a man who went from a pressured teenage marriage and a painful divorce to a violent breaking point that landed him in jail facing the possibility of decades behind bars. What follows is not a neat self-help story. It’s a candid account of fear, regret, fatherhood, and the kind of inner chaos that makes you feel like your own mind has turned against you. We talk about the turning points that don’t look spiritual at the time: handing yourself in because you’re scared of what you might do next, hearing a quiet line of guidance in the middle of panic, and learning to walk through hardship one step at a time. Robert shares how silence, faith, and community begin to rebuild him, including a period of winter isolation so stark it strips life down to the essentials. From there, we explore a practical framework for overcoming adversity: moving from brokenness, to seeking, to real practice, and finally into integration and acceptance. If you’ve been searching for healing, mindfulness, meditation, or spiritual awakening, this conversation brings it back to something simple and tough to do consistently: finding the “gap” between thoughts and choosing peace without waiting for life to behave. We also challenge the mirage of chasing outcomes like money, status, or the perfect relationship as if they will finally complete you. Subscribe for more Rise Up Stories, share this with someone who needs a light right now, and please leave a review so more people can find these conversations. What did you hear that you want to practise this week? And if you want to hear more from Robert, follow this link to his podcast. [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/our-journey-to-truth/id1893087021]   Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/support] To join my beautiful membership community click here.  [https://vickyross.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1171591/?action=signup] To visit my website [https://www.vickyross.com/] This episode reflects my interpretation and awareness-based philosophical perspective, shaped by years of personal experience, training, reading, and research. It is not medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice and does not replace professional support. The language used is descriptive and reflective, not diagnostic. Not everyone will resonate with these ideas — and that is completely okay. You are responsible for your own interpretations, decisions, and the changes you choose to make in your life. Here is to your success Love Vicky

Why You Repeat Painful Patterns And How To Break Them

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/fan_mail/new] The patterns that hurt you are rarely random. If you keep reacting the same way, choosing the same type of relationship, or freezing when you know what you “should” do, there’s usually something deeper at work than willpower. We go straight into the real question: why do we keep repeating pain, and what are we actually trying to avoid? I talk about how fear of rejection, humiliation, abandonment, punishment, or “not being good enough” often points to an old wound the body already recognises. When we don’t understand what’s happening inside us, we suppress, distract, and distance ourselves from discomfort, hoping it will stay away. But avoidance has a cost. The more we run from the wound, the more it quietly drives our choices, becoming the hidden architect of our behaviour and shrinking our ability to live freely. I also share a turning point from my own life: being alone on another continent, leaving with $3 and a suitcase, and having someone hold up a mirror that stopped me in my tracks. That moment sparked a lifelong curiosity about human behaviour and self-awareness. We unpack a challenging insight: sometimes the person we most fear is ourselves, through self-rejection and a cruel inner dialogue. Awareness is not judgement. Awareness is seeing, and what we can see, we can begin to change. If this lands for you, share it with someone who needs an honest conversation, then subscribe, leave a review, and tell me what pattern you are ready to name. Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/support] To join my beautiful membership community click here.  [https://vickyross.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1171591/?action=signup] To visit my website [https://www.vickyross.com/] This episode reflects my interpretation and awareness-based philosophical perspective, shaped by years of personal experience, training, reading, and research. It is not medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice and does not replace professional support. The language used is descriptive and reflective, not diagnostic. Not everyone will resonate with these ideas — and that is completely okay. You are responsible for your own interpretations, decisions, and the changes you choose to make in your life. Here is to your success Love Vicky

When You Know Something's Off But Can't Explain It

Send us Fan Mail [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/fan_mail/new] > You know that feeling. Something's off. You can't name it. You've thought about it, talked about it — and it's still... there. This episode is for the intelligent, self-aware person who has done the work, and yet something underneath remains unmoved. In this episode, I share a method I developed called Quantum Alignment of Consciousness [https://www.vickyross.com/quantum-alignment-of-consciousness] — a process that bypasses the thinking mind entirely to access what your body already knows, what your system already knows, what the energy field around you already knows. Because if the issue sits beneath your awareness, you genuinely cannot think your way to it. And the harder you try, the more the ego — your gatekeeper — pulls you back to what is familiar. This method came to me intuitively during a session in Greece. When we finished, my client said: "This is the best method I have ever experienced. Why aren't you putting this out into the world?" So here it is. In this episode you'll discover: * Why more thinking is often the very thing keeping you stuck * How the ego acts as a fear-based gatekeeper to your unconscious mind * The step-by-step process of Quantum Alignment of Consciousness [https://www.vickyross.com/quantum-alignment-of-consciousness] * What happens when meaning is removed — and resistance dissolves with it * How people leave sessions with clarity, direction, and resolution — often after years of trying Sometimes the answer isn't more thinking. It's removing the interference so you can see clearly what is already there. 🔗 Work with Vicky: Rise Up Membership [https://vickyross.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1171591/?action=signup] 📖 Connect with Vicky: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/coachvickyross/] #PersonalDevelopment #SelfImprovement #PersonalGrowth #SubconsciousMind #MentalHealth  #Fee lingSuck #QuantumConsciousness #Mindset #TransformationalCoaching #RiseUpPodcast Support the show [https://www.buzzsprout.com/2566045/support] To join my beautiful membership community click here.  [https://vickyross.mvsite.app/products/courses/view/1171591/?action=signup] To visit my website [https://www.vickyross.com/] This episode reflects my interpretation and awareness-based philosophical perspective, shaped by years of personal experience, training, reading, and research. It is not medical, psychological, or therapeutic advice and does not replace professional support. The language used is descriptive and reflective, not diagnostic. Not everyone will resonate with these ideas — and that is completely okay. You are responsible for your own interpretations, decisions, and the changes you choose to make in your life. Here is to your success Love Vicky