What Does It Mean to Be a Man? Gen Z, Manhood, Leadership & Christianity

Per my last code switch- Work, Identity and friendship ft Helen and Philip

You are not one person. You’re five. Work-you. Online-you. Group-chat-you. Family-dinner-you. Alone-you.  At what point does “reading the room” become losing the plot? This episode of Searching for myself ft my friends Helen and Philip. We  exposes The Split Self — how code switching, likes, and feedback loops quietly fracture who you are. We dig into the social mirror effect, why performing for perception breeds anxiety, and how your brain starts choosing optics over values. The fix isn’t “just be yourself.” It’s this: Other people’s perception is data, not direction.  Learn the 3 anchors to stop drifting and stay unified — even when the world sees you differently in every room.

My Life, My timeline: Owning my existence ft Kiki and Carlos

Millennials were told to hustle, achieve, and figure it out, but a lot of us hit our 30s feeling off track and wondering why the plan never quite fit. In this episode, we’re talking about what it actually means to own your existence instead of waiting for permission to live authentically. We get into why rest, career changes, and setting boundaries don’t need anyone’s approval, and how emotional well-being isn’t a luxury but the foundation for everything else.  You’ll hear why healing, saying no, and logging off count as growth, how to stop missing your life while you’re busy building it, and why your milestones are still valid even if they don’t look traditional. If you’re tired of measuring yourself against someone else’s timeline, this is your reminder that growth isn’t linear, success isn’t one aesthetic, and you’re allowed to evolve on your own terms.

What Does It Mean to Be a Man? Gen Z, Manhood, Leadership & Christianity

“What does it actually mean to be a man in a generation that rejects definition?” I have the honour of interviewing entrepreneur @charlesodt as we tackle the tension Gen Z men are living in — identity confusion, social media pressure, and a lack of real role models. We unpack the crisis of manhood caught between cultural extremes of passivity and toxicity, and why so many young men feel lost or misled. Then we rebuild the vision: a biblical blueprint for manhood where leadership means service, strength means responsibility, and identity is rooted in Christ. From Jesus as the servant-leader to practical marks of integrity, sacrifice, and discipline — we redefine what strength actually looks like. We get practical about leadership for today: leading yourself first through habits and discipline, leading in relationships with respect and accountability, and leading in faith by standing firm when it costs you. No fluff — just real, doable steps: build daily discipline, find mentorship, take responsibility in small things. Social Media Handles Instagram: @CharlesODT                      @ODTCUTZ                       ⁨@Searchingformyselfpodcast⁩ [https://studio.youtube.com/channel/UCXopdNqtPYfS3SlcIjDpOrg]

Inside the mind: therapy unpacked FT Bukky

Searching for Myself S2E1: kicks off with a qualified psychotherapist (therapywithbuks) to explore all things mental health and how it shows up in everyday life. *here's what we'll cover" 🧠 Understanding Mental Health  * Define mental health as emotional, psychological, and social wellbeing * Explain how it affects thoughts, feelings, and behaviour 💬 What Is Counselling? * Define counselling as a professional, confidential talking therapy * Explain the role of a trained counsellor (listening, guiding—not judging) ❌ Challenging Common Myths  * Myth: “Counselling is only for serious mental illness”  * Myth: “Talking won’t help”  * Myth: “It’s a sign of weakness”  🌱 Benefits of Counselling  * Provides a safe space to express feelings openly * Helps identify patterns in thoughts and behaviours * Teaches coping strategies for stress, anxiety, and challenges * Builds self-awareness and emotional resilience * Can improve relationships and communication skills * Supports personal growth and decision-making ⚠️ Barriers to Seeking Help * Fear of being judged or misunderstood * Not knowing what to expect from counselling * Worries about cost or accessibility Social media handles  Instagram:@therapywithbuks website:www.therapywithbuks.co.uk Podcast social media handles Instagram:@searchingformyselfpodcast Tiktok:@searchingformyselfpodcast

The Diary of a Trailblazer: Unfiltered Thoughts from  Gyles

On this episode of@searchingformyslefpodcast Gyles shares his entrepreneurial journey, sharing the unvarnished truth about what it takes to build something from scratch. 🤯 *Here's what we'll cover:* 1️⃣ *The Spark*: What inspired them to start their business, and how did they take the leap of faith? 🔥 2️⃣ *The Success Equation*: How do they define success, and what metrics do they use to measure it? 🤔 3️⃣ *The Obstacle Course*: The biggest challenge they've faced, and how they fought to overcome it 💪 4️⃣ *The Hard-Won Lessons*: The most important thing they've learned as an entrepreneur, and how it's impacted their business 📈 5️⃣ *The Insider's Guide*: What advice would they give to someone just starting out, and how can you learn from others in the industry? 💡 Stream us on YouTube, spotify  and apple podcast Ig handles: @paragondon_ @Brussellakeparagon @lexbridgemotors @swarvecollective