An honest conversation about fatherhood (still figuring it out)

BEFORE the discipline, there was SURVIVAL MODE

If you’re a father looking for a space to show up honestly, connect with other men, and work on becoming the man your family needs, you’re welcome to check out The Soil Brotherhood. 👉🏾 Join here: https://tinyurl.com/thesoilbrotherhood [https://tinyurl.com/thesoilbrotherhood]––––––––––In this conversation I sit down with Raymond, a father, personal trainer, and nutrition coach whose journey started long before the discipline people see today.Before the fitness, before the coaching, before the hybrid races, there was a version of him that was in survival mode.Raymond shares what it was like growing up as the heavier kid, how certain experiences shaped the way he protected himself, and how loss, responsibility, and reflection eventually pushed him toward change.We sit down and talk about his transformation, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally, and how becoming healthier changed the way he shows up as a father, coach, and man.Not to say this is what every father’s journey should look like, but to show how discipline, self awareness, and doing the work can help you become the kind of man your family can feel and rely on.

An honest conversation about fatherhood (still figuring it out)

If you’re a father looking for a space to show up honestly, connect with other men, and work on becoming the man your family needs, you’re welcome to check out The Soil Brotherhood. 👉🏾 Join here: https://tinyurl.com/thesoilbrotherhood––––––––––If you’re a father trying to figure it out while carrying the responsibility of leading a family, then this episode is for you. This is the first time I sat down with another father on the podcast… and not just any father, but someone I’ve known for over 25 years. From teenagers to fathers, we’ve shared a lot of life, but we had never actually talked like this before. No script, just an honest conversation about what fatherhood really feels like, what we’re still learning, and the kind of men we’re trying to become. Not to say this is how it should be done, but to show what it looks like when fathers create space to reflect, to speak openly, and to keep doing the work… even while still figuring it out.

I FINALLY see my father as a man... and NOT just my dad

If you’re a father looking for a space to show up honestly, connect with other men, and work on becoming the man your family needs, you’re welcome to check out The Soil Brotherhood.👉🏾 Join here: https://tinyurl.com/thesoilbrotherhood [https://tinyurl.com/thesoilbrotherhood]––––––––––If you’re a father trying to make sense of your relationship with your own father… then this episode is for you.Lately, I’ve been sitting with something that’s been shifting how I see my dad.Not just as my father…but as a man.A man who was trying to figure life out.A man who was carrying responsibility, pressure, and expectations…and doing the best he could with what he knew at the time.I speak directly to him.Not from a place of blame…but from a place of understanding, appreciation, and growth.

The version of me my kids DON'T need anymore

If you’re a father looking for a space to show up honestly, connect with other men, and work on becoming the man your family needs, you’re welcome to check out The Soil Brotherhood.👉🏾 Join here: https://tinyurl.com/thesoilbrotherhood––––––––––There’s a version of you that helped you survive. But that doesn’t mean it’s the version your kids need now.In this episode, I share the truth about the older version of me... the one built from observation, silence, insecurity, and protection.Not to shame him.But to outgrow him.I touched on:-What I learned about masculinity growing up (without intentional guidance)-How I unknowingly built strength around survival-When I learned to hide how I felt, and-The prompt exercise that changed how I see fatherhoodBecause being a better father doesn’t start with perfection.It starts with awareness.And then a choice.

Self Love DIDN'T make sense to me as a father... but Self-Maintenance did!

If you’re a father looking for a space to show up honestly, connect with other men, and work on becoming the man your family needs, you’re welcome to check out The Soil Brotherhood.👉🏾 Join here: https://tinyurl.com/thesoilbrotherhood––––––––––If you’re a father who’s ever heard the phrase “love yourself” and quietly thought,What does that even mean for me? ...then this episode is for you.For a long time, self-love never made sense to me.It sounded abstract. Soft. Disconnected from responsibility, leadership, and being a provider.In this episode I unpack why I believe many men, especially fathers, struggle with the concept of self-love. And it's not because we’re incapable of it, but because it was never translated to us in a language we understand.I touch base on...-how personal development actually pushed me further away from self-love at one point-the reframe that finally made it click (not as a feeling, but as self-maintenance)-why the way we treat ourselves quietly teaches our kids how to treat themselves, and-five grounded, practical ways fathers can take better care of themselves without guilt or shameThis isn’t about becoming softer.It’s about becoming more sustainable for yourself, and for the people who depend on you.