Ep 3: Sib as a Tired Nervous System

Ep 4: Sib as a Car Stuck in High Gear

If someone asked you right now what you want (not what needs to get done, not what everyone else needs) could you answer? Andrew Perez couldn’t. For most of his life, the question didn’t even register as one worth asking. In this conversation, he and Sheena get into what it actually takes to go from surviving your childhood to building a life that has room for you in it and why that journey looks different when you’re a man doing it mostly alone, in spaces that weren’t built with you in mind. Together, they explore: * Why so many sibs become overachievers and what it costs * What it’s like to be one of the only men in sib spaces, and what Andrew wants other male sibs to know * The moment the pandemic forced him to finally ask for help and what he discovered when he did * How he learned to talk back to the voice in his head that told him he wasn’t worth taking up space * What healing actually looks like when you’ve spent a lifetime putting yourself last This one is for every sib who’s been running so long they forgot they were allowed to slow down. Content Note: This episode contains candid discussion of suicidal ideation, childhood abuse and neglect, parental alcoholism, and complex family trauma. Crisis resources are listed below. About Andrew Joseph Perez Andrew Joseph Perez is an actor, audiobook narrator, and self-acclaimed ‘Jack of All Trades.’ Andrew is a sibling to his younger brother who has a variety of diagnoses and is a wheelchair user. Andrew describes being his brother’s advocate since the age of five. Andrew learned how to read Tarot Cards after first learning how to read I Ching and Norse Runes. Resources Mentioned Movember Foundation — men’s health, suicide prevention, and building community for men. Link us.movember.com [http://us.movember.com] 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline — call or text 988 (US). https://988lifeline.org/ [https://988lifeline.org/] Proxy Podcast [https://podcasts.apple.com/ag/podcast/brian-cant-stop-fact-checking-his-mother-in-law/id1746433334?i=1000713180282] https://podcasts.apple.com/ag/podcast/brian-cant-stop-fact-checking-his-mother-in-law/id1746433334?i=1000713180282— Andrew referenced an episode called “Brian Can’t Stop Fact-checking His Mother-In-Law [https://podcasts.apple.com/ag/podcast/brian-cant-stop-fact-checking-his-mother-in-law/id1746433334?i=1000713180282]” exploring acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) and cognitive diffusion with Dr. Claudia Drossel. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sibasahuman.substack.com [https://sibasahuman.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Ep 3: Sib as a Tired Nervous System

What if the reason you can’t relax, the reason your body always feels like it’s bracing for something, isn’t a personality flaw but a nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do? Naturopathic doctor and fellow sib, Dr. Sara Rapaport, joins Sheena for one of the first conversations directly speaking to what growing up as a sib actually does to our bodies, our nervous systems, and our ability to know what we even want. Together, they explore: * Why so many sibs intellectualize their way through therapy — and why understanding everything still doesn’t make you feel better * What complex developmental trauma means for sibs who grew up in loving families and still feel like something is wrong * Why “nervous system regulation” doesn’t mean being calm — and what it actually means to start healing * Why the most frightening and necessary thing for sibs isn’t a breathing exercise — it’s letting someone actually see you. This conversation will help you understand your own body a little more gently — and maybe finally give yourself permission to have needs. Watch the podcast episode on our YouTube Channel: About Dr. Sara Rapaport: Dr. Sara Rapaport is a Naturopathic doctor, massage therapist, biofeedback practitioner, and NeuroAffective Relational Model (NARM) practitioner specializing in mind-body medicine and the treatment of complex trauma. She is additionally currently training to become a Somatic Experiencing practitioner. She combines counseling, nutrition, herbal medicine, and physical medicine to support whole person healing and transformation for her patients. In her personal life, she is an avid adventurer, dancer and mover, and especially loves dancing West Coast Swing. She is currently based in Portland, OR and grew up in Cincinnati, Ohio alongside her brother who was diagnosed with Autism at age 3 and Glut-1 deficiency syndrome (GLUT-1 DS) at age 18. Once she was mid-way through medical school, she realized how much of her life she had devoted to being a helper at the expense of her own identity and has since then, been on a path of reclaiming her own authenticity and helping others with developmental trauma come home to themselves. 📩Get in touch with Dr. Sara: https://www.drsararapaport.com/ Connect with us: Instagram — @sibasahuman [https://www.instagram.com/sibasahuman] @dr.sararapaport @sheenamidori This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sibasahuman.substack.com [https://sibasahuman.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Episode 2: Sib as the One Who Never Needed Anything

Episode 2: Sib as the One Who Never Needed AnythingSo many of us who grew up as sibs picked up on the same invisible rule: this family doesn't have room for your needs too. So we got so good at not having them, that we stopped knowing they were there.In this episode, Sheena sits down with Carly Larkin and together, they explore:-Why the helping never stops — and how the thing that earned you the most praise might be the thing quietly running you into the ground- What burnout looks like when the cup has been empty for decades- How our bodies carry what we were never allowed to say out loud. This one will make you feel less alone in the things you've been quietly carrying.About Carly Larkin: Carly’s younger sister, Hannah, was born with spina bifida, hydrocephalus, Arnold–Chiari malformation, and a complex combination of developmental, physical, and intellectual disabilities. Since birth, Hannah has undergone more than 45 surgeries, including 30 on her brain.Because of this, Carly has been navigating the U.S. healthcare system since she was two years old. Now in her 30s, she channels that lived experience—and her big, bleeding heart—into her professional life. Carly is a public relations and marketing professional in the medical research industry, where she translates complex scientific advancements into clear and practical information for patients, families, and policymakers. Carly is scrappy, genuine, and increasingly uninterested in being “little miss perfect.” In this episode, she keeps it real, sharing an honest look at how being a Sib has shaped her life—the good, the complicated, and everything in between.Content Warning: This episode includes brief mention of eating disorders (binge eating and anorexia), chronic mental health struggles (anxiety, depression, OCD), burnout, and the emotional weight of growing up as a caregiver. If any of these topics are sensitive for you, please take care of yourself as you listen. If you or someone you know is struggling with an eating disorder, the National Alliance for Eating Disorders helpline is available at 1-866-662-1235 (Mon–Fri, 9am–5pm ET). You can also visit allianceforeatingdisorders.com [http://allianceforeatingdisorders.com]Sib as a Human is brought to you by Sheena Brevig & Sibling Leadership NetworkCONNECT WITH USSubstack: https://sibasahuman.substack.com/ [https://sibasahuman.substack.com/]Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sibasahuman/ [https://www.instagram.com/sibasahuman/]Donate: https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/sponsor-a-sib-as-a-human-podcast-episode [https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/sponsor-a-sib-as-a-human-podcast-episode] Sibling Leadership Network: https://siblingleadership.org/ [https://siblingleadership.org/]#siblings #sibs #caregivingsupport #sibasahuman #siblinglife #caregiverburnout #mentalhealthsupport This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sibasahuman.substack.com [https://sibasahuman.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Ep 1: Sib as an Invisible Identity

Episode 1: Who Is a Sib — and Why Does It Matter? Welcome to the very first episode of Sib as a Human, the podcast dedicated to siblings of people with disabilities — not just as caregivers or advocates, but as whole, complex human beings. In this premiere episode, host Sheena Brevig shares her own journey of growing up as a sib to her younger brother, who has cerebral palsy — and how she slowly uncovered the ways that experience shaped her self-worth, emotional regulation, physical health, and sense of self. From IBS to CPTSD, from people-pleasing to hyper-independence, Sheena opens up about what it took to start truly understanding herself. She's joined by Kaitlin McNamara, Executive Director of the Sibling Leadership Network (SLN) and a sib herself, who shares her own story as the eldest of four sisters — two of whom identify as women with disabilities — and reflects on parentification, the shock of leaving home, and the long journey toward having honest conversations about caregiving, identity, and resentment. Together, they also share results from a sibling survey completed by over 100 sibs, revealing just how profoundly this identity shapes people's lives — and how little space has existed to talk about it. 🔑 Key Topics Covered What it means to be a "sib" — and why that term matters more than "glass child" Parentification: what it is, how it happens (often without anyone asking), and how it follows sibs into adulthood The mind-body connection of emotional suppression — from gut issues to TMJ to chronic stress CPTSD and complex trauma in the sib experience Intersectionality: how race, culture, gender identity, and other marginalized identities layer onto the sib experience Survey highlights: 90% of sibs said their identity was profoundly impacted by being a sib; over 90% feel caregiving pressure — and most said that pressure is self-imposed The "Pandora's box" metaphor — why opening it is scary, and why it's necessary What it looks like to start celebrating yourself as a sib 📊 Survey Data Highlights 90% of respondents rated their sib identity's impact on their wellbeing as a 4 or 5 out of 5 74.3% selected the highest rating — "profoundly impacted" Over 90% reported feeling the pressure of caregiving Almost 90% deal with challenges around emotional expression Over 80% reported feeling alone or isolated at times Over 90% said the pressure they feel is internal, not externally imposed Over 50% find it difficult to ask for help Top topics sibs want to discuss: resentment, grief and loss, guilt and shame, burnout, future planning anxiety, codependency, family dynamics, and boundaries 👥 Guest Kaitlin McNamara — Executive Director, Sibling Leadership Network Kaitlin is herself a sib — the eldest of four sisters, two of whom identify as women with disabilities. She has spent years building community and evidence-based support for siblings through the SLN, and brings both personal and professional depth to this conversation. 🔗 Resources & Links Sibling Leadership Network (SLN): siblingleadership.org [http://siblingleadership.org] Find local chapters, online communities, and free events for siblings Follow us on Instagram: @sibAsAHuman [https://instagram.com/sibasahuman] Subscribe on Substack for episodes, articles, and resources Support this podcast: Donation link [https://www.zeffy.com/en-US/donation-form/sponsor-a-sib-as-a-human-podcast-episode] Contact us: sibasahuman@gmail.com [sibasahuman@gmail.com] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sibasahuman.substack.com [https://sibasahuman.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]

Sib as a Human - Official Trailer

Sib as a Human - Episode 1 COMING TO YOU APRIL 9th, 2026! Welcome to Sib as a Human! A new podcast where we explore the messy, beautiful and complex experience of what it’s like being a sibling to someone with disabilities or significant emotional, physical, or behavioral needs. Brought to you by Sheena Brevig & Sibling Leadership Network CONNECT WITH US Substack: https://substack.com/@sibasahuman [https://substack.com/@sibasahuman] Instagram @sibasahuman [https://www.instagram.com/sibasahuman/] @sheenamidori [https://www.instagram.com/sheenamidori] @siblingleadershipnetwork [https://www.instagram.com/siblingleadershipnetwork/] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o4MQsZdN_uw [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o4MQsZdN_uw] This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit sibasahuman.substack.com [https://sibasahuman.substack.com?utm_medium=podcast&utm_campaign=CTA_1]