What Should You Do When You Catch Your Teen Vaping? Plus: The Best Surprises of Getting Older

Should You Pay Extra When Your Mom Is Flying In for Childcare? Plus: Advice You Ignored

We share a listener response about what to say when an estranged parent dies before there’s a chance to reconcile. We respond to a listener whose mother would fly in for childcare only if her daughter paid for an upgrade. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What’s the most helpful advice you ignored at the time? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com [http://thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/]. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin [https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/?hl=en]) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author [https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/?hl=en]) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH [http://cnn.com/WATCH] or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Can You Support Two People Who Aren’t Talking to Each Other Without Taking Sides? Plus: We Have An Announcement!

We share listener responses to Dan Harris’s anxiety dilemma and a question about parents bragging about adult kids online. We respond to a listener who let her close friend’s adult son stay on her property and is trying to support him without getting pulled into his estrangement from his mother. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What rituals help you mark an ending or goodbye? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com [http://thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/]. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin [https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/?hl=en]) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author [https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/?hl=en]) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH [http://cnn.com/WATCH] or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

Should You Delete Photos of an Ex for Your Partner? Plus: Getting Out of a Rut

We hear an update from the mother whose adult son was struggling with his difficult relationship with his father, and what changed after he talked it through with his dad. We respond to a listener whose boyfriend wants her to delete old photos with her ex if they get married. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Have you ever done something outside your comfort zone to get out of a rut? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com [http://thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/]. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin [https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/?hl=en]) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author [https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/?hl=en]) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH [http://cnn.com/WATCH] or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

How Do You Reset Your Life Without Starting Over? Plus: Which matters more at work: Money or Meaning?

We share listener responses on new baby boundaries and how to support friends dealing with family estrangement. We respond to a listener who wants a fresh start socially and professionally without making a major life change. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: Do you need your work to feel meaningful or just financially support your life? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com [http://thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/]. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin [https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/?hl=en]) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author [https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/?hl=en]) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH [http://cnn.com/WATCH] or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]

What Should You Do When You Catch Your Teen Vaping? Plus: The Best Surprises of Getting Older

We share more listener responses to the question of what to do with a secret a dying father is asking his daughter to keep. We respond to a parent who found their 16-year-old vaping and is trying to decide how to respond. Plus, Since You Askers weigh in: What surprised you about yourself after 30 or 40? Have a question or advice to share? Leave a voicemail or write to us at thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com [http://thesinceyouaskedpodcast.com/]. Follow along with Gretchen (@gretchenrubin [https://www.instagram.com/gretchenrubin/?hl=en]) and Lori (@lorigottlieb_author [https://www.instagram.com/lorigottlieb_author/?hl=en]) on Instagram for the latest on the show. Subscribe to Since You Asked on your favorite podcast app so you never miss an episode. You can also watch Since You Asked on CNN.COM/WATCH [http://cnn.com/WATCH] or the CNN app. Since You Asked is for entertainment purposes only. It’s not a substitute for medical, mental health, or other professional advice. Always consult a qualified professional with questions about your own situation. By sending us your question, you agree we may use it on the show and edit it for length or clarity. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices [https://megaphone.fm/adchoices]