You’re Not Lazy. You’re Burnt Out. | Spirit & Spice Ep . 7

Motherhood: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly | Spirit & Spice Ep . 8

About Episode: In this episode, we explore the realities of motherhood beyond baby showers, maternity photoshoots, and social media highlights. Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and transformative experiences in life, but it is also one of the most romanticized. Our goal is to present an honest, balanced, practical, and hopeful picture of motherhood while helping couples prepare for parenthood together. Chapters: 00:00 Episode’s preview 00:27 Welcome to Spirit & Spice 00:39 Why This Episode Exists 01:08 Why Motherhood Deserves an Honest Conversation 01:18 Being a Mother and Motherhood Are Not the Same Thing 01:27 A Direct Word to Every Man — Learn This 01:49 Motherhood Is Powerful — This Episode Is for Both of You 02:42 The Beauty of Motherhood — Designed for Posterity 03:44 Ify’s Favourite Thing About Being a Mother 04:00 When Motherhood Could Have Been Done Better 04:16 Bisola’s Favourite Thing About Being Her Son’s Mother 04:29 The Friends Who Are Getting Parenting Right — A Shoutout 04:55 Raising Children Who Are Responsible Members of Society 06:02 Motherhood Is a Strategy 06:30 The Art of Delegation — Send Them on Errands 06:52 The Hard Truth — Motherhood Will Interrupt Your Life 07:38 Bisola’s Pregnancy Story — From Sharp Memory to None 09:40 Both of You Are Pregnant — Where Is the Man? 11:04 How the Man Shows Up During Pregnancy 13:22 To the Pregnant Woman — Receive Help, Take It Easy 15:30 What Pregnancy Does to a Woman’s Body — The Good Side 15:58 Active Participation From Both Parents in Childhood 18:29 To Every Mother — You Are the Primary Caregiver 19:49 Preparing for Motherhood Across Every Area of Your Life 20:25 How to Prepare for Motherhood in Your Career 21:51 Ify’s Story — The Compromises She and Her Partner Made for Their Children 24:51 Bisola’s Story — Planning for Career Gaps Between Children 27:16 How Motherhood Changes Romance — and How to Plan for It 29:44 Talk About Help — Leverage It, and Drop the Mum Guilt 31:24 Preparing for Parenting — Drop the Trauma, Read the Books 31:54 To the Woman Scared Her Trauma Will Make Her a Bad Mother 33:39 To the Person Who Feels Their Life Is Their Own — Why Should I Give Birth? 34:52 Adoption Is a Beautiful Yes 36:00 Motherhood Is Beyond Birthing 36:13 Closing Remarks 36:22 Until Next Time About Spirit and Spice:  Spirit and Spice explores friendship, culture, and everyday life through honest, engaging conversations. Built on the dynamic between two best friends, the podcast offers real, relatable discussions on modern life and relationships, blending humour with depth. It’s designed to support women’s growth and offer insight that helps men better understand them, creating space for reflection, growth, and connection. 🔗Links: Follow Spirit & Spice on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==] Subscribe to Spirit & Spice on YOUTUBE : https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q [https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q] Follow Spirit & Spice on TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@spiritandspicepod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Follow Spirit & Spice on SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Dv3qaU6hxsaMn3TPjQRxl?si=T_uLNu6VQ6yx1hgVOzIMQA Follow Spirit & Spice on APPLE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spirit-and-spice-pod/id1889886599 Follow Bisola Badejo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q [https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q] Follow Bisola Badejo on TWITTER: https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21 [https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21] Follow Bisola Badejo on Substack: https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur [https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur] Follow Ifeyinwa Nwaoyo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==]

You’re Not Lazy. You’re Burnt Out. | Spirit & Spice Ep . 7

About Episode: In this episode of spirit and spice, we explore the growing burnout crisis in a culture obsessed with productivity, visibility, achievement, and performance. This episode will help you develop a healthier relationship with ambition, rest, identity, and purpose while offering honest frameworks for avoiding burnout without abandoning excellence. Chapters: 00:00   Episode Preview 00:41   Welcome to Spirit & Spice 00:56   “Doing It All” Might Actually End You 01:59   Where Does All This Pressure Even Come From? 02:35   Pressure Source #1 — Nurture: Your Upbringing, Your Wounds, Your Wiring 02:50   The African, Asian & Indian Obsession With Academic Excellence 04:18   Pressure Source #2 — Culture: The World You Were Born Into 05:48   Nepo Baby vs Lapo Baby — The Comparison Trap 06:16   Pressure Source #3 — Nature: When You Are Your Own Worst Enemy 07:32   Pressure Source #4 — Faith: When Church Becomes Another Place to Measure Up 08:36   When Someone Else’s Testimony Becomes Your Pressure Point 08:45   God Is Not Impressed by Your Performance — Achalugo, Relax 10:35   Your Work Is Not Your Identity 11:54   You Are God’s Workmanship — He Looks at You and He Is Pleased 13:36   The Three Types of People Who Burn Out 13:52   People Pleasers — Learning the Power of No 15:24   The Saviour Complex — Being Needed Is Not the Same as Being Valuable 16:00   Bad Leaders Are Irreplaceable — Build Systems, Build Legacy 17:21   Control Freaks — The Exhaustion of Holding Everything Together 17:43   Let It Breathe — You Don’t Have to Manage Every Outcome 18:50   A Word to All Three — People Pleasers, Saviours & Control Freaks 19:04   Bisola & Ify Get Personal 19:34   Ify’s Burnout Story — What almost broke Her and What Changed 20:40   Your Life Is in Seasons — You Can’t Show Up Everywhere at Full Intensity 20:55   Bisola’s Burnout Story — Her Wake-Up Call and What Shifted 22:00   The Lessons — Prioritisation, Delegation & Letting Go 23:22   You Cannot Juggle All the Balls at Once 23:44   To the Student — What Actually Deserves Your Energy Right Now 25:25   To the Early Career Person — What to Protect in This Season 26:28   To the Person transitioning between Career and Marriage — What to Prioritise 28:53   Priorities in Marriage — What Holds the Centre 30:51   The Coasting Season — Permission to Be Intentionally Lazy 32:31   To the Person Who Is Just Tired — It Might Be Time to Stop 33:21   To Anyone Who Feels Like Time Has Run Out on Their Dreams 35:17   Everything Is a Niche — It Is Never Too Late to Build Something 35:30   Be Ambitious — Just Not at the Expense of Yourself and the People You Love 36:11   Until Next Time About Spirit and Spice:  Spirit and Spice explores friendship, culture, and everyday life through honest, engaging conversations. Built on the dynamic between two best friends, the podcast offers real, relatable discussions on modern life and relationships, blending humour with depth. 🔗Links: Follow Spirit & Spice on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==] Subscribe to Spirit & Spice on YOUTUBE : https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q [https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q] Follow Spirit & Spice on TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@spiritandspicepod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Follow Spirit & Spice on SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Dv3qaU6hxsaMn3TPjQRxl?si=T_uLNu6VQ6yx1hgVOzIMQA Follow Spirit & Spice on APPLE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spirit-and-spice-pod/id1889886599 Follow Bisola Badejo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q [https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q] Follow Bisola Badejo on TWITTER: https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21 [https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21] Follow Bisola Badejo on Substack: https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur [https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur] Follow Ifeyinwa Nwaoyo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==]

Can We Be Honest About Single Parenting? | Spirit & Spice Ep . 6

About Episode:  In this Episode of spirit & Spice, we explore the tension between compassion and truth in conversations around single parenting. Our conversation acknowledges: •⁠  ⁠The stigma single parents face (especially women in Nigeria), •⁠  ⁠The realities of widowhood, abandonment, divorce, abuse, and unintended pregnancy, •⁠  ⁠The societal pressure on unmarried women approaching their late 30s, •⁠  ⁠And the growing normalization of intentionally choosing single parenthood. This episode emphasizes that: •⁠  ⁠Single parents deserve dignity, support, and community, •⁠  ⁠God redeems difficult situations, •⁠  ⁠But redemption is not the same as design. Our conversation is compassionate, nuanced, reflective, and not condemnatory. Chapters:  00:00 Episode Preview 00:53 Welcome to Spirit & Spice 01:03 Why This Episode Exists 01:55 Why Are We Even Talking About This? 03:44 Single Parenting Is Someone’s Everyday Reality 04:45 Most Times, It Wasn’t the Plan 05:17 How to Honour Single Parents 05:25 What Single Parenting Actually Demands 05:56 Mary, Mother of Jesus - A Single Parent We Overlook 06:27 Single Parents Deserve More Honour Than We Give 06:59 Debunking the Myth: Single Parents Can’t Raise Whole Children 07:11 Timothy, His Mother & His Grandmother - Two Women, One Man of God 08:27 Baby Mama Culture & the Sperm Donor Narrative 09:22 Is Baby Mama Culture About Feminism - or Patriarchy? 10:08 The Amazon Woman & the Sperm Donor: A Cultural Breakdown 10:27 The Future Is Whole - We Need Men for More Than Biology 10:38 The Pressure on Women: Biology, Culture & the Ticking Clock 10:58 When the Clock Becomes Louder Than Wisdom 11:58 Societal Pressure & How It Creates Single Parent Situations 12:16 Playing God: When Choice, Not Circumstance, Breaks the Design 13:42 The Surrogate Mother Culture 14:34 Asking the Hard Why’s Behind These Decisions 15:44 A Child Cannot Fill the Void in Your Heart 17:12 What Parenting Actually Is - and What It Is Not 17:53 God’s Original Design for the Family 19:07 Abraham, Hagar & Sarah - Even Disruption Didn’t Change God’s Design 20:15 What Does This Mean for Children Outside That Design? 20:56 A Word for Anyone Who Has Been in Hagar’s Shoes 21:58 Encouragement for Every Single Parent Listening 22:33 The Real Benefits of a Two-Parent Household 23:19 What a Father & a Mother Each Bring to a Child’s Life 25:52 The Answer to Single Parenting: Community 29:23 Dear Single Parent - If You Want More, There Is Still Hope 30:01 Until Next Time About Spirit and Spice:  Spirit and Spice explores friendship, culture, and everyday life through honest, engaging conversations. Built on the dynamic between two best friends, the podcast offers real, relatable discussions on modern life and relationships, blending humour with depth. It’s designed to support women’s growth and offer insight that helps men better understand them, creating space for reflection, growth, and connection. 🔗Links: Follow Spirit & Spice on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==] Subscribe to Spirit & Spice on YOUTUBE : https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q [https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q] Follow Spirit & Spice on TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@spiritandspicepod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Follow Spirit & Spice on SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Dv3qaU6hxsaMn3TPjQRxl?si=T_uLNu6VQ6yx1hgVOzIMQA Follow Spirit & Spice on APPLE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spirit-and-spice-pod/id1889886599 Follow Bisola Badejo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q [https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q] Follow Bisola Badejo on TWITTER: https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21 [https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21] Follow Bisola Badejo on Substack: https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur [https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur] Follow Ifeyinwa Nwaoyo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==]

Are We Romanticizing Mental Health? | Labels, Trauma & Responsibility | Spirit & Spice Ep . 5

About Episode:  In this episode of Spirit & Spice, we’re talking about the growing culture of romanticizing mental health — casually claiming labels like OCD, ADHD, anxiety, or trauma without proper diagnosis or understanding. Mental health matters. But when serious conditions become personality labels, we can unintentionally trivialize real struggles and delay true healing. This conversation explores the difference between awareness and identity, pain and pathology, self-compassion and self-excuse. We also discuss what healing can look like: seeking help, taking responsibility, breaking trauma patterns, and refusing to let pain become a permanent identity. Chapters: 00:00  Episode’s Preview 00:44   Intro 00:56  Why this conversation matters 01:32  Mental health is more than a buzzword 02:25  Who this is really for 03:14  Why self-diagnosing can mislead you 03:45  What OCD actually is 04:33  When “buzzwords” are real life for people 04:49  Stop romanticising mental illness 05:10  Why social media isn’t your diagnosis 06:02  ADHD: what it is (and what it isn’t) 06:43  Do you really understand bipolar disorder? 07:25  The right way to approach healing 07:47  Why proper diagnosis matters 08:41  Your diagnosis is not an excuse 10:30   Trauma is real, but it’s not a free pass 12:14   “Hurt people hurt people”… but it doesn’t have to continue 12:55   Turning pain into purpose 13:55   Who are you becoming: the hero or the villain? 14:26   Boundaries vs isolation: building gates, not walls 15:56   Forgiveness: freeing yourself, not them 17:22   When your offender seems to be doing fine 17:28   Becoming a healthy, functional adult 17:48   Understanding the root of your pain 18:24  Closing Remarks.  18:40  Outro About Spirit and Spice:  Spirit and Spice explores friendship, culture, and everyday life through honest, engaging conversations. Built on the dynamic between two best friends, the podcast offers real, relatable discussions on modern life and relationships, blending humour with depth. It’s designed to support women’s growth and offer insight that helps men better understand them, creating space for reflection, growth, and connection. 🔗Links: Follow Spirit & Spice on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==] Subscribe to Spirit & Spice on YOUTUBE : https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q [https://youtube.com/@spiritandspicepod?si=RaS7_khKL-s3lP2Q] Follow Spirit & Spice on TIKTOK: https://www.tiktok.com/@spiritandspicepod?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc Follow Spirit & Spice on SPOTIFY: https://open.spotify.com/show/1Dv3qaU6hxsaMn3TPjQRxl?si=T_uLNu6VQ6yx1hgVOzIMQA Follow Spirit & Spice on APPLE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/spirit-and-spice-pod/id1889886599 Follow Bisola Badejo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q [https://www.instagram.com/bisolabadejo?igsh=MjZjN2lycDc2N21q] Follow Bisola Badejo on TWITTER: https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21 [https://x.com/bisolabadejo?s=21] Follow Bisola Badejo on Substack: https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur [https://substack.com/@bisolabadejo?r=2420uf&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=stories&shareImageVariant=blur] Follow Ifeyinwa Nwaoyo on INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ== [https://www.instagram.com/ifeyinwanwaoyo?igsh=MWxyOWFqZDkwa2JzMQ==]

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