What Self-Help Gurus Don't Tell You About Goals

What Self-Help Gurus Don't Tell You About Goals

I had a coaching call this week that honestly shook me. I walked in ready to talk about goals — and walked out realizing I'd already accomplished most of them without even noticing.That's the thing nobody talks about. Goals don't look the way Instagram says they will. They're not linear. They're not color-coded. And half the time, you're already living them.In this episode, I'm giving you the Sheila Science behind why we set goals, why we never feel like we've arrived, and why — like Julie in Julie & Julia — the whole point was never the beef bourguignon.✨ We talk:• Why you're probably already crushing your goals (and can't see it)• The myth of the linear goal — what it actually looks like vs. what we think it looks like• Why there's no one-size-fits-all approach to goal setting (and that's okay)• The Sheila Science of goals: it's not about the destination, it's about who you become on the way• Why joy is the only real metric that matters💌 Let's keep talking:What's a goal you've already accomplished without giving yourself credit for it? Drop it in the comments — I want to celebrate you.Or email me: sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.comWatch the romcom live: Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila]YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@smalltalkwithsheila] TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila]End Credits "rolling like a romcom"Production and audience development by PodVisionCreated, written, and hosted by Sheila KazanExecutive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila KazanEmotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband)Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup)No vision boards were harmed in the making of this episode.Just a coaching call, a squiggly line, and a pot of beef bourguignon.This romcom is just getting started. 🩷

My Honest Life Update: Self-Love, Clean Counters & Ditching Wellness Rules

It's that time of the month — no, not THAT time of the month. It's Short n' Sweet. 🩷Every month I share three ways I'm rom-com'ing my life in real time because being the main character isn't a destination, it's a 24-hour pursuit. And honestly? This month's three things surprised even me.✨ In this episode:• Why getting people to fall in love with you starts with falling in love with yourself first• Branch Basics — the non-toxic cleaner I'm obsessed with (not an ad... but Branch Basics, please call me) Try for yourself [https://go.shopmy.us/p-61515435]! • Why intentions beat rules every single time — and how ditching perfection quietly changed my year📩 Let's talk: Comment below, DM me, or email sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.comWhat's one intention you're setting for yourself this month?Watch my rom-com live:Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila] YouTube [https://www.youtube.com/@SmallTalkWithSheila]TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila]---Production and audience development by PodVision [https://pod.vision/]Created, written, and hosted by Sheila KazanExecutive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila KazanEmotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband)Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup)No perfection was required in the making of this episode. Just three honest things and the audacity to love yourself exactly as you are.This romcom is just getting started. 🩷

I'm Usually the Smallest Person in the Room — and the Most Confident. Here's How.

I'm Usually the Smallest Person in the Room — and the Most Confident. Here's How. People have been telling me my whole life: "Sheila, you're so small — but whenever you walk into a room, you seem so big, so confident." And honestly? They're right. But it has nothing to do with how I look on the outside and everything to do with how I've learned to feel on the inside. In this episode I'm Sheila Sciencing confidence — the real kind, not the Instagram kind. Three tips, one game-changing theory, and the truth nobody says out loud: everyone is insecure. Every. Single. Person. Once you really understand that? It changes everything. In this episode: - Why embracing the chaos of your own story is the most confident thing you can do - How being awkward on purpose actually builds real confidence (Bridget Jones knew) - Why you need a hype squad — and how to build one even if your current circle isn't it - The Sheila Science theory on insecurity that changes how you walk into any room - Why you don't have to be perfect to be confident — just believe in your messy, magical self Rom-com references: Trainwreck, The Devil Wears Prada, Bridget Jones's Diary What's one thing you're doing this week to show up confidently — before you feel ready? Comment, DM me, or email sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com Find me here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@smalltalkwithsheila TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila --- Production and audience development by PodVision Created, written, and hosted by Sheila Kazan Executive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila Kazan Emotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband) Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup) No perfection was required in the making of this episode. Just a hype squad, a little Sheila Science, and the audacity to show up anyway. This romcom is just getting started.

I Called His Work Because I Thought He Died…

He stopped texting. I assumed he was dead. I called his work. He was not dead. He was just ghosting me.We've all been there. Waiting for those three little dots, making every excuse in the book. He's probably sick. His mom is sick. Maybe he's just really busy. It doesn't matter. The waiting is the same.In this episode, I'm not here to tell you he's just not that into you. I'm the bestie getting you through to the other side — and honestly? To something way better.Here's what I know: the minute you fall in love with yourself, everyone falls in love with you. And those three dots? You won't even care anymore.IN THIS EPISODE→ Why you're in love with an idea — not an actual person→ The list that will save you from texting him→ How to take yourself on the date you've been waiting for→Why falling in love with yourself is the only move that mattersTHE 4 TIPS✨ Tip 1: You don't even know if you like him. You like the idea of him.✨ Tip 2: Make the list — and work the list.✨ Tip 3: Take yourself out on the date you were waiting for.✨ Tip 4 (the bonus and the whole point): Fall in love with yourself.THE SHEILA SCIENCE™ REFRAMEWhen someone likes you, they will move oceans and seas to be with you. So in the meantime — move oceans and seas for yourself. In every small moment. Because all the small moments add up to the big moment where you are the main character of your own life.Email me: sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.com📸 Instagram [https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila] 🎵 TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila]Fighting the urge to text him right now? DM Sheila everything you want to say to him. She'll keep you accountable. Just don't text him. 💗If this episode helped you, hit Subscribe, leave a review, and send it to the friend who's waiting on those three dots right now.And this rom-com? It's just getting started. 🩷CHAPTERS0:00 The Cold Open: I Called His Work1:07 Welcome to Small Talk with Sheila1:42 Tip 1: You Like the Idea of Him — Not Him2:39 Tip 2: Make the List and Work the List4:33 Tip 3: Take Yourself Out on the Date5:45 Tip 4 (Bonus): Fall in Love With Yourself6:30 The Sheila Science Reframe7:03 Your Homework and How to Find SheilaEND CREDITS — ROLLING LIKE A ROM-COMProduction and audience development by PodVision [https://pod.vision/]Created, written, and hosted by Sheila KazanExecutive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila KazanEmotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband)Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup)No three dots required. No callback needed. Just one woman who decided she was worth the date.

Devil Wears Prada Made Me Realize It's Okay to Be Ambitious

Devil Wears Prada 2 is in theaters! And watching it made me ask: why does society still make ambitious women feel bad for wanting more? About a month ago, I asked 20 people in my life to describe me in one word. Anonymous. No context. Just: who is she to you? When "ambitious" showed up, my reaction surprised me. First: "Heck yeah." Then: "Wait... is that bad?" If you've ever felt cringey when someone called you ambitious — this episode is for you. I'm Sheila-Sciencing the four biggest myths about ambitious women, using Miranda Priestly and Andy Sachs as my case study. Because here's what I know: ambition isn't ego. It's not a character flaw. It's a personality trait. And it's time we owned it. In this episode:→ Why ambitious women get a bad reputation (and why it's wrong)→ The real difference between Miranda Priestly and Andy Sachs — and what it tells us about ambition→ How to balance ambition with the people you love→ Why ambition has nothing to do with your job title→ How to stop feeling ashamed of wanting more Message me: sheila@smalltalkwithsheila.comInstagram [https://www.instagram.com/smalltalkwith_sheila]TikTok [https://www.tiktok.com/@smalltalkwithsheila] CHAPTERS00:00 Devil Wears Prada 2, Ambitious Women, and the Cold Open01:00 Welcome to Small Talk with Sheila01:52 Story Time: I Asked 20 People to Describe Me03:30 Let's Sheila Science This03:37 Myth #1: Ambition Is Ego and Greed05:36 Myth #2: Ambitious Women Don't Care About Their People07:57 Myth #3: Ambition Only Lives in Power Titles09:45 Myth #4: Ambitious People Are Loners11:00 Own Your Ambition: Final ThoughtsEND CREDITS — ROLLING LIKE A ROM-COMProduction and audience development by PodVision [https://pod.vision/]Created, written, and hosted by Sheila KazanExecutive Producer of Her Own Life: Also Sheila KazanEmotional Support and Occasional Reality Check: Hezi (my husband)Tiny but Mighty Energy: Love (my pup) No Chanel bag required. No corner office needed. Just one very ambitious woman, finally owning it.