032: How God Took My Mess Up In Marriage and Gave Me a Mission

034: Why Emotional Presence Matters More Than You Think

In this episode, Brett reflects on his spiritual journey, the meaning of the Kingdom of God, emotional growth as a husband, and his plans for the Men Before Marriage program and book. Brett shares how his understanding of the Kingdom of God has evolved, drawing inspiration from John Bevere's recent post on the Messenger X app is that the Kingdom is the "rule of God." He shares his interpretation that it involves both the eternal destiny of believers and the Holy Spirit's transformative work in and through us. Using the parable of the talents, Brett highlights how our actions on Earth impact our roles in heaven. Brett also opens up about his shortcomings in meeting his wife's emotional needs, acknowledging how cultural norms have discouraged men from being emotionally vulnerable. He encourages men to seek God's help in becoming emotionally present husbands and fathers, as children learn relationship dynamics by observing their parents. He stresses that transformation is only possible through God's work, not self-effort. Key Takeaways: 1. The Kingdom of God is both eternal life with God and the Holy Spirit's work in us to bear fruit and serve others. 2. Our earthly stewardship and obedience influence our heavenly roles (parable of the talents). 3. Emotional presence and vulnerability are essential for husbands and fathers, and men must rely on God for transformation. 4. Brett is developing the Men Before Marriage program into a book to guide men in spiritual leadership and preparation for marriage. Here's the new Men Before Marriage [https://www.skool.com/men-before-marriage-1197/about] community. FREE RESOURCES My faith revival started with the Oceans Church [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oceans-church-podcast/id1446813583] podcast. I have never been to a church that has such powerful teaching in my life and has made a huge impact on me. If you aren't attending a local church I highly recommend you start listening to Pastor Mark Francey. Messenger X App [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/messengerx-app/id1530098687] - A great resource by Messenger International started by John and Lisa Bevere. You can watch videos and listen audio books for FREE to grow in your faith. The John Bevere Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-john-bevere-podcast/id1744019971] This is another podcast that is on my listening list as I have come to enjoy listening to the wisdom from John and his son.

033: Are You Just Surviving—or Carrying the Kingdom for Your Family?

In this episode, Brett shares a personal and spiritual update centered around seeking God wholeheartedly, living with kingdom authority, and the behind-the-scenes launch of his new program, Men Before Marriage. Brett opens by discussing his recent absence, explaining it was due to deep spiritual focus and development of a God-led vision. Drawing from Scripture and teachings by John Bevere, he emphasizes what it means to "go all in" with God—obedience, surrender, and walking in love and authority. He highlights the revelation that believers carry the Kingdom of God within them—not just waiting for heaven but empowered now to transform lives, atmospheres, and relationships. Brett shares how God led him through a process of forgiveness, showing how lingering offense can block spiritual growth and blessings. He then transitions into the launch of Men Before Marriage, explaining how obedience, divine timing, and practical steps—including launching on the new $9 Skool platform—aligned for the project to move forward. He encourages listeners to follow God's promptings even if things aren't perfect, noting that progress and purpose matter more than polish. Brett concludes by reminding listeners to enjoy nature, stay hydrated, and continually seek God in all areas of life. Key Takeaways: 1. Going all in with God means full obedience, surrender, and choosing His ways over worldly ones. 2. The Kingdom of God is within you—you carry spiritual authority now, not just someday in heaven. 3. Unforgiveness blocks your spiritual flow; releasing offense allows peace and blessing to return. 4. Start before you're ready—obedience is better than perfection, especially when building for God's kingdom. Here's my new community Men Before Marriage [https://www.skool.com/men-before-marriage-1197/about] FREE RESOURCES My faith revival started with the Oceans Church [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oceans-church-podcast/id1446813583] podcast. I have never been to a church that has such powerful teaching in my life and has made a huge impact on me. If you aren't attending a local church I highly recommend you start listening to Pastor Mark Francey. Messenger X App [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/messengerx-app/id1530098687] - A great resource by Messenger International started by John and Lisa Bevere. You can watch videos and listen audio books for FREE to grow in your faith. The John Bevere Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-john-bevere-podcast/id1744019971] This is another podcast that is on my listening list as I have come to enjoy listening to the wisdom from John and his son.

032: How God Took My Mess Up In Marriage and Gave Me a Mission

In this episode, Brett shares a personal update on his journey of surrendering every area of his life—marriage, finances, leadership—to God as of January 2025. He reflects on past mistakes, especially in his marriage, and his renewed commitment to honoring God through obedience, submission, and intentional living. A major focus of the episode is the development of his new initiative, Men Before Marriage, a biblically-based program designed to prepare single, dating, and divorced men for godly leadership and legacy. Brett emphasizes the importance of building the program in unity with his wife—something he admits he hasn't always done—and reveals how organizing his thoughts and scriptures into a 28-page document helped him gain clarity and share vision. He also speaks about attending Life Surge, a Christian event combining faith and entrepreneurship, and how it aligns with his mission to multiply impact for the Kingdom. The episode ends with a reminder that our ultimate purpose is to prepare ourselves and others to walk forever with God—by loving Him fully, obeying His Word, and walking in truth. Key Takeaways: 1. Full Surrender Leads to Clarity: Brett's transformation began with surrendering everything to God, which unlocked clarity, purpose, and a renewed mission. 2. Godly Preparation Over Perfection: Men Before Marriage isn't about being perfect but about preparing hearts for leadership through biblical truth. 3. Purpose Is Eternal: Our true purpose is to prepare ourselves—and others—to walk forever with God, not just to succeed temporarily. 4. Obedience Over Activity: Religious actions mean little without knowing and obeying God's will (Matthew 7:21–23); obedience is the foundation of legacy. FREE RESOURCES My faith revival started with the Oceans Church [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oceans-church-podcast/id1446813583] podcast. I have never been to a church that has such powerful teaching in my life and has made a huge impact on me. If you aren't attending a local church I highly recommend you start listening to Pastor Mark Francey. Messenger X App [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/messengerx-app/id1530098687] - A great resource by Messenger International started by John and Lisa Bevere. You can watch videos and listen audio books for FREE to grow in your faith. The John Bevere Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-john-bevere-podcast/id1744019971] This is another podcast that is on my listening list as I have come to enjoy listening to the wisdom from John and his son.

031: The Moment God Broke My Heart in Church—and What It Means for Your Son

In this episode, Brett shares a deeply personal journey that began during a God's movement in his heart during a church service. Witnessing a congregation full of worshiping young women but few young men, he was overcome with emotion and conviction—recognizing the void of godly male leadership during the formative, pre-marriage years. This moment led to the birth of a powerful new vision: "Men Before Marriage", a ministry aimed at preparing young men to root their identity in Christ, lead themselves well, and pursue spiritual maturity before pursuing a wife. Despite doubts stemming from his own imperfections, Brett shares how his wife's encouragement affirmed the calling. Brett outlines his multi-phase spiritual framework—from seeking God, surrendering to His Spirit, bearing fruit, and multiplying impact. He reads the "Men Before Marriage Manifesto," a bold declaration of identity, purpose, and godly masculinity. With outlines, social media handles secured, and a letter drafted to his pastor to launch a pilot program, Brett is stepping forward—one surrendered step at a time. Key Takeaways: 1. A Burden for Young Men: Brett was stirred by the absence of young men in church and felt called to raise up godly leaders before marriage. 2. The Power of Vulnerability: Despite past failures, Brett embraces God's grace and leads from a place of humility and redemption. 3. The Birth of a Movement: "Men Before Marriage" is more than a message—it's a manifesto, a ministry, and potentially a global discipleship model. 4. Obedience Over Perfection: Even in uncertainty, Brett is committing his plans to the Lord, taking bold next steps, and trusting God to guide his path. FREE RESOURCES My faith revival started with the Oceans Church [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oceans-church-podcast/id1446813583] podcast. I have never been to a church that has such powerful teaching in my life and has made a huge impact on me. If you aren't attending a local church I highly recommend you start listening to Pastor Mark Francey. Messenger X App [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/messengerx-app/id1530098687] - A great resource by Messenger International started by John and Lisa Bevere. You can watch videos and listen audio books for FREE to grow in your faith. The John Bevere Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-john-bevere-podcast/id1744019971] This is another podcast that is on my listening list as I have come to enjoy listening to the wisdom from John and his son.

030: Complaining, Gossip, and the Power of Your Tongue: A Wake-Up Call for Parents

In this episode, Brett shares a deeply personal journey of returning to God after years of spiritual distance. Speaking directly to fellow parents and believers, Brett highlights how God's Word continues to reshape his understanding of authority, obedience, and the power of words. One of the most eye-opening revelations he shares is from 1 Corinthians, where Paul writes that believers will one day judge angels. This truth underscores the high spiritual authority and identity we have in Christ—a truth often overlooked. Brett also dives into the sins of the Israelites as warned in 1 Corinthians 10, particularly the sin of complaining, which he now sees not just as grumbling but as gossip and criticism, especially in the workplace and within the home. He confesses his own struggle with this, noting how careless words and negative talk can poison relationships and spiritual growth. Brett is now more intentional about using his words to speak life, truth, and encouragement, especially in front of his son. He emphasizes repentance and the transformative power of God's forgiveness. Key Takeaways: 1. Believers Have Spiritual Authority – Christians are positioned above angels in the spiritual realm and will one day judge them (1 Corinthians 6:3), showing the weight of our calling. 2. Complaining Is a Serious Sin – Scripture equates complaining with disobedience, and it can include gossip, criticism, and negative speech. 3. Words Carry Life or Death – Brett reflects on Proverbs 18:21 and is committed to speaking life into his home and workplace. 4. Daily Repentance and Renewal – God's forgiveness is complete when we repent, and we are called to keep realigning our lives with His Word. FREE RESOURCES My faith revival started with the Oceans Church [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oceans-church-podcast/id1446813583] podcast. I have never been to a church that has such powerful teaching in my life and has made a huge impact on me. If you aren't attending a local church I highly recommend you start listening to Pastor Mark Francey. Messenger X App [https://apps.apple.com/us/app/messengerx-app/id1530098687] - A great resource by Messenger International started by John and Lisa Bevere. You can watch videos and listen audio books for FREE to grow in your faith. The John Bevere Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-john-bevere-podcast/id1744019971] This is another podcast that is on my listening list as I have come to enjoy listening to the wisdom from John and his son.