Guest Episode - Stop Saying Let Me Know If You Need Help

Guest Episode - Stop Saying Let Me Know If You Need Help

Episode 4: On a Tuesday evening in April, Tomi Fanilola got a FaceTime call that changed everything. Her healthy, vibrant mother, her best friend, her prayer warrior, had just suffered sudden cardiac arrest. She was 59 years old. In this raw conversation, Tomi shares what no one tells you about sudden loss. Why "let me know if you need help" is the laziest response. What actually helps when someone is drowning in grief. And why she'll talk about her mom for the rest of her life, whether people are comfortable with it or not. If you've ever wondered what to actually DO (not say) when someone experiences loss, or if you're grieving right now and need permission to do it your own way, this is for you. IN THIS EPISODE: * The reality of sudden loss: operating in shock while still having to function * Why "let me know if you need help" doesn't work, and what does * What grief actually reveals about the people in your life * The worst things people say to someone who's grieving * Why you can't "trigger" someone who's already thinking about their loved one 24/7 * The conversations about legacy and end-of-life planning we avoid (but shouldn't) * How to own your grief journey without letting others dictate your timeline * Living intentionally with the people who matter, while you still can ABOUT TOMI FANILOLA: Tomi Fanilola is a vibrant speaker, Wellness Coach, and MC with over 15 years in the beauty industry. She's a wife, mother, mentor, and self-described student of life who walks and preaches "God-fidence", showing up as your most authentic self and living a well-rounded life beyond the average. SHIFTED ON PURPOSE MOVE OF THE WEEK: Check in on someone who's grieving, without asking permission. Don't text "let me know if you need anything." Instead: * Text: "Thinking of you today. No need to respond." * Order groceries or send a fruit basket * Drop off a meal * Just show up Someone who's drowning doesn't have the capacity to ask you to save them. TAKE ACTION: 1. Have the conversation. Talk to your parents about legacy and how they want to be honored. 2. Show up differently. Stop saying "let me know" and start doing something. 3. Share this episode with someone who needs permission to grieve their own way. SUBSCRIBE & CONNECT: 📧 Get your FREE Future Readiness Check: www.shiftedonpurpose.com Follow Shifted on Purpose: Instagram | Facebook | YouTube | Spotify | Apple Podcasts It's not about what you leave behind. It's about what you pass forward.

15 Things Your Loved Ones Would Wish They Knew (Dust Off The Shelf)

Episode 3: 15 Things Your Loved Ones Would Wish They Knew (Dust Off The Shelf) You know that book on your shelf, the one you fully intend to read but haven't gotten to in three years? Most of us do the exact same thing with planning. In this episode, Bola walks through every single item on the Future Readiness Check, 15 things your loved ones would wish they knew if something happened to you today. Documents. Finances. Logistics. The conversations most families never quite finish. No legal jargon. No overwhelm. Just an honest look at where you stand,  and one clear place to start. If you haven't grabbed your copy of the Future Readiness Check yet, pause this episode and head to  👉 www.shiftedonpurpose.com  👉 Scroll down to the subscribe section  👉 Enter your name and email address  👉 It arrives in your inbox within minutes.  Don't see it? Check your spam folder., and it'll be in your inbox within minutes. You're going to want it in your hands for this one. 🎙️ Subscribe so you never miss an episode 📩 Write to the show: hello@shiftedonpurpose.com 📱 Follow along: @shiftedonpurpose 🌐 shiftedonpurpose.com It's not about what you leave behind. It's about what you pass forward. #GriefAndLegacy #EstatePlanning #FuturePlanning #ShiftedOnPurpose #HardConversations #LegacyMatters #howtoplan #loss #grief

The Conversation We Almost Had

Episode 2: The Conversation We Almost Had I had the chance to ask my mom how she wanted to be buried. We were watching TV. It was just the two of us. Nothing heavy about the moment. I let it go. In this episode, Bola opens up about the conversation she almost had with her mother, and the cost of letting it slip past. But this episode isn't only about the conversations we don't have. It's about what happens to everyone around a loss, not just the person grieving. You'll meet four types of people in this episode. One of them is you. What you'll take away from this episode: The four types of people who exist in every loss, and which one you might be without realizing it. Why "let me know if you need anything" is the lazy way out, and what to do instead. The decision Bola and her four siblings made together that held their family up when nothing else could.  What showing up actually looks like when you don't have the words. Why it's never too late to reach out, even if weeks, months, or years have passed. Whether you've recently lost someone, you're supporting someone who has, or you're simply preparing for a conversation you've been putting off, this episode gives you language for what you're carrying, and permission to put some of it down. Get The Future Readiness Check — Free The Future Readiness Check is a free guide created for the Shifted on Purpose community. It's the tool Bola wishes she had before any of this happened. Here's how to get yours: 1. Go to www.shiftedonpurpose.com [http://www.shiftedonpurpose.com] 2. Scroll to the subscribe section at the bottom of the page 3. Enter your name and email 4. Check the box and hit subscribe 5. Look for it in your inbox within minutes — and check your spam, promotions, or junk folder if you don't see it right away What's Coming Next Episode 3 — Dust Off The Shelf: Start Here. We open the Future Readiness Check together and walk through every single item. Plain language. Real-life examples. One clear step forward for each. Episode 4 — Our first guest episode. An honest, unforgettable conversation about losing a mother suddenly; and what it really means to show up for the people who are grieving. Subscribe wherever you get your podcasts so you never miss an episode>>> Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, Amazon Music, and everywhere else. Reflect With Us Which of the four types of people are you in this season? Are you the one holding everyone together? The friend who went quiet? The one who showed up and felt lost? The one who didn't come at all? Write to the show. Bola reads everything personally, and your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear. RESOURCES MENTIONED * Future Readiness Check — free download at www.shiftedonpurpose.com * Write to the show — hello@shiftedonpurpose.com [hello@shiftedonpurpose.com] CONNECT WITH SHIFTED ON PURPOSE 🌐 shiftedonpurpose.com 📧 hello@shiftedonpurpose.com [hello@shiftedonpurpose.com] 🎙️ New episodes every Tuesday (available on all major podcast platforms) SUBSCRIBE If this episode resonated with you, subscribe on whatever platform you're listening on so every new episode lands automatically. Then head to shiftedonpurpose.com and grab your free Future Readiness Check. And if someone came to mind while you were listening, share this episode with them. Sometimes a podcast starts the conversation a phone call never could. ABOUT THE HOST Bola is the founder and host of Shifted on Purpose, a podcast and platform about grief, legacy, and the conversations most families avoid until it's too late. After losing both parents within 100 days of each other she turned the hardest season of her life into a mission, to make sure no family is left unprepared for life's most inevitable moments. The shift starts now.

Losing Them Changed Everything

Episode 1: Nobody warns you that grief doesn't arrive alone. In the very first episode of Shifted on Purpose, host Bola gets honest about what losing both parents within 100 days of each other actually looked like, not just the grief, but everything that came with it. The decisions that couldn't wait. The questions nobody had answers to. The weight of navigating the hardest season of her life without a roadmap. This episode is for the person who has never started the conversation. The one who tried and stalled. And the one who has some things in place but knows the real conversation never quite happened. Wherever you are, you're in the right place. Because preparation isn't morbid. It isn't dark. It's one of the most loving things you can do for the people you care about most. The shift starts here. IN THIS EPISODE * What nobody warns you about when loss arrives * Why grief comes with a to-do list, and what that actually looks like * The silence we think is protecting our families, and what it's actually doing * Why love alone is not enough, and what preparation changes * The three types of people sitting with this conversation right now * Why talking about legacy isn't morbid, it's love in action SHIFTED ON PURPOSE MOVE OF THE WEEK Download the Future Readiness Check — 15 things your loved ones would wish they knew if something happened to you. Here's how to get it: 👉 Go to shiftedonpurpose.com  👉 Scroll down to the subscribe section  👉 Enter your name and email address  👉 It arrives in your inbox within minutes.  Don't see it? Check your spam folder. Once you have it, don't rush. Just read through it. Sit with it. Let the questions open something up. We're coming back to it together in Episode 3. WHAT'S COMING NEXT Episode 2: What grief really looks like from every side. Not just the person who lost someone, but everyone around them too. The ones who showed up. The ones who went quiet. And the ones who didn't know what to do with any of it. Episode 3: We walk through the Future Readiness Check together. Every single item. With real context and a clear path forward, wherever you're starting from. RESOURCES MENTIONED * Future Readiness Check — free download www.shiftedonpurpose.com * Write to the show 👉 Go to shiftedonpurpose.com via the Contact Us tab on the website  CONNECT WITH SHIFTED ON PURPOSE 🌐 shiftedonpurpose.com 📧 Contact Us tab via website 🎙️ New episodes every Tuesday

Introduction: The Shift Starts Now

Some conversations are overdue. The ones we keep putting off. The ones we tell ourselves we'll have one day,  when the time feels right, when things settle down, when we feel ready. But ready is a feeling that almost never comes on its own. In this short introduction to Shifted on Purpose, host Bola shares why she created this podcast, and what she discovered in the middle of one of the hardest seasons of her life. It wasn't just the loss that was hard. It was everything surrounding it. This is where the conversation begins. The shift starts now. BEFORE EPISODE 1 DROPS Grab the Future Readiness Check, it's free and it was made for this moment. 1. 👉 Subscribe on whatever platform you're listening on  2. 👉 Head to shiftedonpurpose.com  3. 👉 Scroll to the bottom of the page 👉 Enter your name and email 👉 It arrives in your inbox within minutes  Don't see it? Check your spam/junk/promotions folder etc. Sit with it before we begin. You'll want to have it in your hands for what's coming.