Why Do I Keep Messing Up the Same Stuff?

Our Relationship With Gratitude

Gratitude is one of the few positive emotions we can practice on purpose. Chris and Alison explore how intentionally noticing what is good can help shift our mindset and balance the brain’s natural focus on what’s wrong. Because gratitude doesn’t remove pain, but it does make sure pain isn’t the only thing our brain sees.

Why Do I Keep Messing Up the Same Stuff?

In this episode, Chris and Alison explore how the different “parts” of our personality influence the choices we make. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS), they talk about learning to recognize the motives behind our actions and understanding the parts of ourselves that show up in difficult moments. They also reflect on the importance of self-compassion, because while we all make mistakes, they don't define who we are.

The Loneliness Epidemic

Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. Sometimes it can exist even in the middle of relationships. In this episode, Chris and Alison explore the growing loneliness epidemic and the surprising ways it shows up in our lives. They unpack how it’s possible to feel more alone in a relationship than when you’re single, and why meaningful connection requires more than simply being around other people. They also discuss the challenges of making friendships as adults, the importance of shared interests in building connection, and why learning to turn toward others instead of away can make a powerful difference when someone is feeling lonely.

What to Do When Someone You Know Is Suicidal

In this episode, Chris and Alison talk about the role relationships play in mental health and suicide prevention. They explore how to recognize signs of distress, why asking hard questions matters, and how honest conversations can create space for healing. Chris also reads an excerpt from his new book!

Supporting Your Teens & Relational Attention

In this Episode, Chris and Alison share insights on adolescent mental health, the importance of relational attention, and navigating the challenges of parenting teenagers. They explore the nuances of therapy, the impact of attention, and practical ways to support youth through difficult times.