Getting past internal resistance

Forgiveness

Forgiveness is what allows us to move forward. We need to not only forgive others, we need to forgive ourselves. Every difficulty and all the stress in our life we have caused for ourself. To move forward we need to forgive ourselves. To do that we first acknowledge what we've been doing to cause ourself difficulty. Then we need to understand how and why we've done that. Once we've extracted the learning from the situation, we're in a position to move on and let the old behaviors go. As is my normal practice, I'll endeaver to provide a real time example from my life. I've created money and relationship stress in my life because I believed I needed that stress as motivation to grow spiritually. I've taken on big challenges in an effort to "get the most out of myself". Over the past years I've been focused on willingly learning and growing without relying on outer problems to force me to focus on my growth. I'm ready to take another step in that process. I think a next step might be in allowing myself to receive and benefit more from help I've created in my life. Clearly I need to spend more time and attention on becoming aware of the thoughts that are creating that stress. One of those thoughts is "I need the stress as a motivator". I'll know when I've extracted the learning from the situation when the stress is gone and I can confidently move forward in finances and relationships. I'm not there yet, and am making progress. I offer thought coaching where we uncover the thoughts creating our world and claim our freedom to choose which of those thoughts to act on. To schedule your free introductory session, reserve a time at https://calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min [https://calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min] My books including "Healing ourself, healing the world" are available to Amazon. You can find links to the books on my website, www.thoughtcoachingbyscott.com [https://www.thoughtcoachingbyscott.com]

Getting past internal resistance

Whenever we have internal resistance it's a sign we have conflicting thoughts. We know this because thoughts create our emotions and resistance is an emotion. The solution is to slow down and listen until we become aware of the competeting/conflicting thoughts. Here's a real time example from my life. On the one hand I have the thought I need to engage in marketing to generate revenue and expand my acceptance of being deeply connected. On the other hand I know the only marketing that has ever worked for me is to be myself. Being myself means acting on uplifting thoughts. Being myself means being present. In being myself, I've always had enough money. As you can see, taking the time to become aware of the competing thoughts makes it clear which thought is more uplifting and likely to enrich my life the most. I offer thought coaching where you're supported in identifying the thoughts in your mind and getting clear which thoughts are the most beneficial to act on. To schedule a free introductory coaching session, reserve your time at www.calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min [https://www.calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min] My books, including "Insights in getting out of our own way", are available on Amazon. You can find links to the books on my website, www.thoughtcoacingbyscott.com [https://www.thoughtcoacingbyscott.com]

Extracting value from depression

Depression is a sign that there is currently the ability to listen to and accept ourselves more fully. We get depressed when we deny negative thoughts. When we slow down and accept the existence of negative thoughts, we introduce a greater level of choice in our life. Being conscious of negative thoughts allows us to investigate them and see if the thoughts are true or not. In my experience, the thoughts are rarely true. In those instances where the negative thoughts are deemed to be true, they point to actions I need to take to avoid problems. The vast majority of the time, the negative thoughts are not true. By accepting their existence and choosing not to act on those thoughts, it makes room for positive and true thoughts to arise. When we deny the negative thoughts, they control us. That's why I wrote the book, "Negativity, what we deny controls us" Acceptance is healing. Negative thoughts are healed by accepting. their existence. With that acceptance and the choice not to act on the negative thoughts, they lose their power. They still exist, but with very little power. I have effectively dealt with depression by slowing down and listening for the previously denied thoughts that are causing the depression. I still get depressed, and I know how to deal with it. I offer coaching sessions that support you in acknowledging thoughts that we were previously unconscious of. Once those thoughts move from the unconscious to the conscious, they lose much of their power. To schedule a free introductory coaching session visit https://calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min [https://calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min] My books, including, "Believing in Ourself, the master skill" and "Negtivity, what we deny controls us" along with others are available on Amazon. You can find links to the books on my website, www.thoughtcoacingbyscott.com [https://www.thoughtcoacingbyscott.com]

Effective business leadership

Being abundantly clear facilitates successful business. Too often people hold back explaining what needs to happen for employees and clients to be successful. That isn't doing anyone any favors. If there is a line that can't be recovered from once crossed, that needs to be made clear at the beginning. In my first full time job, my boss sat me down and said I was required to get all my paperwork in on time and have no surprises. If I did that, we'd get along great. If not, there would be major problems. I worked for him for almost 7 years and he was true to his word. I got all my paperwork in on time and kept him appraised of what was happening so there would be no surprises. We got along great the whole time. I followed this practice when I had employees and it worked well there too. This is a reflection of the fact that the solution to every problem is to be more honest with ourself. When we're honest with ourself, it supports being honest with others. Being honest with myself includes accepting I have the power to make my life work. There are lots of challenges in my life right now, most notably family health problems. I believe the best thing I can do for others is to work on myself. Once again, I'm reminded that I need to take care of myself to be in a position to take care of others. I offer life changing coaching. You can reserve a free initial coaching session at www.calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min [https://www.calendly.com/scottfriedman40/30min] My books, including the Art of the Ethical Deal, are available on Amazon. Links to the books appear on my website, www.thoughtcoachingbyscott.com [https://www.thoughtcoachingbyscott.com]

Believing in ourself, the master skill

Everytime we take any action towards making our outer world match our inner inspired world, we believe in ourself more. Eventually, that belief in ourself gets so strong that we succeed in creating the outer world that matches the inner world of our dreams. That's persistence in action. There is a well known phrase, "everything yields to persistence". We all need to be reminded and inspired to believe in ourself more and more. Because example is the most powerful form of leadership, we benefit ourselves and others by sharing our example of persistently believing in ourself more and more. That ends up being translated to believing in others more as well. If you're so inspired to share how you've made persistence effective in improving your life, I'd love to have you as a guest on my podcast. If you'd like to do that, reach out to me at scottfriedman40@gmail.com [scottfriedman40@gmail.com] My books, including the book entitled, "Believing in Ourself, the master skill" are available on Amazon. You can find links to the books on my website, www.thoughtcoachingbyscott.com [https://www.thoughtcoachingbyscott.com]. At the same website, you can book a free introductory coaching session. We believe some of what we hear, more of what we see, and everything we experience. Until you've experienced a coaching session with me, you haven't experienced a coaching session with me!!