I’m not the problem. He is… But I can be part of the solution.

How to feel safe. 4 proven hacks.

Exploration of four hacks to create safety when used in combination healthy structure. Healthy support work. Healthy tool kit. Spiritual connection. These four hacks are used in conjunction with one another, people miraculously stop, acting out addictions. People somehow create a structure in their life that works. People attain the life of their dreams. Consistent daily practices the key.

Threatened

Are you being threatened? Here’s what I’m doing to keep myself safe and solid in my VA recovery. Note* I’m not discussing a life threatening situation. If your life is being threatened, seek help immediately.

I’m not the problem. He is… But I can be part of the solution.

My son cut me out of his life seven months ago because he thought I said, I didn’t respect him. I didn’t. This is more of a reflection of his own in her mind. He just lost the first love of his life he flunked out of college he was very emotional time for him. I suggested an EMDR group for him That he was very resistant to. I can see in retrospect. He wasn’t ready to unpack the pain and his disappointment in himself. So he projected it onto me and made me into some kind of in his words manipulative and controlling parent. It’s been a struggle because I have a tendency to internalize these kind of things and look to see where my part is and take responsibility for my part. It also means that sometimes I blame myself more than I need to. The truth is, I’m not a controlling and manipulative parent. I’m a loving and firm parent. Who doesn’t take on other people’s responsibilities. I don’t rescue. I support.

Trying to put out a fire with gas and wind. It don't work!

When you are upset, your words and actions are like fire. They burn. Maybe you smolder in silence or you explode, but both burn. Even your thoughts in your head are burning. Jennifer sees a fire near her home. Would she pour gas on it? Let's see what happens

6 things you can do each day to ensure you stay sober from any addiciton

These are 6 things I have used every day for 30 years. Guess what? They work. Here's a talk from my home in Taos NM to a group of people wanting to have better relationships, make more money and improve their lives.