Do NOTHING for men | Machiavelli vs Patriarchy Ep. 1

Do NOTHING for men | Machiavelli vs Patriarchy Ep. 1

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. Welcome to the first episode of Machiavelli vs Patriarchy. In this series, I decode The Prince, one of the most controversial texts in history, to help women flip the patriarchy on its head. In this episode, I discuss the Machiavellian strategy of why we should never build up another person and apply it to relationship dynamics with men. xoxoxo Neekolo Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:22 What Machiavelli says 7:33 Why being in love makes you stupid 11:36 The sneaky way we're socialized 19:46 Why you've been doing too much for men If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Music credit © Chœur des Marais, Villefranche sur Saône, Fr Episodes mentioned: * Is falling in love a patriarchal trap? (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/2X9eYl5vSMMTcbWhGEjtqO?si=omAAdOTOQNeoehUqg72Kog] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000719742112])  * Patriarchy Hack #32: Stop trying to be understood by everyone (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/3ybagB8nOmVbaygCIXS29s?si=0dcd3a4ddf674e7b] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000752995030])  * Patriarchy Hack #35: Never do anything with the expectation of gratitude (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/4QSYLG0mlotH1fu3z08WIv?si=8697a5e5cf904f74] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000770882212]) __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Stop giving people the benefit of the doubt

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. First things first, make sure to watch until the VERY END of the episode...you'll know what I mean. Second of all, the benefit of the doubt is a way we've normalized gaslighting ourselves. We dismiss our intuition, which patriarchy deems un-empirical and unreliable, and give people chances they don't deserve. Rinse and repeat until we get burned enough times that we finally stop.  Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 1:23 We've glorified gaslighting ourselves 9:58 We act like doormats  16:49 The bad habits holding you back If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: * There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/50Z203JobQ0gguhVc7qKGL?si=dLLDhJhWSuGacYt8C-yKCg] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000773061602])  * Everything you need to know about your menstrual cycle & how to sync it with your life (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/3WpVnVUGUnRPHbJFynbx7X?si=y1_aI_swSUaqQ5MnDFl4dg] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000751325733]) * "Treat people how you want to be treated" is a scam (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5P8ASkAeyjOKyxI9Arrqr6?si=f13H7eFuRyWsgxbanUDcbA] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000768676536]) * Girly law of power #21: Stop giving the benefit of the doubt (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/6nzJX6nYVRDzPXxSbTPMOB?si=3f30a1659b3042b3] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000716427666]) __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

Patriarchy Hack #36: Avoid nostalgia like the plague

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. Patriarchy fetishizes youth and disdains aging. On top of that, it also functions based on zero-sum thinking: that for you to succeed, someone else has to lose. Although these sound like a load of baloney, we're all mirroring these patriarchal mindsets.   That, in turn, keeps us in a debilitating cycle of nostalgia. We romanticize the past and become mentally stuck in a location we physically left. In this episode, we’ll discuss: * The patriarchal mindsets engrained in us * 4 things to unlearn so we stop romanticizing the past * How Charli XCX didn't let brat nostalgia dictate her career * 7 effective behaviours of forward-looking people The past is dead, the future is unborn, and the only thing alive is the present.   ✨ Hope you love it and can use this law to make your dreams come true. You are the baddest bitch in the building. Love, Neeki Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 2:05 How we mirror the patriarchy 7:23 4 bad habits to unlearn 18:48 Example- Charli XCX & brat 25:38 Your 7 new habits 36:39 Exceptions & final thoughts If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: * Why the biological clock is a damaging patriarchal myth (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lvBjyuaaLzqXGXHu4dIkN?si=iM9WyDurTsmfyfq9PdkJ8w] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000746962469])  2016 collage in thumbnail created by Hannah Bell, Creative Director at The Concordian __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

The 5 habits that trigger people to lose respect for you

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚There are 20 other habits to unlearn, habits that the patriarchy groomed into you. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. No self-improvement journey is complete without unlearning our internalized patriarchy. This doesn't only manifest itself as macro-level behaviours, like being a huge pick me. Some habits are so subtle, they're almost hidden within our subconscious... Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 3:32 1- Saying "sorry" instead of "thank you" 10:19 2- Not ending your sentences 17:39 3- Using qualifiers to soften your contribution 23:29 4- Taking yourself too seriously  30:12 5- Being overly reactive If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Episodes mentioned: Life in a patriarchy is a game, and it’s time to win (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5rpc4KQdqlxDeXWouiOl4Q?si=J4r-YJzfRZCyuZv3uiQ6xw] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000761449785])  The ultimate revenge: The psychological power of being unbothered (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/51oVtwJXDxG9nyErZAYXbW?si=52XTXqM0QpmVGZuRd_0mww] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000767513443]) Patriarchy Hack #33: Trigger people’s need to prove themselves to you (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/1N495awM6rOAjGWEar2AeG?si=R1VXtS6dT2qw7zd40BWH0g] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000758573276]) Patriarchy Hack #Hack 34: Never argue, make them look stupid instead (listen on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/5hMcDCjX9dMiJpdmu1x6Ql?si=3hA-J3ZkRXuPz9p0p38wqw] or Apple [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000766369558]) __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.

There's an entire side of patriarchy you know nothing about

🩷 Love the show? Join the Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding]! 📚 Read more about 20 ways to unlearn how the patriarchy groomed us. Get a digital or signed copy of How to Hack the Patriarchy here [https://payhip.com/b/HMZam], shipped directly from me. You can also purchase on Amazon [https://mybook.to/AmRLBu] or get a PDF or EPUB file [https://payhip.com/howtohackthepatriarchy]. Free preview available here [https://payhip.com/baddestbinthebldg]. The patriarchy is a textbook example of the law of inversion: what we see isn't the truth, it's a defence mechanism. In fact, the entire system is an institutionalized defence mechanism of Venus/womb envy and it's governed by slave morality (hi, Nietzsche). Flip what it tells you and that's when you get the truth.  In this episode, I'll discuss 5 examples of how the patriarchy hides the truth in plain sight. I encourage you to do the same with anything presented to you as "truth" or "nature." Make sure to watch until the end to see a little satirical skit of the patriarchy's first PR meeting BTW you can listen to my episode the biological clock as a patriarchal myth on Spotify [https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lvBjyuaaLzqXGXHu4dIkN?si=tMfS5k8hQOaCOb-5Si6ASw], Apple Podcasts [https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/the-baddest-bitch-in-the-building/id1746633006?i=1000746962469], or YouTube [https://youtu.be/EekovTmYVdc] <3 Timestamps: 0:00 Intro 8:29 Lie 1- Women are naturally nurturing 11:25 Lie 2- Men are dominant because they're stronger 15:06 Lie 3- Women only have worth when they're of service 19:49 Lie 4- Men are scarce 26:56 Lie 5- The default is male If you get ads at the beginning of this episode, add ~3 minutes to the timestamps Sources: * It’s Hard Work Being a Boy (and, It Turns Out, a Girl) [https://biomedicalodyssey.blogs.hopkinsmedicine.org/2017/09/its-hard-work-being-a-boy-and-it-turns-out-a-girl/] * Male vs. Female Development [https://lozierinstitute.org/dive-deeper/male-vs-female-development/] * Sex Begins in the Womb [https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK222286/#:~:text=All%20human%20individuals%E2%80%94whether%20they,same%20and%20are%20phenotypically%20female.] __________ 🎙️ About the podcast: The patriarchy is starting to crumble, but sadly it probably won't be fully dismantled in our lifetime. In this podcast, I help women exploit the system's loopholes while finding the hidden ways the patriarchy conditions us to leak our power. Because guess what? Power isn't given, it's either taken or created. And it's time to take back the power the patriarchy stole from us. 👸 About Neeki: I earned my Bachelor’s in Public Policy with High Distinction and went on to complete my Master’s in Political Science, both at the University of Toronto. I've been invited to present my research on how underdogs build and leverage power at conferences across North America. Before launching this podcast, I worked in management consulting, advising senior executives at some of Canada’s largest companies. __________ * 🌸 IG⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.instagram.com/baddestbinthebldg/]: @baddestbinthebldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠💓 ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok⁠:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.tiktok.com/@baddest.b.in.the.bldg?_t=ZM-8tdb16EQvnp&_r=1] @baddest.b.in.the.bldg * ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCm9LdGqsvsNOwG90mN4SEUw]💘 Collabs/partnerships: neeki@biggestbaddie.com * 🔐 Unlock bonus episodes & join our private community on Patreon [https://www.patreon.com/c/BaddestBitchintheBuilding] * 💌 Subscribe to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Baddie Brief⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ [https://thebadddestb-inthebldg.kit.com/b6fc55a0f4], a 1-minute read to give you a little reminder of a hack from one of the girly laws (that you prob forgot), delivered twice monthly on Fridays ---------------------------------------- Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy [https://acast.com/privacy] for more information.