Small Talk with Sheila

I'm Usually the Smallest Person in the Room — and the Most Confident. Here's How.

I'm Usually the Smallest Person in the Room — and the Most Confident. Here's How. People have been telling me my whole life: "Sheila, you're so small — but whenever you walk into a room, you seem so big, so confident." And honestly? They're right. But it has nothing to do with how I look on the outside and everything to do with how I've learned to feel on the inside. In this episode I'm Sheila Sciencing confidence — the real kind, not the Instagram kind. Three tips, one game-changing theory, and the truth nobody says out loud: everyone is insecure. Every. Single. Person. Once you really understand that? It changes everything. In this episode: - Why embracing the chaos of your own story is the most confident thing you can do - How being awkward on purpose actually builds real confidence (Bridget Jones knew) - Why you need a hype squad — and how to build one even if your current circle isn't it - The Sheila Science theory on insecurity that changes how you walk into any room - Why you don't have to be perfect to be confident — just believe in your messy, magical self Rom-com references: Trainwreck, The Devil Wears Prada, Bridget Jones's Diary What's one thing you're doing this week to show up confidently — before you feel ready? Comment, DM me, or email sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com Find me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@smalltalkwithsheila TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila --- Production and audience development by PodVision Created, written, and hosted by Sheila Kazan Executive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila Kazan Emotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband) Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup) No perfection was required in the making of this episode. Just a hype squad, a little Sheila Science, and the audacity to show up anyway. This romcom is just getting started.

I Called His Work Because I Thought He Died…

He stopped texting. I assumed he was dead. I called his work. He was not dead. He was just ghosting me.We've all been there. Waiting for those three little dots, making every excuse in the book. He's probably sick. His mom is sick. Maybe he's just really busy. It doesn't matter. The waiting is the same.In this episode, I'm not here to tell you he's just not that into you. I'm the bestie getting you through to the other side — and honestly? To something way better.Here's what I know: the minute you fall in love with yourself, everyone falls in love with you. And those three dots? You won't even care anymore.IN THIS EPISODE→ Why you're in love with an idea — not an actual person→ The list that will save you from texting him→ How to take yourself on the date you've been waiting for→Why falling in love with yourself is the only move that mattersTHE 4 TIPS✨ Tip 1: You don't even know if you like him. You like the idea of him.✨ Tip 2: Make the list — and work the list.✨ Tip 3: Take yourself out on the date you were waiting for.✨ Tip 4 (the bonus and the whole point): Fall in love with yourself.THE SHEILA SCIENCE™ REFRAMEWhen someone likes you, they will move oceans and seas to be with you. So in the meantime — move oceans and seas for yourself. In every small moment. Because all the small moments add up to the big moment where you are the main character of your own life.Email me: sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com📸 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila] 🎵 TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila]Fighting the urge to text him right now? DM Sheila everything you want to say to him. She'll keep you accountable. Just don't text him. 💗If this episode helped you, hit Subscribe, leave a review, and send it to the friend who's waiting on those three dots right now.And this rom-com? It's just getting started. 🩷CHAPTERS0:00 The Cold Open: I Called His Work1:07 Welcome to Small Talk with Sheila1:42 Tip 1: You Like the Idea of Him — Not Him2:39 Tip 2: Make the List and Work the List4:33 Tip 3: Take Yourself Out on the Date5:45 Tip 4 (Bonus): Fall in Love With Yourself6:30 The Sheila Science Reframe7:03 Your Homework and How to Find SheilaEND CREDITS — ROLLING LIKE A ROM-COMProduction and audience development by PodVision [https://pod.vision/]Created, written, and hosted by Sheila KazanExecutive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila KazanEmotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband)Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup)No three dots required. No callback needed. Just one woman who decided she was worth the date.

Devil Wears Prada Made Me Realize It's Okay to Be Ambitious

Devil Wears Prada 2 is in theaters! And watching it made me ask: why does society still make ambitious women feel bad for wanting more? About a month ago, I asked 20 people in my life to describe me in one word. Anonymous. No context. Just: who is she to you? When "ambitious" showed up, my reaction surprised me. First: "Heck yeah." Then: "Wait... is that bad?" If you've ever felt cringey when someone called you ambitious — this episode is for you. I'm Sheila-Sciencing the four biggest myths about ambitious women, using Miranda Priestly and Andy Sachs as my case study. Because here's what I know: ambition isn't ego. It's not a character flaw. It's a personality trait. And it's time we owned it. In this episode:→ Why ambitious women get a bad reputation (and why it's wrong)→ The real difference between Miranda Priestly and Andy Sachs — and what it tells us about ambition→ How to balance ambition with the people you love→ Why ambition has nothing to do with your job title→ How to stop feeling ashamed of wanting more Message me: sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.comInstagram [https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila]TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila] CHAPTERS00:00 Devil Wears Prada 2, Ambitious Women, and the Cold Open01:00 Welcome to Small Talk with Sheila01:52 Story Time: I Asked 20 People to Describe Me03:30 Let's Sheila Science This03:37 Myth #1: Ambition Is Ego and Greed05:36 Myth #2: Ambitious Women Don't Care About Their People07:57 Myth #3: Ambition Only Lives in Power Titles09:45 Myth #4: Ambitious People Are Loners11:00 Own Your Ambition: Final ThoughtsEND CREDITS — ROLLING LIKE A ROM-COMProduction and audience development by PodVision [https://pod.vision/]Created, written, and hosted by Sheila KazanExecutive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila KazanEmotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband)Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup) No Chanel bag required. No corner office needed. Just one very ambitious woman, finally owning it.

Three Ways I'm RomCom'ing My Life

Three ways I’m rom-comming my life in real time — glow ups, home vibes, and rediscovering pure fun. Short and sweet is back! This week I’m sharing three ways I’m rom-comming my life right now — in real time — to inspire you to do the same. There’s a beauty obsession I literally had to get on a waitlist for, a home glow up powered by ChatGPT (yes, really), and a therapy session that reminded me I forgot how to just have fun. Champagne in hand. Let’s get into it. Three Ways I’m Rom-Com'ing My Life 01 · The Outer Glow Up: Victoria Beckham Foundation Drops I hunted these down across every Nordstrom, got on a waitlist, and zero regrets. The number five light is now a permanent fixture in my life. Plus, why Victoria Beckham is the ultimate main character (watch the documentary — trust me). Here is the link. [https://go.shopmy.us/p-55937052] 02 · The Environment Glow Up: ChatGPT-ing My Home, One Nook at a Time LA dreams are on hold (love interest said not yet), so I’m channeling that energy into making every corner of my home feel like me. I took a photo of my entryway, dropped it into ChatGPT, and the result was honestly pretty awesome. You don’t have to spend a lot — sometimes it’s just a mirror swap. 03 · The Inner Glow Up: Reclaiming Fun — No Productivity Allowed My therapist asked what I do for fun and I had no answer. So I made a list: the mall, paint by numbers, memorizing a song. Things that don’t lead anywhere. Sheila Summer of Fun is officially on. Chapters * 00:00 Short & sweet is back — champagne and all * 00:48 Outer glow up: the Victoria Beckham Foundation Drops obsession * 01:48 Why Victoria Beckham is the ultimate main character * 02:39 LA dreams: the love interest says not yet * 03:38 Home glow up: ChatGPT-ing my nooks and crannies * 04:48 You don’t need to spend money to upgrade your environment * 05:12 Therapy homework: what do you do just for fun? * 06:55 The fun list — mall, paint by numbers, memorizing a song * 07:23 Cheers to the Sheila Summer of Fun Watch the Romcom Live * https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila [https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila] * https://www.youtube.com/@smalltalkwithsheila [https://www.youtube.com/@smalltalkwithsheila] * https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila] Now I Want to Hear from You What are the three things you want to do just for fun this summer? No goals, no productivity, just pure joy. Comment on YouTube, DM me on socials, or email me. And if you know someone who’s forgotten how to have fun… send them this episode. Email: sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com [sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com] End Credits Rolling like a romcom Production and audience development by PodVision [https://pod.vision/] Created, written, and hosted by Sheila Kazan Executive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila Kazan Emotional Support: Hezi (my husband) Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup)

It's Okay to Change Your Mind

What if the detours in your life weren't mistakes… but the actual road? In this episode, we're wrapping up the Romcom Your Work Life series by talking about something nobody wants to admit: changing your mind. About your career. Your dreams. Your path. The thing society tells you to be ashamed of — the pivot, the plot twist, the lily pad jump — is exactly what we are here to celebrate. Because here's the truth: your work life doesn't have to look like a LinkedIn highlight reel. It gets to be messy. It gets to change. It gets to make sense only to you. Here's the truth I want you to walk away with: you are allowed to change your mind. Your life doesn't have to be linear to be meaningful. It just has to be yours. We talk: * Why changing your mind is not something to be ashamed of * The myth of "all or nothing" in Hollywood, in corporate America, and everywhere in between * Being an "and" because you don't have to pick just one thing * Why your detours are part of your story, not a detour from it Watch the romcom live: Instagram [ ⁠https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila⁠] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@smalltalkwithsheila⁠] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila⁠] Now I want to hear from you… What's your plot twist? What's the career detour that actually led you somewhere better? Comment on YouTube, DM me, or email me at sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com [sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com] And if you know someone who thinks their entire work life is a mistake… send them this episode. End Credits "rolling like a romcom" Production and audience development by PodVision [https://pod.vision/] Created and produced by Sheila Kazan Emotional Support: Hezi (my husband) Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup) No lily pads were harmed in the making of this episode. Just one very messy, magical career story, told exactly as it happened. This romcom is just getting started. 🤍